tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post2465322187979743357..comments2024-03-26T08:06:19.661-04:00Comments on The Road Less Travelled: #LuckyGirl? loribethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-15841847152513359902015-09-25T06:25:48.135-04:002015-09-25T06:25:48.135-04:00So much of what's been said here (and in the c...So much of what's been said here (and in the comments) remind me why I'm really happy I am not really a user of social media. A fellow babyloss friend likened facebook to one of those cocktail parties where everyone's dressed to impress, shallow, competative, and unfortunately I think that's largely true. I left shortly after my first loss and don't regret the choice for a second. While I appreciate the idea of talking openly and reducing stigma or taboo around important topics like IF or pregnancy loss, it feels to me like on social media these outreaches rarely translate into walking the walk; I like that word 'slacktivism'! I don't know, I realise I'm in a small minority and something of a dinosaur, but I just feel human interaction was so much better off before the advent of social media. <br />Thanks for a thought-provoking post and discussion! Sadiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14325203869605294768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-79701634026163099232015-09-23T14:47:21.994-04:002015-09-23T14:47:21.994-04:00I have so many issues with the word "blessed&...I have so many issues with the word "blessed" (mostly because I feel like there's this implication of spiritual favoritism that I can't stand), even though I know people who say it are generally coming from a good place. The whole share or not to share stuff is why I quit facebook. I've always thought of it as a cocktail party--if you wouldn't talk about it at a cocktail party, you shouldn't air it on facebook. Like, these are the unspoken rules to follow. I hated things like the "RIP Coach" facebook thing someone started when a coach from my high school died. It just felt so insincere to me, by virtue of being on facebook, I guess. But I don't really feel that way anymore--I admire people who are honest and willing to share real things in their lives--like a miscarriage--in spite of the fact that it makes a lot of people feel awkward/uncomfortable. Hashtag mybabydied is a tricky thing to navigate online and off.Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05946311309467296976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-90055381758830404032015-09-23T07:13:53.675-04:002015-09-23T07:13:53.675-04:00I think I'm somewhere in between; I don't ...I think I'm somewhere in between; I don't airbrush but I definitely don't let it all hang out. I haven't shared anything about infertility on social media because frankly I haven't really been strong enough to converse about it in a public forum. Also, it's so personal and involves hubs as well.<br /><br />I hate that people can't/don't/won't be real on social media though. Life isn't all rainbows, unicorns, and glitter and it should be ok to share the difficult parts of your life without fear of being accused of oversharing.<br /><br />Which makes me think about how if somebody writes on Facebook that they are being tested for cancer or undergoing treatment for it, the comments are an outpouring of sympathy, empathy, and love. But when a person shares about infertility they are bombarded with unsolicited advice, etc. Ugh.BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-23312441455104943212015-09-23T07:05:44.357-04:002015-09-23T07:05:44.357-04:00Yes, I agree it's a fine line. I posters about...Yes, I agree it's a fine line. I posters about this some time ago - that I find the "I'm blessed" comments to be bit like humble bragging, pointing out that they're blessed and I'm not! <br /><br />I don't post a lot on Fb, and I try not to complain - not because I want to pretend my life is perfect, but because I know I have it good compared to some friends and family. Still, like you I do want to speak out occasionally, about not having kids - I want people to think about it, but at the same time I don't want pity. It's an uneasy balance.<br /><br />PS I think you should comment occasionally that you appreciate not getting up at 5 am. I don't know how you did that for so many years!Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-82555221074708533002015-09-23T03:44:08.172-04:002015-09-23T03:44:08.172-04:00To be honest, I sometimes think Facebook was one o...To be honest, I sometimes think Facebook was one of the worst things to happen to the internet. Most people know my absolute loathing for that place and I won't go anywhere near it. <br /><br />I really don't know why people feel the need to present a successful image to the world. I would rather know a person, good bits and bad because both bits make them who they are. <br /><br />I'm glad you said that you still talk about subjects that are taboo. I think more people should talk about them because it's the only way to spread knowledge on certain issues. For instance, I wish more people spoke out about miscarriage and what it involved because I honestly felt so freaked out when I was told I would be having one and there was not a lot of information out there about it. Same with infertility. I didn't even know about it until I started trying for a baby and started on the long ivf journey. Again, more people need to bring this awareness out there, taboo or not, knowledge is better shared than kept private. Maybe it'll prevent someone from feeling like they are utterly alone in this whole thing.<br /><br />The only "social media" I frequent is blogs. And I have never felt the need to airbrush my life. Good things happen, bad things happen and sometimes there is more bad than good and vice versa. It's just life in all its stark reality. Why try to put rose tinted glasses on it?<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-76854318291886315692015-09-23T03:25:37.936-04:002015-09-23T03:25:37.936-04:00Agree fully. It is definitely a fine line between ...Agree fully. It is definitely a fine line between sharing versus oversharing. I've always had a hate-and-love relationship with Facebook (oftentimes more hate than love), though I also cherish the fact that it allows me to connect with some people easier than in other method of communication. I've actually not thought about how other people view my FB version of myself, but someone told me this: "Make social media work for you" and I've tried my best to do so. <br /><br />I do share infertility-related stuff whenever I find something good, but these days it's more about sharing with my kind of people (I've got quite some friends who're CNBCers in FB) than about enlightening the public. Most days I don't care what the public thinks whenever I share that kind of post.<br /><br />That said, though, I've deleted most of my travel albums. Now that my mom's on WhatsApp, I can share our travel photos with her via WA and I still blog about my trips in my main blog (as my own diary). Funnily enough, in contrast with infertility-related posts, I am worried that my travel photos can induce envy in people, but the main reason I deleted them was because I rarely got any comments anyway even after making the album limited for only selected people (and in turn it made me envious because I could see how other people's kiddos stuff/photos always garnered a lot of comments). Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.com