Wednesday, April 29, 2009

Article: "Too Many Ways to Have a Baby?"

Lisa Belkin's Motherlode blog at the New York Times asks the question today, "Too Many Ways to Have a Baby?" and "where is the line between reasonable and too much, and how do you know when you've reached it?"

101 reader comments (and counting...!)... with the usual share of "why don't they just adopt?"s, but also some thought-provoking points and personal stories.


  1. sigh. i'm not sure i have the stamina to read this one...but i'll bookmark this post for a later date.

  2. I saw that headline, and just knew the comments would be loaded with people who think it's the responsibility of infertile families to adopt the world's orphans. They obviously bear zero responsibility in this problem, what with their working ovaries and all.

    I just quickly scanned the comments and . . . . yup.

  3. Actually, I was surprised how many positive comments there were, or at least neutral/curious ones. Sure, the usual parade of stupid cliches about the apocryphal billions of unwanted children languishing and crying for homes was there, but lots of other, more nuanced and thoughtful posts.

    I think we may gradually be able to budge the reasonable majority of people to have a bit more compassion and understanding...

    Okay, maybe I'm jumping the gun here...

  4. Your response there definitely falls into the "nuanced & thoughtful" category, Shinejil! : )

  5. There were a lot more compassionate comments than I expected. And of course the adopt the orphans - from people who have absolutely no idea of what they are talking about..... cause all kids are interchangeable... and it's all SO easy, donchta know. Oh, well. Reminds me of that V8 commercial, oh, wait I should have had a surrogate.