tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post1044871671601868838..comments2024-03-26T08:06:19.661-04:00Comments on The Road Less Travelled: To see or not to seeloribethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-79696589945737329302011-11-17T11:03:41.269-05:002011-11-17T11:03:41.269-05:00I like the concepts - they make sense to me. Thank...I like the concepts - they make sense to me. Thanks for sharing!Moniquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04188684792415196300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-91249463138738698272011-11-16T09:23:07.519-05:002011-11-16T09:23:07.519-05:00While I wouldn't equate the failure to "s...While I wouldn't equate the failure to "see" and report the molestation of a child I will say that you are correct in that people tend to turn a blind eye to it. I don't believe it's because they can't equate it or that it's too painful its simply because they often don't see it as a tragedy. To be perfectly honest...since we now have our son I can't relate as easily to someone who is still in the trenches as I did when I was "one of them" So to have never been at all I believe it would be a lot harder to see the horror...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-56116358992706299612011-11-15T18:25:38.244-05:002011-11-15T18:25:38.244-05:00You state the raw truth so eloquently. You hit th...You state the raw truth so eloquently. You hit the nail on the head. Bravo! I felt so much of my experience validated by this post. These words especially reverberated with me: "Those of us who have lost babies, or endured infertility, or faced a future without children when we always thought we would be parents someday, know what it's like to see people turn away -- mentally, emotionally, sometimes even physically -- when they are confronted by the reality that is our life...The radical idea that, yes, it can and does happen to you & yours can be overwhelming -- threatening, even, to one's sense of personal security, fairness and "happily ever after."" <br />BTW, I DO think that there is an element of evil in people choosing their own comfort over doing something that can make a difference. The degree of evil, of course, depends on the situation and the person.Beef Princesshttp://www.simplynotconceivable.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-37340037852743259992011-11-15T18:01:06.208-05:002011-11-15T18:01:06.208-05:00I don't think our friends and family are evil ...I don't think our friends and family are evil - I think there's a big gap the Penn State scandal and our situation, though I do see the analogy. I do think though that our friends and family are incapable of dealing with something they don't understand. And so they take the easy way out by not talking about it with us, learning about how we feel, by tryiing to understand. It's a bit cowardly - they'll feel awkward, so they don't say anything, or distance themselves, kidding themselves that they don't want to say the wrong thing. <br /><br />And yes, undoubtedly that hurts us more than saying "I don't know what to say. Do you want to talk about it?" or "Can I help?" By not saying anything, they diminish our situation, our emotions, our lives.<br /><br />Great post.Malihttp://nokiddinginnz.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com