tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post9051630607120879760..comments2024-03-18T16:57:09.742-04:00Comments on The Road Less Travelled: Who's NOT busy? loribethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-68868971217347488312015-10-05T17:21:59.463-04:002015-10-05T17:21:59.463-04:00FYI: Melanie Holmes was recently interviewed as pa...FYI: Melanie Holmes was recently interviewed as part of a really interesting audio podcast series, Unclassified Woman, by Michelle Marie McGrath: <br /><br />http://michellemariemcgrath.com/melanieholmes/<br /><br />It's about 51 minutes long. loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-69933741778176993712015-10-04T19:57:22.658-04:002015-10-04T19:57:22.658-04:00I've never understood why people think that be...I've never understood why people think that being busy is to be admired. As if it is a virtue, and if you're not busy, you're lazy. When I was working full-time and travelling internationally, I was busy - there were always things I couldn't do because I'd be away, or because I was catching up on things I'd missed by being away. But it wasn't always a happy lifestyle, or one to be admired. When I was happiest, I also had a balance in my life, and it was when I could look outside myself, and help others. Surely that's better than just being insanely, even selfishly self-absorbed, busy, almost for the sake of being busy..<br /><br />I see people who claim they're busy, and it is often a result of choices they make, including never saying "no," either because they don't know how to or feel they're not allowed to say "no," but also because I think it gives them a sense of self-importance to always be busy. <br /><br />I recall a little girl saying, when she heard they were moving countries, "maybe it's okay that I can't ride horses there, because then if I don't have so much to do, I won't be so tired." She was EIGHT! Being busy was doing her no favours.<br />Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-23283196264412952492015-10-04T19:46:21.904-04:002015-10-04T19:46:21.904-04:00Valery, that is such a good definition! My in-law...Valery, that is such a good definition! My in-laws are exactly the same. Obviously when we get older, coping with two things in the Same Week are similar to coping with dozens of things in one day when we are younger.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-21821240019149408712015-10-04T17:11:28.213-04:002015-10-04T17:11:28.213-04:00Yes, yes, yes! Yes, yes, yes! BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-69947296689235397072015-10-04T17:02:57.674-04:002015-10-04T17:02:57.674-04:00A close cousin (maybe sibling) of the pain olympic...A close cousin (maybe sibling) of the pain olympics. The "who's busiest" competition is one I regularly find people participating in. Sadly, there's is assumption from others that I routinely win, which gets on my nerves more often than not as I know everyone has full lives.<br /><br />Which brings me to the conversation I was having with Grey: why do we work as much as we do? I've been consciously craving out some downtime because I know I function better when I'm not chained to my desk. But why is this seen as a bad thing?Cristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-18430068149197041962015-10-04T14:34:28.855-04:002015-10-04T14:34:28.855-04:00I am the infertile person in my group of friends...I am the infertile person in my group of friends. I have had friends that say that they are busier and more tired than me. They also have said that I will neve understand. w I laugh at these statements because my life is just as busy, but in a different way. I choose to go back to school, after years of struggling with infertility. I may not be up all night with child, but I am up, all night writing a paper or studying for a midterm/exam. I often have a few papers due very close together and each paper requires hours of research. I also volunteer for three organization ( about 6 hours a week). And I have husband, who needs me to run his life, because of his job. I am not saying I do more than a parent, I just do different things. My life is just as tiring as yours is. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-17206611176467996352015-10-04T13:29:30.698-04:002015-10-04T13:29:30.698-04:00Slightly off topic, but I smile when I hear my eld...Slightly off topic, but I smile when I hear my elderly parents in law tell me they are busy when they have to go to the hairdresser on Wednesday and the doctor on Friday, all in the Same Week. (and yes, I do grant them their own definition busy!) And we manage to have quiet weekends with three teenagers, a toddler and a houseguest this entire summer. Maybe it is the differemce between demands that are within or outside our control that makes us feel busy?Valeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210187335704409247noreply@blogger.com