tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post597183383396990348..comments2024-03-26T08:06:19.661-04:00Comments on The Road Less Travelled: Article: "My scattered grandchildren"loribethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-57469666032878663402009-09-18T08:44:15.178-04:002009-09-18T08:44:15.178-04:00That's a really good article. My mom has huge ...That's a really good article. My mom has huge reservations about donating gametes -- the "grandchild out there" idea discussed here.Ellen K.http://southcitysadie.typepad.com/miss_e_musings/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-38156532871120934162009-09-16T11:35:49.328-04:002009-09-16T11:35:49.328-04:00Very interesting, although now that I'm nearly...Very interesting, although now that I'm nearly 8 months pregnant with donor sperm, I'm going to skip the comments - I've got plenty of thoughts spinning through my mind at the moment. <br /><br />I had never thought of this in terms of the donor we chose, but this was a major reason why we did not choose to go with a known donor, which had been my preference at the very beginning. I can think of quite a few men I would ask to be donors and I think it would be mostly ok to negotiate a relationship with them, but the idea of having a third set of grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. - all of them quite possibly laying claim to our child and wanting a close relationship with them - it was just too much for me. I plan to be open with our child or children about their conception stories, and I would like them to meet or at least have contact with the donor and his family eventually. But growing up with all of that seems like it could be overwhelming and confusing - for a child and for me. I know it can work in open adoptions, but for some reason I feel there is something different about it when it comes to gamete donation - probably the fact that donation is less understood and accepted and more shrouded in secrecy than adoption at this point. I'm hopeful this will change in the future, though!<br /><br />Thanks as always for posting, Loribeth! You always make me think.annacyclopediahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10461037288546901657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-79167103849311018972009-09-16T09:03:13.898-04:002009-09-16T09:03:13.898-04:00Interesting article! I considered donating eggs wh...Interesting article! I considered donating eggs when I was in my early 20s to a couple I knew who were having trouble conceiving with her eggs. They hinted around about wanting to use mine. I never offered and they went with an anonymous donor. Sometimes I wonder "what if" ... maybe I'd have found out about my DOR diagnosis then, maybe I'd have helped them have their child/ren, maybe I would regret it. I can see how my parents would feel sad now if I'd donated but never had kids of my own.Irish Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13222992447645337845noreply@blogger.com