Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Better late than never...

Mother's Day is over now for another year (thank goodness!!) but, in case you haven't seen them already, I wanted to share some links with you for some really great articles I've found over the past few days:
  • Anne Lamott -- who is a mother -- expounds on "Why I hate Mother's Day" at Great subheading: "It celebrates the great lie about women: That those with children are more important than those without." (Thanks to Janis at Ferdinand's Gifts for pointing this one out!)
  • From Serene Jones, President of Union Theological Seminary at Huffington Post: "Worst Expectations: Motherhood Lost." Sample quote: "...the strength of a community rests as much in its capacity to grieve as it does in its capacity to celebrate."
  • Actress, mother by adoption (& my fellow Manitoban) Nia Vardalos counsels (via Anderson Cooper's 360 blog on "If you don't have anything nice to say on Mother's Day..." Sample quote: "A small social guideline: don’t ask a woman if she is pregnant, unless her water breaks on your flip-flops, a baby arm dangles out of her vagina and she asks you to cut the cord. Then, and only then, may you ask if she is having a baby. Otherwise, shut up."
  • And finally, a blog post responding to the comments on Pamela Tsigdinos's New York Times guest post, "A Non-Mother's Day." Next time someone asks why you don't "just adopt," have them read this -- I think it says it all.


  1. Oh, thank you so much for discovering and posting links to these articles. So, much of it echoed my own thoughts, or gave fodder for considering a perspective I hadn't encountered before. Again, thanks.

  2. I had read the others, but not the Anne Lammott piece. I might have to post that on facebook...

  3. Thank you so much for posting these links.

  4. I read Anne Lammott's essay, too, and thought it was excellent.

  5. great articles, all of them! I definitely appreciate all the alternative viewpoints on this day. thanks for sharing!

  6. This wonderful collection of writings made the mother's day season much easier to bare. And thank you so much for sharing the final link, I hadn't seen that very important post. I was so happy to see a response to the horrible comments that Pamela's wonderful post received.

  7. As usual, you point me to some very interesting reads I would probably otherwise miss.

    I love the Anne Lamott piece. Even though I don't believe she experienced loss, she actually echos a lot of my feelings about the day.

    thank you, Loribeth