tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post6046033650345423034..comments2024-03-26T08:06:19.661-04:00Comments on The Road Less Travelled: "When Do You Stop Trying to Have a Child?" loribethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-4610147009274576292018-04-16T14:20:20.446-04:002018-04-16T14:20:20.446-04:00Thank you so much for those kind words! -- you mad...Thank you so much for those kind words! -- you made my day! :) I too love Jody & GW -- she is amazing & her blog & book are must-reads for those of us living without the children we wanted. :) loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-50622640185803252672018-04-16T09:35:30.296-04:002018-04-16T09:35:30.296-04:00The article is just so typical. How many journalis...The article is just so typical. How many journalists end up skirting around the real heartbreak of being childless by circumstance, preferring instead to write something with a 'happy ending'. I have been much comforted by the writings of Jody Day, and of her Gateway Women group. Take a look https://gateway-women.com/.<br />PS Just came across your blog by chance - so heartening to read your words, and find that we have much in common. Keep writing - you are enlightening like-minded souls.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10063712837691270791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-82392165620978704932018-04-09T17:08:45.334-04:002018-04-09T17:08:45.334-04:00I notice they have changed the headline in the onl...I notice they have changed the headline in the online version. ;) It now reads, "We Were Ready to Give Up on a Second Baby Until a ‘Miracle’ Arrived." More than 100 comments now, and a surprising number who feel as I did, noting the disconnect between the headline & the actual story. Guess that's why they changed it. <br /><br />Also amusing/eyerolling to see how many commenters took the author to task for failing to pursue adoption...! The usual number of "think of the planet" people. And also a good number who had opinions on single children...! <br /><br />I was also glad to see someone in the comments taking to task the idea that all it took was a "just relax" vacation, and voila! Baby! :p loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-82239361367025383272018-04-07T20:20:58.183-04:002018-04-07T20:20:58.183-04:00You’re not bitter!! And I think Brian’s comment is...You’re not bitter!! And I think Brian’s comment is spot on!!! The truth is there is so little coverage about people who stopped without getting to the chance to parent and go on to lead amazing lives. Yet there’s a fear there about this road that I think is long overdue to squash. <br /><br />My question for this author is: given what you now know, does this open your eyes about who’s who are not parenting? Does it help you dash some of the myths and assumptions? Does this experience make you realize this entire process is far more complex than society portrays it to be?Cristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-76732711810600270812018-04-07T02:04:30.721-04:002018-04-07T02:04:30.721-04:00You inspired me. Thanks! https://nokiddinginnz.blo...You inspired me. Thanks! https://nokiddinginnz.blogspot.co.nz/2018/04/childless-success-stories-revisited-our.html<br />Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-80210844502925492352018-04-07T00:04:50.020-04:002018-04-07T00:04:50.020-04:00Ugh. Stupid article. I'm gearing up for a post...Ugh. Stupid article. I'm gearing up for a post on No Kidding about "success stories" after a comment on a (non-ALI) blog recently, and this is just adding fuel to my fire!<br /><br />This family never had to deal with when to stop trying. They might have been ready, but until you face that time, all the hypotheticals in the world ("we were ready to give up" when clearly they weren't quite there yet) don't allow for exactly what it feels like when the door is closed. Grrr.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-14357189601318622022018-04-06T17:40:40.893-04:002018-04-06T17:40:40.893-04:00AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA...AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA! Oh, man. That makes me real mad, because it is incredibly insensitive to put a title like that up and then have the message be, "oh, never, because if you go to Bali and try just one more time, you'll GET your baby!" Total suckerpunch. I love those comments you saw. Good for them, calling NYT out. I swear, I saw one after another of these stories that were "we just thought it would never happen...AND THEN IT DID! BOOYEAH!" Okay, maybe no booyeah. But that's what it feels like. And then you feel so unrepresented, even more like the little Match Girl on the outside of the glass, looking in on the party, slowly freezing to death. Ouch. I guess I'm a little bitter today too! I'm with you, lady. SO with you. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.com