tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post1570619653442879988..comments2024-03-26T08:06:19.661-04:00Comments on The Road Less Travelled: That's a loaded question...loribethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-5653936854940415822011-12-04T18:31:57.607-05:002011-12-04T18:31:57.607-05:00Just want to say you are not alone in your Christm...Just want to say you are not alone in your Christmas memories.ms. Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263348912679823512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-18808195165744278862011-12-02T19:31:28.944-05:002011-12-02T19:31:28.944-05:00Yeah, I'm guessing they don't want to hear...Yeah, I'm guessing they don't want to hear about that Christmas memory. Oh, to be so innocent as to ask that question, eh? I didn't think there were still people out there who insist that Christmas is just chock block full of good cheer and glad tidings for EVERYONE.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-77413723271128280672011-12-02T17:03:55.938-05:002011-12-02T17:03:55.938-05:00Oh, dear. I wonder if they wanted to take back tho...Oh, dear. I wonder if they wanted to take back those words after they sent them out. I like the memory you sent them, and as for the ones you didn't - oh, so much love to you.ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06347057746449071812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-20244184101333579372011-12-02T14:58:14.979-05:002011-12-02T14:58:14.979-05:00They really don't. And I think for the most pa...They really don't. And I think for the most part, they really have no idea. Or why ask? <br /><br />Ah youth...<br /><br />There are things I love about the holidays despite myself - despite how beyond awful that first one was. That one where we got ridiculous last minute presents from my parents - and we knew it was because all of the ones for the girls had to be quickly returned. <br /><br />Dear loribeth, your post reached out to me. And I think it should be required HR reading. Seriously. Sending you strength and love this and every holiday.mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07830332489753742950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-53120430645593082472011-12-02T14:52:28.669-05:002011-12-02T14:52:28.669-05:00I'm so very sorry you lost your baby. My hear...I'm so very sorry you lost your baby. My heart aches for you. I can only imagine how hard the holidays can be sometimes. I don't understand why they'd even add "worst" to the list...why not just stick to happiest and funniest?<br /><br />I lost my first pregnancy (early miscarriage, not still birth) on Halloween 2010. I thought my heart might shrivel up and die every time a tiny one came to my door for trick-or-treating this year. Not my favourite day of the year. I'm already a bit scared of all the pregnant cousins at Christmas, and people saying "So when are you two having kids?".Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00420841652300294215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-60759309173410874232011-12-02T13:18:53.833-05:002011-12-02T13:18:53.833-05:00I read this just minutes after it was posted and d...I read this just minutes after it was posted and didn't know what to say exactly - what a lot you have survived - when you list it out like that it is really striking.<br /><br />I agree that when your life has not had much real sadness and tragedy, you wouldn't think about the impact of this question. The questioner May look at it differently after another decade or so of life experience ... I think few of us get through life without scars, but some have much more suffering to go through than others.<br /><br />hugs.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-86944725339440803372011-12-01T17:00:43.113-05:002011-12-01T17:00:43.113-05:00Thinking of you.Thinking of you.Illanarehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05203774916178621215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-4080556583021356102011-12-01T12:32:03.021-05:002011-12-01T12:32:03.021-05:00Brandy, you hit the nail on the head. More & m...Brandy, you hit the nail on the head. More & more of my coworkers (including the one who sent the e-mail) are young (in their 20s & early 30s), unmarried or newly married without kids, some of them still live at home with their parents, or close to them. It's the sort of question that only someone who's young & naive and hasn't experienced a lot of tragedy or loss or sadness in their life would ask. It's kind of touching, in a way -- but I'm afraid some of them are in for rude awakenings. :(loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-53966957707451991062011-12-01T12:09:37.794-05:002011-12-01T12:09:37.794-05:00Wow, I can't believe they would ask for a wors...Wow, I can't believe they would ask for a worst holiday memory! Obviously, they haven't had any themselves or they would know not to ask that. <br /><br />When I was a child I remember hearing adults say that they dreaded the holidays and I just couldn't understand why. What is so bad about getting presents I though. Now I totally get it. And it's not just the ALI community that this happens to (the dreading of holidays) so it really baffles me as to why this person would ask that. <br /><br />I'm sorry.<br /><br />www.brandysheaif.blogspot.comBrandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07806448864302671635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-80483767193152656692011-12-01T10:06:36.917-05:002011-12-01T10:06:36.917-05:00You're right - nobody really wants to hear abo...You're right - nobody really wants to hear about truly painful Christmas memories. Thinking of you during this time of year.Moniquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04188684792415196300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-56674463723735434732011-12-01T09:59:18.721-05:002011-12-01T09:59:18.721-05:00Your post put a huge lump in my throat. Hugs.Your post put a huge lump in my throat. Hugs.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-3647339686581836072011-12-01T08:57:06.187-05:002011-12-01T08:57:06.187-05:00Oh, I remember when my "worst" holiday m...Oh, I remember when my "worst" holiday memories were running out of gas in the middle of Kansas and later finding cat barf under the tree... The soul-shattering grief of last Christmas is an entirely different category. And certainly not one I'm interesting in discussing at holiday work parties! I'm sorry this season can be so difficult, for all of us.Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05946311309467296976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-59025506950254651472011-12-01T00:33:45.703-05:002011-12-01T00:33:45.703-05:00It is a loaded question. I'm so sorry it brou...It is a loaded question. I'm so sorry it brought back such painful memories - not that they weren't there anyway.<br /><br />I could add a few to the list (having suffered both my ectopic pregnancies in December), and certainly related to the "christmas is for kids" and "finding an ornament" points.<br /><br />Wow - Christmas 1981 ... I remember it!Malihttp://nokiddinginnz.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-32877914800476765602011-11-30T22:17:06.884-05:002011-11-30T22:17:06.884-05:00Sending you love, I know how these things stab at ...Sending you love, I know how these things stab at our broken hearts.<br />xoHope's Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04984543289642681339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-1862228236899447062011-11-30T21:50:31.879-05:002011-11-30T21:50:31.879-05:00I don't understand why they would even ask for...I don't understand why they would even ask for worst one... even if they were looking for "awful at the time, can laugh about later" I would think that'd fall under "funniest." Ugh. I don't think they'd want to hear about everyone's worst holiday memory either. But I am glad you shared yours here, and I'm sorry that the email served as another reminder of the pain (*hugs*) The holidays can be wonderful, and they can also be the hardest time of the year- all at the same time even. Thinking of you.AnotherDreamerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11487881766884178761noreply@blogger.com