tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post7353746604436792510..comments2024-03-26T08:06:19.661-04:00Comments on The Road Less Travelled: "It came, just the same" loribethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-56727167954554503032022-11-27T12:10:27.342-05:002022-11-27T12:10:27.342-05:00I'm sorry your marriage didn't survive, An...I'm sorry your marriage didn't survive, Ani, but I'm glad that living with family is working out for you! (By the way, I also have another great-nephew or a great-niece on the way for February! :) ) Thanks for commenting again! loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-61772049964300727372022-11-27T11:46:54.362-05:002022-11-27T11:46:54.362-05:00I commented on this post 6 years ago,and unfortuna...I commented on this post 6 years ago,and unfortunately since then my husband and I have gotten divorced.<br /><br />I've recently moved in with my sister and her family,which includes 2 great nephews (born in 2019 and 2021), with another great nephew or niece due in February.We also have lots of dogs and cats,so I am never lonely at all :)Anihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13146886812615899086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-87697033949745391372022-11-26T14:51:47.575-05:002022-11-26T14:51:47.575-05:00I stumbled on this old post while doing a search.....I stumbled on this old post while doing a search... interesting to read now, after three years of pandemic, including one Christmas where I didn't get home at all...!! loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-19666906934052055432017-01-17T22:28:09.361-05:002017-01-17T22:28:09.361-05:00We usually alternate with each side of the family ...We usually alternate with each side of the family each year. This year was hub’s side; a few were missing so there was only 36 people, a traditional Christmas dinner, a 32C day, each family brings a few dishes to cover the courses; this year the 23yr old nephew dressed up as Santa for the youngsters, complete with pillow stuffing, sunglasses and thongs (flip flops). <br />I also had my first 28 day cycle of the year start the day before, so I was feeling miffed and peeved rather than emotional, which certainly helped for Christmas day. I recover from miffed a lot more quickly than I do emotional.<br /><br />The later afternoon then sees us head over to my family for a few hours of quieter time. I do start to think what will happen when the numbers start to dwindle even more and where we two will be on these occasions as well.<br /><br />I so agree with your sister – getting onto the floor is easy, getting up, another matter entirely and not very graceful either!<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-33941063634521573972016-12-30T20:25:00.815-05:002016-12-30T20:25:00.815-05:00Things do change as the parents age or die. Since...Things do change as the parents age or die. Since my dad died, Christmas has changed. I wonder too what Christmas will be without my mom. Will my sister still come from NC, will my nephew still come from NYC or spend it in the future with his some day wife? I went early to help my mom. She does dinner on Christmas eve. I put the leaf in the table, ran the steps for the extra chairs, did some of the cooking and lots of clean up. This Christmas it was just my husband and I at home for Christmas dinner. That was a first. Always had my parents in the past. Without kids, what will Christmas be in the future when the parents are gone? I guess lonely.doublemehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18411365585322170504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-10342333929125273122016-12-30T11:52:58.433-05:002016-12-30T11:52:58.433-05:00Hello to all,
Found this site last evening.
