tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post1018325538533542337..comments2024-03-26T08:06:19.661-04:00Comments on The Road Less Travelled: Shades of grey... on a sitcomloribethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-20979145564581689812011-12-12T12:06:52.493-05:002011-12-12T12:06:52.493-05:00It's not a show I watch. Just a comment thoug...It's not a show I watch. Just a comment though. It's funny how committed DH became once it became obvious that I wasn't getting pregnant. He didn't like having the choice removed from him any more than I did. Something about control, I'm sure. He was ambivalent for many years and now here he is - super daddy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-8135090127749984702011-12-08T21:21:38.796-05:002011-12-08T21:21:38.796-05:00I'm so glad you clued me in to this because I ...I'm so glad you clued me in to this because I saw that Twitter was all abuzz with the episode, though I'd never watched the show at all.<br /><br />SOunds like it was well done in so many ways.<br /><br />I like what you said: "It's one thing to say you don't want kids -- quite another to be told you won't be able to have them." It's about having choice.Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-6168771515308509232011-12-08T01:10:38.047-05:002011-12-08T01:10:38.047-05:00Thanks for posting abou this episode. I really af...Thanks for posting abou this episode. I really affected me too. I spent a good part of Tuesday morning combing for reviews about it and finally blogged about it myself. I found you from your comment!<br /><br />I too agree with Lori's comment and am bothered by the suggestion/expectation that women who don't have children should compensate for it by being super successful in their career or in other aspects of their life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-40197832604919245462011-12-07T20:09:43.526-05:002011-12-07T20:09:43.526-05:00I'm guessing they must have someone on the wri...I'm guessing they must have someone on the writing staff who has experienced IF. Don't forget that Lily & Marshal had fertility testing (and a reality check) after they didn't get a BFP right after they started trying. Both the Lily/Marshall storyline & Robin's lastnight were well written and totally realistic. It's an awesome show and they'll keep me as a fan by throwing reality in with the comedy & fiction (I mean who takes in a goat in a Manhattan appartment).Prairie Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00120059135715983181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-34504109172987617302011-12-07T15:53:59.255-05:002011-12-07T15:53:59.255-05:00Really good recap and points. And Lori's point...Really good recap and points. And Lori's point about the expectation of having a really exciting life if you are childfree is a good one. I'd never thought of that before. I will say that Robin's character has consistently been interested in the things listed that she eventually did (she dumped Ted because he wouldn't move to Argentina on a whim). But still.Jjiraffehttp://jjiraffe.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-52027956406563432682011-12-07T11:38:52.631-05:002011-12-07T11:38:52.631-05:00I love the show, although we usually only watch on...I love the show, although we usually only watch on reruns, so I didn't see this episode (but I went ahead and read the spoiler). : ) <br /><br />I agree with Lori's point about the pressure to have a more unconventional life if you are childfree/childless. The common cant is that you have more money and time for pleasures *outside* the home -- but nesting is for the breeding birds. You always demonstrate a different, and probably more realistic perspective and example. IMO it's a very pleasant one. : )Ellen K.http://www.southcitysadie.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-2944161439964228592011-12-07T11:19:04.092-05:002011-12-07T11:19:04.092-05:00I didn't watch that episode precisely because ...I didn't watch that episode precisely because of the preview/trailer which showed her having a positive pregnancy test. (I'm just not ready to deal with unplanned pregnancies, even in TV land). But now I kind of wish I would have. <br /><br />My aunt is childless, and I have always assumed (as did my mom, her sister) that it was by choice. Her husband had one son from a previous marriage who was 7 or 8 at the time they got married. He and my aunt get along, but have never had a parental relationship, if that makes sense. One of my mom's best friends from high school is also single and childless (she has three nieces whom she dotes on). So I grew up thinking it was perfectly normal for very nice, very fun grown ups not to have kids and instead take frequent vacations and buy us extravagant gifts. In fact, my aunt was more fun than most of the parents I knew. <br /><br />It never once occurred to me as a kid that she would be lonely or alone in old age, because of course her nieces and nephews would be there for her, and she has so many friends with whom they travel and do fun things. <br /><br />I realize now that their choice in life (if it was, in fact, a choice, which I sometimes wonder about now) is somewhat unusual, and I think my aunt would have made a great parent. But that's not the only way to have a family, and it's certainly not a safeguard against being alone.Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05946311309467296976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-10749323216935011482011-12-07T09:48:11.884-05:002011-12-07T09:48:11.884-05:00I cried.
I thought that they actually handled it...I cried. <br />I thought that they actually handled it pretty well in the end. They didn't do a schmaltzy everything works out, miracle pregnancy or anything like that. I was glad they left Robin as never becoming a mother, but nonetheless having a rewarding life that included loved ones.Kate Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03085332596007868197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-71594598873412089932011-12-07T08:54:00.409-05:002011-12-07T08:54:00.409-05:00I didn't watch it, but my Resolve support grou...I didn't watch it, but my Resolve support group meeting was last night and it came up in the discussion. A couple of people said that they were kind of blindsided by the story and just started bawling. Mainly because it's a comedy and they just want some mindless entertainment. <br /><br />Being alone is a big fear of mine. I know that having children won't guarantee that you won't be alone, but nevertheless it's a fear.<br /><br />www.brandysheaif.blogspot.comBrandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07806448864302671635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-8207054337291408832011-12-06T21:48:39.889-05:002011-12-06T21:48:39.889-05:00I didn't watch it when we always do. Watching...I didn't watch it when we always do. Watching the week before where she tells Barney she is pregnant just made me so mad....but I read your review and we have it to watch so maybe I will.<br /><br />I have to say that being alone is going to happen kids or not, I think. My grandma is in a nursing home and it kind of makes me really upset when my dad gets upset about his brothers and sisters not being there all the time. There are 11 of them. I think I have thought a million times "So, who in the world is going to visit me?" but I don't think I have said it to him out loud before. I have no nieces, no nephews. I have a sister who also couldn't have kids and waited for an adoption for 6 years and couldn't take the wait anymore. My brother also doesn't have kids. But for some reason the alone doesn't bother me. I think maybe it is because I have seen both of my grandma's be in retirement homes. You're surrounded there....all the time....I guess you just have to think that you'll be with other old people and not young people.....Even if you have kids you aren't going to always have visitors.Colleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03065822926290782641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-24158381711210881092011-12-06T21:31:07.222-05:002011-12-06T21:31:07.222-05:00I'm with you. I bawled at the lonely/alone pa...I'm with you. I bawled at the lonely/alone part of the plot. But I think what bothers me is the thought that if you are childfree, by choice or not, somehow your life has to be more interesting, your job and achievements more than the average "mom" person who can happily live a simple life being a mom to her kids. I don't have big bull fighting plans or huge career accomplishments I plan to pat myself on the back for, I just want a simple life like everyone else, yet childfree is always have to portrayed as somehow doing more to make up for not being a mom. That's the only part that bothers me.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14950667009108390498noreply@blogger.com