(I recently celebrated my 10-year blogoversary, & posted about it here! )(I've been struggling with pg loss & infertility for almost 20 years now.... blogs didn't exist back then, but I did find support in other online forums. Some of these thoughts would also apply to my experiences there.)
- There are certainly trolls online -- but there are also some very nice people out there. And some of them can wind up being your very good friends :) even though you've never met.
- You will never make everyone happy, so you might as well blog to please yourself.
- Your blog, your rules. :) It's nice if you make it clear somewhere on your blog -- in your "About" section or at the top of your post -- what new readers can generally expect, but don't feel the need to apologize for writing about your pregnancy, your hard-won family, or anything else.
- There will be dry spells when you have no ideas and/or no motivation to write. They will pass.
- Writing out your thoughts & feelings and organizing them into a cohesive, readable narrative (at least I hope it's cohesive & readable??) can definitely be therapeutic.
- Comments are gifts. (And gifts should be given, as well as received!)
- Even if you're not blogging under your own name & take precautions to remain anonymous, there's always the chance that someone you know is going to find your blog. (For me, the older I get and the longer I blog, the less I worry about that.)(I'm still not telling people I know about the blog, though, lol...)
- Leaving comments on WordPress when you blog on Blogger can be a real pain sometimes (even when you created a WordPress account specifically to make it easier to leave comments.). :( (If you blog on WordPress and you haven't heard from me lately, check your spam folder -- you may have comments from me languishing there...).
- There are not as many active bloggers in the ALI community as there were when I first started blogging... but that does not mean that blogs are passe, or that the support is not there. Some of it has just moved on to different forums (on Facebook & Twitter, for example). But if you're like me and find it difficult to contain your thoughts to 140 characters, you might want to consider blogging. ;)
- As I recently told Different Shores in a comment, I never would have imagined 10 years ago that I would still be blogging, 10 years later... but somehow I keep finding things to write about (albeit not all infertility & loss related). I will say that while there's still not a day that goes by that infertility, loss &/or childlessness don't pop up in some way, shape or form, there's a whole lot less angst that goes along with it. :) And that's a good feeling!
What have you learned from blogging (no matter how long you've been at it)?