tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post825463686997727614..comments2024-03-26T08:06:19.661-04:00Comments on The Road Less Travelled: #MicroblogMondays: "The Misery Filter" loribethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-87120045155330621332017-11-10T10:31:54.929-05:002017-11-10T10:31:54.929-05:00Off to read the column itself, but this post is de...Off to read the column itself, but this post is definitely thought-provoking. I am all for education of suffering. I am all for giving people a heads-up that at some point, something is going to go wrong -- a dream won't happen, you'll sustain a loss, and at the very least something disappointing will happen. Agreed that social media helps people to think that everything is awesome all the time, and so when horrific things happen to them personally, it feels like an impossibility. I see this with my students a lot, that so many parents try to shield their children from disappointment and failure and it results in kids who can't handle a setback. Teaching people that you can find information, community, and support in the face of a personal tragedy and that you will survive it (in most cases), that is so important. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-3416689456044552952017-11-02T08:58:29.530-04:002017-11-02T08:58:29.530-04:00I'm with Mali on adding this to the Roundup - ...I'm with Mali on adding this to the Roundup - this post has been sticking with me and making me think. It's such a hard thing to identify how to teach people to prepare themselves for suffering.<br /><br />One observation I'd make is that a number of forms of suffering have migrated into hospitals/nursing homes/etc and out of the home itself, so people aren't as exposed to the reality of the arc of extended or terminal illnessess/health issues until it happens close to them. It's easier to not see or ignore than it was in years past. I think Douthat hits the nail on the head about the role of social media as well. <br /><br />I totally agree with you that empathy is a huge part to the solution. Empathy doesn't expect anything from the sufferer, instead, it abides with them. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-84653841511775519402017-11-01T00:19:14.432-04:002017-11-01T00:19:14.432-04:00I've made a mental note to include this in the...I've made a mental note to include this in the Roundup second helpings, if Mel doesn't choose it for her list!<br /><br />I 100% agree that the filter has lied both to those who suffer, and to those who don't (yet). <br /><br />I certainly went through an education for suffering too, on message boards and learning from wise women who went before me, and was able to pass on some of what I learned to others. I was pretty tough on myself at times, as that's how I was raised. So learning about self-compassion and some self-love was ground-breaking for me.<br /><br />I love that you picked out empathy as a key thing that will help this world. I'm grateful I have yet another wise woman to learn from, or to let me know I'm not alone.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-77443312246659898412017-10-30T21:14:06.966-04:002017-10-30T21:14:06.966-04:00I found this post, and the links you gave (and the...I found this post, and the links you gave (and then the posts gave) really, really thought provoking. As someone who has suffered from depression and/or anxiety for most of her life, I've always felt like the weird outliner who, on the outside, had the seemingly perfect life, and on the inside felt like a fraud and a fake and wondered why I was the only one who seemed to have to hide her true feelings most of the time. I found that feeling so amplified by social media that besides blog, I've basically chosen to opt out entirely, and that is AFTER I got pretty much everything I've ever wanted... social media was STILL too much for me to deal with. So I find your post, and the articles it talks about, really validating and interesting. I'm going to need to think about all this more. I hope to write a post on it myself at some point.Noemihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12792217151905218101noreply@blogger.com