This post falls into the "read about it awhile ago, bookmarked the article, found it again & it still steamed me up so I thought I'd blog about it" category. Although, in Googling the subject for fodder, I found out that there's a recent JLo/Marc Anthony connection that makes it sort of a timely subject again. ; )
I think most of us who have struggled with loss & infertility would agree that there is no greater gift we'd rather receive than a baby.
However, apparently a baby is not enough for some women these days. They are hinting/demanding/expecting that their husbands present them with a gift after the delivery of the child. Usually/preferably an expensive piece of jewelry. It's called -- get this -- a "push present" or "push prize" (ugh ugh ugh) or "baby bauble."
Here are some of the articles I had bookmarked on the subject:
The New York Times: A Bundle of Joy Isn't Enough?
The Globe & Mail: Push, push (and I'll buy you a pendant)
An earlier Globe article on the same subject that I found on a separate website.
When dh's cousin's wife had their first baby back in 1991, I remember her showing me a beautiful watch that she said her hubby had brought to her in the hospital as a gift. I thought it was a nice gesture, but I had never heard of buying presents for the mother before that. I wondered if maybe it was an Italian cultural thing. Or maybe a Toronto thing. ; )
Apparently, JLo's "push present" from Marc Anthony, following the birth of their twins, was a pair of diamond earrings, worth a cool $2.6 million. Or an 8 carat diamond canary ring worth a mere $300,000, depending on which account you believe. Apparently "Marc wanted to give her something to remember the day by." Like the twins aren't enough to prod her memory??
I mean, I will never turn down diamonds (or any other present that dh wants to give me...!). ; ) But to demand/expect a "gift" as your "right/reward" for "presenting" your husband with a baby? What marketing genius thought this one up?