tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post8847303147216048613..comments2024-03-26T08:06:19.661-04:00Comments on The Road Less Travelled: The problem with other people's pregnanciesloribethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-41362686743362239212008-09-14T19:12:00.000-04:002008-09-14T19:12:00.000-04:00sometimes the newly pregnant woman's lack of exper...sometimes the newly pregnant woman's lack of experience with grief makes me nervous. I always think of the house of cards. I tend to avoid pregnant women and babies.Ritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12957943359444860140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-488150438733903502008-09-13T14:47:00.000-04:002008-09-13T14:47:00.000-04:00I find myself holding my breath now for every preg...I find myself holding my breath now for every pregnant person I know. Now that I have first-hand experience of what can go wrong, it's hard to believe that anything can go right for anyone. And it is a double edged sword. Other people's pregnancies make me sad for Hannah, but they also stress me out because I wouldn't want anyone to have to go through this. It's a no-win situation!CLChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08030787972960755420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-10782226234023642672008-09-13T10:04:00.000-04:002008-09-13T10:04:00.000-04:00It is just so generous of you to be so concerned. ...It is just so generous of you to be so concerned. It would be easy for you to isolate yourself from these situations and put up wals... but not matter how painful the memory triggers, you always stand by and pull for other women. <BR/><BR/>I don't comment so often, but I always read your posts. And this is why.adminhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05496649217972403072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-54190627606369464462008-09-12T16:16:00.000-04:002008-09-12T16:16:00.000-04:00Ok, just came from another comment where I said th...Ok, just came from another comment where I said that I think pregnant women are really among some of the last of my grief tangles that I can't undo (yet), but maybe you've hit it -- maybe it's not just the jealousy, but the fear. Maybe it's both all balled up when I get that sick stomach feeling. I actually looked at a pregnant women from Bella's school the other day, and her two kids in tow, and thought, "What on earth would she do if she lost this pregnancy?" (and not in a spiteful way, mind you). <BR/><BR/>There really is more to let go here, isn't there. Sigh. Thanks for the thoughtful post.Tashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07376651134993450207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-13169313403140905042008-09-12T14:29:00.000-04:002008-09-12T14:29:00.000-04:00{{{hugs}}}You have such a big heart, Loribeth.{{{hugs}}}<BR/>You have such a big heart, Loribeth.Ya Chunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08816837461370619194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-7504962412562631812008-09-12T12:31:00.000-04:002008-09-12T12:31:00.000-04:00I hope your friend gets some good news in the comi...I hope your friend gets some good news in the coming days - it must be reassuring to her to have someone to talk to.Deathstarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03925549983959400448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-85900119647511782772008-09-12T12:13:00.000-04:002008-09-12T12:13:00.000-04:00When the unthinkable happens to you, you are fully...When the unthinkable happens to you, you are fully cognizant of the fact that no one is immune. It's a total gut reaction - something a little off, not hearing for a bit from someone you know and suddenly your mind leaps to "the worst" because you know the worst intimately, you and he are "old friends". <BR/><BR/>You're the one hitting the deck with your arms over your head every time a car backfires. <BR/><BR/>Hope your coworkers pg goes by quickly and smoothly - for both of your sakes.JuliaShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10668995954240697998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-69375692152498467112008-09-12T12:09:00.000-04:002008-09-12T12:09:00.000-04:00Yes, we are more prone to think about what can go ...Yes, we are more prone to think about what can go wrong, because we know it so well.Mrs. Spithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03386820063407910064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-63956311085045711302008-09-12T11:22:00.000-04:002008-09-12T11:22:00.000-04:00Yes, when the doctor "wants to talk to you," it al...Yes, when the doctor "wants to talk to you," it almost never means anything good. I understand why you were on pins and needles.Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08514262423005456861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-72873942374818339462008-09-12T10:35:00.000-04:002008-09-12T10:35:00.000-04:00Mel -- yes, & the results of her NST & u/s...Mel -- yes, & the results of her NST & u/s (the baby was breech but is now head down). Thanks for the kind words. : )loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-89415108007192912732008-09-12T10:19:00.000-04:002008-09-12T10:19:00.000-04:00This is why I love you--because you care so deeply...This is why I love you--because you care so deeply not despite but because. I hope everything is okay and the extra blood work is nothing. Is that what the doctor wanted to talk to her about?Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-4283670962237492372008-09-12T07:55:00.000-04:002008-09-12T07:55:00.000-04:00Wow, I hope your coworker and her baby are OK. I d...Wow, I hope your coworker and her baby are OK. I don't know why, in a city with world-class hospitals, she is going to one that has a questionable reputation. That is not a chance that anyone who has better knowledge of pregnancy complications would take. <BR/><BR/>I am incredulous when people ask why I'm choosing to deliver at the big city hospital, which is 15 minutes from my house and absolutely top notch, when the birthing suites at other, suburban hospitals are "SO much nicer." Because having the sixth-best NICU in the country right next door is about a thousand times more important than having a posh birthing suite! But many people just do not think of that. They've never had to.<BR/><BR/>I have not experienced pregnancy loss, but a few years ago when I didn't hear baby news for 5 days after a friend's induction, red flags went up immediately and deservedly. Her baby was healthy, but she'd had a high-risk delivery.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-26879459729288978522008-09-12T07:44:00.000-04:002008-09-12T07:44:00.000-04:00Oh Lori, I can relate to your description of worry...Oh Lori, I can relate to your description of worrying for others' pregnancies. I do it, too, hoping they don't ever know what I know -- when I hear someone talking about how they've been trying for months and they're starting to worry; when someone announces a pregnancy very early; etc. I hope your coworker arrives this morning with her big belly complaining about her annoying wait for the doctor. <BR/><BR/>It's a double edged sword, though, isn't it?Irish Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13222992447645337845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-84906463151369050582008-09-11T22:46:00.000-04:002008-09-11T22:46:00.000-04:00Yikes. I've never experienced a pregnancy, so I ca...Yikes. I've never experienced a pregnancy, so I can't completely relate. But knowing that someone might be experiencing a loss? Yes, definitely heartbreaking. I'll keep your co-worker in my thoughts ...Emily (Apron Strings)https://www.blogger.com/profile/09437280207985561846noreply@blogger.com