tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post2167395797817897696..comments2024-03-26T08:06:19.661-04:00Comments on The Road Less Travelled: GRAB(ook) Club: "Measure of Love" by Melissa Ford loribethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-6030987271264391372013-06-16T16:47:04.867-04:002013-06-16T16:47:04.867-04:00That "holy cow" moment you speak of righ...That "holy cow" moment you speak of right before the wedding, I felt it the night before, after Josh left my hotel room to go stay in his own for the last night before the ceremony. I had a moment of, "oh crap, this is really forever and this is huge and whoa, you've just been going with your gut with this." And then I remembered that going with my gut usually served me well with big decisions, and sure enough, all has been fine :-)Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-24923024016238248172013-06-14T04:50:16.607-04:002013-06-14T04:50:16.607-04:00Well, even if I am married I can't relate to t...Well, even if I am married I can't relate to the stress of organizing a big wedding. So I was the calm one, nervous yes, but no particular wedding stress in getting it all sorted. <br /><br />It was the two of us, our two good friends as witnesses and the woman who held the ceremony. A dress, but not white, flowers and then a nice lunch with our friends after, before we went away to a place just the two of us for dinner and overnight stay. That's it. And it suited us just fine at that time.anexpatinukhttp://anexpatinuk.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-61643203651670748602013-06-14T01:25:06.729-04:002013-06-14T01:25:06.729-04:00My husband and I eloped and got married at the Jus...My husband and I eloped and got married at the Justice of the Peace's house with 4 friends present. I didn't have any wedding jitters the day of, but definitely had them for years before the wedding ... not b/c I was worried about my relationship with Bob, but I was worried about how to plan a wedding around my family dynamics. Once I sorted this out and realized I could marry without my family there, everything got a lot easier! We had a great day - now happily married 7 years!Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15032718306225742021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-41343953825298597192013-06-13T21:31:10.727-04:002013-06-13T21:31:10.727-04:00I was a ridiculously calm bride. Not a doubt to b...I was a ridiculously calm bride. Not a doubt to be found. Perhaps that was due to the fact that I dated a LOT, and I just knew that I had found someone I could really live my life with. And... we had already had a child together. To me, that was an even bigger commitment than walking down the aisle!<br /><br />These days though, I struggle with every career decision I make. I have a great career that pays extremely well, but I hate it. I want to leave, but I am torn between keeping the secure job with the excellent salary and pension for my family, and doing what would make ME happy. It's tough, and I wish there was some middle ground. So I could totally relate to Rachel's uncertainty on that level.Catwoman73http://www.twoadultsonechild.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-72530680320555405832013-06-13T20:48:01.870-04:002013-06-13T20:48:01.870-04:00Was there a time in my life when I doubted the pat...Was there a time in my life when I doubted the path I was following or wondered if I were doing the right thing? Ummmm, YES!!! Lol! But questioning the path I was on is what ultimately led me to becoming an SMC so in hindsight I'm grateful for having had that doubt. A great quote from the book that resonated with me was, "Too many people let fears control their decisions & they end up missing out on living" This was me.Tiarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17511522028218347560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-90443367769637360612013-06-13T20:29:58.868-04:002013-06-13T20:29:58.868-04:00Why yes, I did have pre-wedding jitters right afte...Why yes, I did have pre-wedding jitters right after college. I think I knew deep down that the relationship wasn't made to endure.<br /><br />But I was one of those confident brides 10 years later when I married my husband. We're coming up on 18 years. We still look the same, though.<br /><br />(Yeah, right.)<br /><br />I'd love to see a post about your 3-ring binder!Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-77182031754315006962013-06-13T20:12:38.140-04:002013-06-13T20:12:38.140-04:00ha ha ha, one of my "Please prove you're ...ha ha ha, one of my "Please prove you're not a robot" words was SINS....Valeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210187335704409247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-61552173645339969782013-06-13T20:10:42.623-04:002013-06-13T20:10:42.623-04:00mhm. Not married. And after my brothers wedding st...mhm. Not married. And after my brothers wedding stress almost ripped the family apart, my partner and I decided that was quite enough.<br />Now, 6 years later, my family helps building our new house. So more of a commitment in bricks than ceremony. If that makes any sense.Valeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210187335704409247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-71753813222517662632013-06-13T15:46:11.869-04:002013-06-13T15:46:11.869-04:00I had a long-distance relationship with hubby as w...I had a long-distance relationship with hubby as well. The distance between our home countries was so great that our financial situation couldn't really help much - meaning I could only visit him once before we decided to get married HA HA...meaning my parents met him in real life only a few days prior to our wedding day. :-D<br /><br />We had known each other online since 1999 and we got married in 2006. I think I was an excited and yet calm bride ha ha...excited 'coz I got to meet hubby again in real life after a long time (we met in real life for the first time in 2004). We had known before our meeting that we were meant to be, but we just hadn't had the proof yet. <br /><br />We had a very simple wedding and the only thing that made me a bit anxious was about saying our vows in front of my priest and our guests. I felt that it was a very sacred moment 'coz it was a promise made in front of God and so many witnesses - but turned out it was one of the best moments on our wedding day. The moments when we said our vows, I felt as though the whole room just "vanished" and it was just me and him, promising to stay together come what may. :-) Just like in a movie where they zoom in on the couple - never thought it would happen in real life, though LOL!!!