tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post1697002934337239159..comments2024-03-26T08:06:19.661-04:00Comments on The Road Less Travelled: #MicroblogMondays: "Let's open up"loribethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-23100712256050409382017-11-10T17:36:48.820-05:002017-11-10T17:36:48.820-05:00This really speaks to me. I love the reaction of t...This really speaks to me. I love the reaction of the restaurant crew but honestly don't think something like that could ever happen to me. Now, I am as open as I can, but in real life, I am often met with blank stares. Obviously, many people don't know what to say when someone gives a negative answer to "THE" question (Do you have kids?). It doesn't bother me that much anymore because how will they learn that this can be a tough question if nobody tells them?<br /><br />Now, connecting my real "me" with my blog is a different story. I wrote so many personal things because I think that's the most helpful, but I'm not sure I want anyone to know it was me who wrote it...<br /><br />Is it about shame, I wonder? And if yes, why?Elainehttp://www.elaineok.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-32072798152617915262017-11-10T10:12:14.641-05:002017-11-10T10:12:14.641-05:00Arrrghhhhh, I wrote a comment and my trackpad ERAS...Arrrghhhhh, I wrote a comment and my trackpad ERASED it. Keeps happening. :( The gist was that I love this post so much, I think it's a great comparison. Seeing the reactions my dad gets when he explains that he doesn't drink (sometimes he leaves it at that, sometimes he says he CAN'T drink or he's sober) is similar to reactions we get to infertility and loss -- pity, platitudes, the infuriating comments that assume they have thought of something you haven't, but when you explain it does put a face to the issue and spreads awareness of prevalence, definitely. I am probably more of an oversharer in person, and it leads to resentment sometimes that I feel I have to explain, but how will people know the intricacies of IVF, loss, and the adoption process if people don't share the stories that didn't go as expected? I love your voice online. It is really helpful within the community, and I agree that the more we can speak (as we gain comfort levels of course) outside our community, the better it will be for awareness, for possible funding, for advocacy, and just for plain old empathy where it is sadly lacking sometimes. Great post! Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-42880150357410422052017-11-07T21:40:27.910-05:002017-11-07T21:40:27.910-05:00I would too. I was offered the opportunity to be i...I would too. I was offered the opportunity to be interviewed on CBC Radio about the importance of keepsakes for babies that die. My keepsakes from the hospital are hugely precious to me, but I just couldn't do it. I might be able to now... I find it (comparatively) easier talking with others about Katie than about childlessness. I guess I've had more practice with that in support group, etc. loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-89134106805246113202017-11-07T21:37:40.136-05:002017-11-07T21:37:40.136-05:00Yes, I think that was an eye-opener -- especially ...Yes, I think that was an eye-opener -- especially for men. Not all of them are part of the problem, but they all need to be part of the solution... loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-65597983773938581452017-11-07T21:36:26.160-05:002017-11-07T21:36:26.160-05:00Sharing online is better than not sharing at all, ...Sharing online is better than not sharing at all, yes?? ;) loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-1838327093241485352017-11-07T21:04:15.861-05:002017-11-07T21:04:15.861-05:00I'm like you. Good online, hesitant in person....I'm like you. Good online, hesitant in person. I think you make an excellent analogy here, and I will be more courageous when opportunities to share arise. Look at the power of the #MeToo movement recently. People realized WOW. This is more pervasive than I ever knew.Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-28723944086780529902017-11-06T18:26:53.943-05:002017-11-06T18:26:53.943-05:00" I am certainly not a poster child in this r..." I am certainly not a poster child in this regard. I will admit that I write/blog a good game; I'm less successful when it comes to practicing what I preach and moving outside of my comfort zone." <br /><br />That's me too!! I'm much better on a personal level, matching what I say to the person, whether they're perceptive or not, whether they're kind or not. Though I've just been asked to contribute to another article, but this one is in the major newspaper of the city, and there is absolute certainty that people I know will read it. I'm freaking out.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-3572868263687231312017-11-06T10:16:13.925-05:002017-11-06T10:16:13.925-05:00And I'm glad you are trying and bravely sharin...And I'm glad you are trying and bravely sharing your story. Because otherwise, how can change be enacted? So thank you for being a trail blazer. It is important and it is having an impact, even if it's slower than we'd like.Cristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.com