tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post208250262407375191..comments2024-03-26T08:06:19.661-04:00Comments on The Road Less Travelled: Worst. Christmas Party. Ever.loribethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-43695103774548826222013-06-27T12:25:21.956-04:002013-06-27T12:25:21.956-04:00That is awful. I can relate to the pain you feel. ...That is awful. I can relate to the pain you feel. They are in another world and can never even imagine how it must feel.Fryingpanorfirehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05630228121615226273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-25407735679423281412008-11-02T20:40:00.000-05:002008-11-02T20:40:00.000-05:00Holy shit...that is the Xmas party from hell. I c...Holy shit...that is the Xmas party from hell. I can't imagine the insensitivity. Thank you so much for sharing--I know I'm not the only one!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-59560951959681962922007-12-10T21:41:00.000-05:002007-12-10T21:41:00.000-05:00Aww! thank you all so much for the sympathy. I pro...Aww! thank you all so much for the sympathy. I probably should reinforce that this WAS nine years ago. Andie, there are still a few people around who would have been there (the boss I walked to the train station with, for one), but turnover being what it is, most of my present co-workers probably have no idea that I was ever pregnant, let alone went through a stillbirth. <BR/><BR/>The fact that I rarely attend office parties anymore, though, is testimony to the lingering effects of that night. (Although aging probably has a lot to do with it too, lol.) <BR/><BR/>Green Apple Cat, welcome & (((hugs))). And Ellen, so glad you had a friend who understands looking out for you.loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-74717453411170526762007-12-10T21:02:00.000-05:002007-12-10T21:02:00.000-05:00Oh, god, what a horrible night.....The worst part ...Oh, god, what a horrible night.....The worst part of your story was thinking of you in that cubicle, with no one giving a damn.....I understand that people often don't know what to say or how to repond to others' grief, but to do absolutely Nothing when someone is in such obvious pain is just inexcusable. I'm so very sorry you had to deal with that alone. <BR/><BR/>I can't help but send some *hugs*deannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05208971949811803163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-29704723212950940032007-12-10T15:44:00.000-05:002007-12-10T15:44:00.000-05:00How awful :-(How awful :-(Drowned Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07930956007436787200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-10239897022507762702007-12-10T14:55:00.000-05:002007-12-10T14:55:00.000-05:00Why are people so clueless? It makes me sad that ...Why are people so clueless? It makes me sad that no one came to check on you. Being aware of others feelings is a pretty basic skill, come on!!ms. Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263348912679823512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-38851966233962668822007-12-10T09:47:00.000-05:002007-12-10T09:47:00.000-05:00Holy crap. How awful. That's the kind of painful m...Holy crap. How awful. That's the kind of painful memory that stays with you forever.<BR/><BR/>At my book club holiday party last year, a woman who hadn't been to club all year showed up with her 5-week-old daughter (who had an awesome literary icon name, damn it) and then proceeded to breastfeed her at the party. I could hear the little suckling and mewing sounds beneath the blanket. Most of the other members are middle aged or older, so the fuss over this baby was tremendous and of the grandmotherly type. A friend who is my age and is herself is the child of IF -- she was born after 8 years of TTC, and her twin sister died at birth -- made sure that I was OK and kept my wine glass filled. My hands were too shaky. It really helped to have her by my side. I'm sorry you were so completely alone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-81927692587158462622007-12-10T05:19:00.000-05:002007-12-10T05:19:00.000-05:00Hi Loribeth,I was just surfing the net and stumble...Hi Loribeth,<BR/><BR/>I was just surfing the net and stumbled across your blog. My baby boy was born at 22 weeks this past May. He died a few hours after birth. We have also suffered 2 miscarriages. When I was pregnant there were 4 other women in my department who were also. Of course they all got their babies. The one that was due 2 weeks after my baby was supposed to be born, came back to work today. Her little girl is nearly 3 months old. It hurts like hell having to listen to her describe how tired she is and listen to everyone comment on how fantastic she looks. The other 2 women brought their babies into work and I was actually called into the tearoom by someone else to "come look at the babies". I just took off and found a spot to cry and cry. People just don't understand what it is like. To be a mother and to have your child die is something that you can never get over. It's been a bad day for me. I know I'm green with envy about her baby girl and it's probably wrong to be jealous. Thanks for sharing, it makes me realise that its ok to have these feelings and I'm not the only one. Thank you.Green Apple Cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02822103872168537332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-32050777161534639092007-12-09T21:47:00.000-05:002007-12-09T21:47:00.000-05:00That is incredibly indescribably painful. I can't...That is incredibly indescribably painful. I can't imagine how they can be so thoughtless, clueless, and unempathetic. do you still work with these morons? I sure hope not.<BR/><BR/>AndieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-74366382936116232332007-12-09T20:41:00.000-05:002007-12-09T20:41:00.000-05:00OH MY GOD! I thought it was bad when I started rea...OH MY GOD! I thought it was bad when I started reading but it just kept getting worse and worse. I'm amazed you survived. I'm thinking they would have required a straight jacket for me. Wow. Definitely worst Christmas party ever.Pamela T.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11474998003921896431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-4565889425717068922007-12-09T14:36:00.000-05:002007-12-09T14:36:00.000-05:00Yep, that would be an awful Christmas party. I'm s...Yep, that would be an awful Christmas party. I'm sorry. There are some insensitive people out there, aren't there? Sigh....Aureliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13691032415028867902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-54874346444393112122007-12-09T12:28:00.000-05:002007-12-09T12:28:00.000-05:00Who could blame you for lacking the love for holid...Who could blame you for lacking the love for holiday parties. I can't believe she brought the baby knowing you would be there. I also can't believe no one had the sense to warn you. Worse yet that none of them followed you to the bathroom for support. I wonder if they know how horrible that was for you. Probably not, right?Irish Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13222992447645337845noreply@blogger.com