<br /><br />I've "only" been married to hubby for 6.5 years but until now I've never had any moments when I thought I married the wrong person. I hope this continues until death do us part ha ha ha...<br /><br />The biggest "worry moment" that I had was actually when I was on the plane to Finland (when I was moving to Finland, only bringing 27 kgs of my earthly belongings with me). One moment on the long plane journey, I just started thinking of worst case scenarios possible (such as: "What if he died young and I was left when I still couldn't find a job 'coz I hadn't mastered the language yet?", "Would I enjoy my new life in a small village when I'd always been living in a big city all my life?", etc.)...but I managed to stop myself from thinking about it completely and just focused on the present he he...<br /><br />Btw, I also love reading your wedding day. :-D And a BIG SALUTE that you've been together for so long...*bowing in respect*Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-78343431579461606582013-06-13T14:44:44.554-04:002013-06-13T14:44:44.554-04:00When I was getting married, I had a complete and u...When I was getting married, I had a complete and utter meltdown over bridesmaid dresses and thinking that my sister was trying to take over the wedding because she found a dress that looked great on her and everyone else, but it wasn't the dress that I liked. It was so bad that we didn't speak for a month. Aprilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08019827440946283439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-39509341812373657792013-06-13T14:34:17.660-04:002013-06-13T14:34:17.660-04:00My first marriage, I totally had that feeling. I ...My first marriage, I totally had that feeling. I should have listened! However, the second time around, I was totally confident. Totally different experience!Janehttp://twobeesinlove.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-9494150595559771342013-06-13T11:45:09.471-04:002013-06-13T11:45:09.471-04:00So fun to be doing another book club with you! Thi...So fun to be doing another book club with you! This is a great question and I do recall having a few doubts before my husband (of now 13 years) and I got married. We dated for four years before our wedding day, so that did help us to really get to know each other well. Part of that time we were long distance and would spend hours talking on the phone at night about our opinions regarding spending our life together. It was especially important to me that there not be any surprises when it came to how we intended to parent our future children and/or whether I would be a SAHM, among other things.<br /><br />I get that as much as we discuss how we want our lives to be as a married couple and eventually as parents (if we are able to have living children), there is still so much we cannot prepare ourselves for, that we have to address in the moments when find ourselves having to choose how to act/react.<br /><br />Also, there is one time I recall vividly, right before we got engaged, when I questioned if my husband was the best fit for me to spend the rest of my life with. I had gotten close to a male friend in grad school who had a lot of different interests and personality traits from my husband. Note that he was not interested in me as more than a friend at the time and ultimately came out years later (which made sense to me in retrospect). Back then I struggled to determine which interests and traits were most important in a relationship/marriage and which ones were nice, but not essential. <br /><br />In the end I decided that there was enough that I loved about my husband, that it was okay that he wasn't interested in some of the things this other guy was. I told myself that no one man could be all things to and for me and I shouldn't put that much pressure on him or myself. So from then on I committed (in my mind and heart, as well as saying "yes" when he proposed) to spending my life with him as a married couple.<br /><br />I also love that you answered your own question and really enjoyed reading what you had to share! I can totally picture you being a calm bride. :)Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04175833982955486083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-40401220025721043062013-06-13T09:36:39.241-04:002013-06-13T09:36:39.241-04:00Two of my friends and I had destination weddings. ...Two of my friends and I had destination weddings. All three of us freaked out shortly before the wedding for reasons completely unknown. One girl threw her engagement ring, causing a mad search in the gutter for it. One girl had to leave a concert she had gotten us all tickets for, because she couldn't breathe. I had a screaming meltdown in the street - over what I can't even remember. I think marriage is such a major life change that an excessive or unusual emotional reaction is almost necessary, just to offset the stress of the change. <br /><br />Great question - and I loved reading about your wedding!areyoukiddingmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16107214079237461141noreply@blogger.com