tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post4788054744754345679..comments2024-03-26T08:06:19.661-04:00Comments on The Road Less Travelled: Marriage, parenting and what "family" looks like loribethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-81972366040366443532014-10-05T12:55:05.823-04:002014-10-05T12:55:05.823-04:00I see this SO much these days:
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But there c...I see this SO much these days:<br /><br />"<br />But there can be a price to pay: "Couples who live entirely child-centric lives can lose touch with one another to the point where they have nothing left to say to one another when the kids leave home." " <br /><br />I enjoy observing others and I notice in family members this happening. R's cousin, who lives in same town, and I notice this with him and his wife. They have 3 kids, different parenting styles, his wife is hyper focused on the kids and they are both career focused. I know they have date nights and what not, but in general do not seem to spend much time together nor to be on the same page about a lot of things. I do wonder what they will do when the kids leave. They are open a branch of 4 year university here now, and they have been saying to the kids "oh you and just stay here and go to school." Often my friends with kids can't believe that R and I sit around together every evening - without the TV on most of the time - and talk to each other. I have noticed in the friends I have who can't have children that the couples are usually much closer and happier with each other. I think overcoming tests together and having the space to focus on each other definitely can lead to a healthier, happier marriage and family. (because 2 people are a family!)nicolehttp://nicoleciomek.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-18681072515993828212014-10-05T11:46:29.037-04:002014-10-05T11:46:29.037-04:00Recently an acquaintance of mine told me that afte...Recently an acquaintance of mine told me that after 22 years, her and her husband were divorcing - right after their daughter left for university. Now I have to admit that I was pretty certain that would happen to us if we didn't work on our marriage. 20Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-86319226473736894222014-10-04T08:32:22.010-04:002014-10-04T08:32:22.010-04:00I was babysitting my two nieces a week ago. We wer...I was babysitting my two nieces a week ago. We were out, on a playground when the girls had a brilliant idea that they are so big (5 and 6) that they don't need babysitting. <br /><br />So the oldest said to me: "Go home to your family and wait for us there." <br /><br />I found it great, their fight for independence (obviously they did not get rid of me). But I really wanted to know what my niece had in mind by "your family". I asked her what did she think by "my family". <br /><br />Reply of my niece was: "Well, your husband, of course." <br /><br />I could have kissed her right there! She is only 6 and for her is normal, that my family means me and my DH. Klarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17028863974858724867noreply@blogger.com