So gla...Hello to all,<br />Found this site last evening.<br />So glad to be here!<br />This year has been a turning point.<br />I am60 and just recieved a clean bill of health.<br />For 12 years I was hoping to die. So now, I must plan to live.<br /><br />My journey started in 1987 with a ruptured ectopic pregnancy that nearly took my life.<br />Because I was an RN on duty, I recieved swift attention and treatment.<br />Afterwards, I was offered and accepted two cycles of infertility treatment.<br />Although I "failed" , 2 mos after completion, I once again had a tubal pregnancy which resulted in a controlled surgery.<br />After that, I entered an IVF program. Once again, I "failed".<br />From 1987-1993 I was in some stage of "pregnancy".<br />In the end, no child.<br /> Through the following 6 yrs. I floated,disconnected with no support.<br />My husband was grieving independantly.<br />By 2000,with the help of prescription drugs, I left my husband, home, job, friends and moved 1000 miles away from"it".<br />So, finding this site, it, I believe, is God given.<br />No one can understand how devistating our situation can be/is except others who have been through it.<br />Today, I live in my own home which always needs immediate repair, retired on a disability pension and have no family and a few causual friends.<br />I appear to the world as "together" and living a life of"comfort" as I never show what is really going on.<br />The constant loneliness, loving the husband I divorced, etc.<br />However, life/attitude/this site, all seem to be helping me move forward.<br />I live in Canada, and this all happened while living in Ontario, so it was nice to see a fellow canuck!<br />Don't know how to post, but my name is Patricia.<br /><br />The biggest thing for me, is understanding the theory of "Let go and let God"<br />I am not a religious person but I find myself, literally, spontaniously, getting down on my knees in gratefulness that I am "still standing". Going through this "someone" had to have been with me.<br />I wish you all a peaceful, successful year to come.<br />Most sincerely, <br />PatriciaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13179762126661146469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-54933453090355054392016-12-30T00:21:44.026-05:002016-12-30T00:21:44.026-05:00Anytime I comment,it always ends up being a novel,...Anytime I comment,it always ends up being a novel,lol.<br /><br />Since we don't have cold weather during Christmas time (we live in South Africa), our traditions are all just a bit different. We do a lot of stuff outside, since it's so hot. So this year we spent the whole day bbq-ing,swimming and just sitting outside having drinks.<br /><br />I always get so jealous of the 'traditional' white Christmas shown in movies and tv shows.Anihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13146886812615899086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-3673545047041861242016-12-29T17:17:20.525-05:002016-12-29T17:17:20.525-05:00Your last paragraph sums up my entire philosophy a...Your last paragraph sums up my entire philosophy around Christmas. I've been lucky perhaps that over the last 10-20 years, I've been able to establish some of my own traditions. I've taken over and cooked the Christmas dinner from my mother when she and my father were still alive, as she never liked doing it, and got a bit stressed about it. I've regularly hosted Christmas dinners here at home too, whether just with my in-laws or with extended family who have travelled back to NZ. (We have always split our Christmases - one year with my family in the south, the next year with my in-laws here, as it only seemed fair, especially as my in-laws only have us in the country.) <br /><br />When my in-laws go, we will have to make definite decisions about Christmas. Whilst we'll still regularly travel south to be with my elder sister and my niece and great-niece every few years, we won't have anyone here. Will we invite my sister and W and Charlie, or will we travel for Christmas? I think I'd be a bit sad having a Christmas dinner on our own here, but in a cottage at the beach it would be quite a different matter. And international travel is always fun at Christmas (or any time). And I think of my friend and her mum who this year made the decision to drive north on Christmas Day, as her kids were with their dad. So I know there'll often be other people who are on their own, and Christmas together could be fun. (When we lived in Bangkok, we got together with friends for Christmas Day). Just different. As you said. <br /><br />Our Christmas was a bit weird too this year. We were invited to join one of my husband's cousins, who had her elderly mother, and her two aunts (one of whom is my MIL) and their husbands. We kind of had to go, as someone had to drive MIL and FIL! So it was pleasant enough, but we did enjoy getting home in the late afternoon and spending the evening alone. We had a total of one Christmas gift under the tree. Chocolates, from the neighbours. Isn't that a bit sad? But you know, in most ways it wasn't, because we didn't really care.<br /><br />Oops. Sorry, I've written a novel!Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-32420491596939546042016-12-29T01:43:27.038-05:002016-12-29T01:43:27.038-05:00I really enjoyed reading your post.Even without ch...I really enjoyed reading your post.Even without children around,your Christmas sounds wonderful.You are blessed to still have both your parents.<br /><br />I am 33 and my mom is 74, my dad passed away 9 years ago (right before Christmas).My 2 pregnancies (that both ended in miscarriage) also started right before Christmas, so it is a very emotional and oftentimes sad time of year.<br /><br />But this year my husband and I had my mom, sister, brother-in-law and nephew over, along with all our dogs, and had a really great day.No sadness.<br /><br />I have 2 more siblings, each with children, so hopefully if I am ever in the situation where I am widowed,I could choose to spend the holiday with either of them, or a bit more likely, on my own, and not have it destroy me, emotionally.<br /><br />May the year to come be a wonderful one!xoAnihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13146886812615899086noreply@blogger.com