tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post8045772039984224458..comments2024-03-26T08:06:19.661-04:00Comments on The Road Less Travelled: At the cemeteryloribethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-3463657035122560652010-03-27T21:41:03.172-04:002010-03-27T21:41:03.172-04:00The cemetery Lyra is in is in another town, so I m...The cemetery Lyra is in is in another town, so I make it once a month. We have a stuffed tiger there to watch over the site though. I would be there more often if we lived closer.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09811996974976569965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-67526288897042814282010-03-23T08:36:47.271-04:002010-03-23T08:36:47.271-04:00My son's grave is right around the corner (10 ...My son's grave is right around the corner (10 minutes walk) and my visits range from once a week to once a month. I drive by there every morning on the way to work and sometimes blow a kiss over. <br /><br />He lies in the kid's section underneath big trees and is surrounded by girls. Most graves (maybe 30 altogether) are taken care of and some are as old as 1974... I really love this place, the small headstones, teddies, toys. There's rabbits and squirrels running around and it's a beautiful, peaceful place.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing. Always a pleasure reading you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-88332338156259284902010-03-12T21:23:28.394-05:002010-03-12T21:23:28.394-05:00I was really taken by how often you visit the ceme...I was really taken by how often you visit the cemetery. I used to visit my grandparents grave every so often when I lived closer. I did the grave candle, blanket in winter, etc. Mostly out of respect for my grandmother because she used to do it weekly for her husband when she was alive. To go weekly is such a constant reminder of your loss. I don't know how you can deal with it. You are truly a strong woman and what a wonderful husband you have that he goes with you. I realize that it was his loss too but I don't know many men that would continue to go so regularly. It's really beautiful of you two.<br /><br />Tmaxandzuzuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10586037097943565976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-256977331196804552010-03-11T16:02:34.897-05:002010-03-11T16:02:34.897-05:00Well, it's only been 2 years, 4 months, but we...Well, it's only been 2 years, 4 months, but we've visited the grave several times. I took my MIL to see the grave a few months ago (she'd never been). The time prior to that was on Mother's Day last year. The thing was, we lost Zach 11/07, didn't actually bury his ashes until summer 08, and it took them about 8 months to install the monument. So Mother's Day 09 was the first time we could see his grave in all its glory.<br /><br />As for the no-marker-graves...they're darned expensive, and it is so painful to spend that money on a marker for a child you never even got to know. Then again, we couldn't NOT buy a marker.Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08514262423005456861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-4370030069798678822010-03-08T19:34:45.332-05:002010-03-08T19:34:45.332-05:00We had Cale cremated and had planned on scattering...We had Cale cremated and had planned on scattering his ashes at sea but I could never part with them. So we built a couple of shelves in our room that hold his ashes and the little reminder cards I made at the mortuary of his footprint and handprint.<br />I don't think I could handle going to a cemetary every week. But I love that you do.<br />xxook@laklyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05366772609212990882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-8362948116569730182010-03-08T11:47:46.331-05:002010-03-08T11:47:46.331-05:00My best friend's son died of SIDS at four mont...My best friend's son died of SIDS at four months old. He is buried in the baby section and I can't help but wander around and think about the other babies and their parents - especially the ones that don't have any flowers or decorations. It breaks my heart for both the babies and their parents.Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11509124764568535676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-45566441411693044682010-03-08T07:33:39.035-05:002010-03-08T07:33:39.035-05:00We go maybe once a month, at least at this time of...We go maybe once a month, at least at this time of year. Usually to bring a seasonal decoration and remove the previous one. In the summer it's once or twice a week as we like to maintain the flowers. <br /><br />Charlotte's not buried in the baby section either. Once in a while I wander over there, but there is rarely anything new or disturbed. Our hospital has a monument for babies in a different cemetery and that's the "default" place if you don't make your own arrangements. I visit that one occasionally too. <br /><br />It's all so sad, all of it.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09211028670642739808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-30573973304102635352010-03-07T22:32:20.538-05:002010-03-07T22:32:20.538-05:00I wonder about those ones too, the ones that remai...I wonder about those ones too, the ones that remain unmarked. My sister still has the urn and my nieces ashes from 11 years ago, so she remains with her every time they move, even across states.<br /><br />That is sad about the growing rows :(AnotherDreamerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11487881766884178761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-81313994830274221852010-03-07T22:25:22.531-05:002010-03-07T22:25:22.531-05:00They talked about a mass burial at the hospital, a...They talked about a mass burial at the hospital, and with an undergad degree in poli sci, I had images of Rwanda, of Serbia, Bosnia in my mind, and I couldn't bear the thought. We had Gabe cremated, and perhaps, one day, we will put him in a nice. Right now he's on a shelf.Mrs.Spithttp://www.mrsspit.canoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-42730658851349396932010-03-07T21:39:03.803-05:002010-03-07T21:39:03.803-05:00No cemetery, we never got that far. Doc took our ...No cemetery, we never got that far. Doc took our kumquat-sized little one & that was it. Not sure if i'd want a place to go visit or not. <br /><br />Hugs. How sweet of you to visit weekly.Kathrynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03272307621143522274noreply@blogger.com