tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post6832645914224330228..comments2024-03-26T08:06:19.661-04:00Comments on The Road Less Travelled: "So, what do you do all day?" loribethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-33582173913710016082014-10-18T13:15:26.732-04:002014-10-18T13:15:26.732-04:00Awesome post. I have been pondering all you wrote ...Awesome post. I have been pondering all you wrote and the articles you linked to for a while. People often ask that of me since I work from home. People seem to think that if you work from home, you don't do anything. Well, seeing as how I'm self employed and the bread winner - I do quite a lot! But people always say "oh that must be nice you have so much free time!" and yes, I do have a lot more flexibility and no crappy commuting and all that good stuff. But, I also have to do a lot of other things that people who work for someone else don't have to do - like accounting & billing, bothering people to pay me, searching for new work, promoting my business, etc etc etc. So, all that glorious free time people imagine I have doesn't really exist. It is hard for a lot of people to step outside their own shoes and imagine what someone else's life may be like. I never realized until recently how hard that is for most people. nicolehttp://nicoleciomek.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-35157193049063037152014-10-11T23:48:55.041-04:002014-10-11T23:48:55.041-04:00I really thought I'd commented on this post. ...I really thought I'd commented on this post. I suspect ipad and blogger conspired against me.<br /><br />I'll probably blog about this, so I'll keep it short. When people ask, "so what do you do all day?" with a judgemental, puzzled air, I always think that they lack imagination!<br /><br />I like your answer "enough" but I often take it further myself, and respond that I still never have enough time to do everything I want to do.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-60469642050264223502014-10-08T13:52:08.240-04:002014-10-08T13:52:08.240-04:00I love this post.
I think life is a lot like a go...I love this post.<br /><br />I think life is a lot like a goldfish in a bowl. What is the myth/reality of goldfish? That they grow to fit the size of the bowl? I don't know anyone, regardless of their life situation, who just hangs around, looking at their bellybutton all day. We all fill the hours. We just fill the hours differently. But they're all full.Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-13671407900618482282014-10-07T17:09:29.577-04:002014-10-07T17:09:29.577-04:00It should be "What do you enjoy doing all day...It should be "What do you enjoy doing all day?" loldoublemehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18411365585322170504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-27879440298433232432014-10-07T16:24:55.732-04:002014-10-07T16:24:55.732-04:00My husband is semi-retired. He's always busy....My husband is semi-retired. He's always busy. I go to work, because it's far more relaxing there. :) In 10 years, I will be technically eligible for retirement (at age 55), but I don't know if I will retire then. I have the most flexible job in the world - there's no real good reason to leave. But we'll see what happens in 10 years.areyoukiddingmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16107214079237461141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-72849012159837515052014-10-07T14:17:39.064-04:002014-10-07T14:17:39.064-04:00I so love this post and I have trouble (feeling gu...I so love this post and I have trouble (feeling guilty) myself saying "I am busy" to others who I know have children. I don't know why but I do. I feel like people look at me and say how can you be busy you aren't running children around to sports activities, doctor appts, and such. I also have guilt when I leave work at a normal time and don't stay late...I think others are thinking where does she have to be. Society has made it this way for us, I believe and as women we feel like if we aren't doing "something" there is something wrong with us. As I age though I am trying my hardest to get over these feelings and feel good about my accomplishments in my life whether how small or large. To enjoy the life and make the best of what life has thrown my way, whether or not others agree with it or not. I feel like you...this isn't the life I had planned being childless but the life I have been given and I have paid a hefty price (emotionally, mentally, and physically) for this that few people truly understand.Jennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-22200568145597129252014-10-07T11:38:29.827-04:002014-10-07T11:38:29.827-04:00The best piece of advice I ever received was "...The best piece of advice I ever received was "never justify yourself to anyone". <br /><br />You HAVE earned this and worked damn hard for it too. I admire your diligence. <br /><br />Enjoy! Moniquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04188684792415196300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-32744595084894113572014-10-07T11:29:00.895-04:002014-10-07T11:29:00.895-04:00Beautiful post. I personally like eating candy an...Beautiful post. I personally like eating candy and watching TV and the day that gets to happen, I'll let you know. Yep, they are jealous. DH used to ask the the same question cause he really wanted to give up the high stress job and stay at home with Boo. Who wouldn't be envious of being able to retire at 53. Do whatever the hell you want - rub it in, friend!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-73263088104765129762014-10-07T03:05:50.450-04:002014-10-07T03:05:50.450-04:00LOVE this post. Brilliant, brilliant, brilliant!
...LOVE this post. Brilliant, brilliant, brilliant!<br /><br />I think I once got a glimpse of this kind of life when my dad retired. He didn't take it well. Post-power syndrome escalated until we had to call in an outsider's help to be a neutral party (actually he felt he was being treated unfairly, so he insisted on having a third party). <br /><br />He mostly lashed on my mom, even though she didn't do anything wrong. He was afraid he wasn't going to be respected anymore once he wasn't the breadwinner, even though all we wanted/wished for him was to ENJOY his retirement that we knew/believed he had earned.<br /><br />It was a tough couple of years, but it really opened my eyes to being able to enjoy the unemployment period (be it a temporary one or a retirement period). If we can't enjoy this period of time, we're doomed. <br /><br />Without really realizing it, this was also a trait that I was looking for in a man. I wanted someone who could still enjoy these periods of time without lashing out on anyone (i.e. me!). Maybe some people thought it was weird and crazy that I married my husband when he was still unemployed, but I valued his ability to enjoy life during that period of his life. <br /><br />When I left my job to move to Finland and had to learn Finnish and be at home, in the beginning I struggled with my self-worth as a stay-at-home wife. I felt that the whole world expected "more" from me. I had to learn to shout out those outer voices and really dig deeply into my ingrained self-worth and just do whatever I could do at that time to learn Finnish, cooking, etc. OK, I've babbled enough, but as you can see your post has made me remember all this he he...Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.com