tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post276847480168519331..comments2024-03-26T08:06:19.661-04:00Comments on The Road Less Travelled: Valentine's Dayloribethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-45887016254893038602013-06-06T01:02:34.090-04:002013-06-06T01:02:34.090-04:00This post is so amazing ! Thank you from the botto...This post is so amazing ! Thank you from the bottom of mu heart for sharing it with us! I got to learn so much!! Thank you once again! :) Throw pillowshttp://www.pillowdecor.com/Throw-Pillows-s/83.htm/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-5099324323316343592008-02-19T13:27:00.000-05:002008-02-19T13:27:00.000-05:00I loved this post and just wanted to thank you so ...I loved this post and just wanted to thank you so much for writing it. I don't yet know if our life will be childfree, but it's so wonderful to be able to get a glimpse into your life and know that if it is, we'll be okay too. <BR/><BR/>Thank you.msfitzitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17174138130763427353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-20149979463060383302008-02-16T12:04:00.000-05:002008-02-16T12:04:00.000-05:00This is a great reminder of how much patience is r...This is a great reminder of how much patience is required in any relationship -- but especially one that involves such intense personal sharing. In the end we have to know where the limits are and continually refresh our commitment to each other above all the grumbling and distractions that come our way, and that's where the power of love comes in.Pamela T.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11474998003921896431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-67898875029508993952008-02-15T09:05:00.000-05:002008-02-15T09:05:00.000-05:00Wonderful post. I've wondered about the balance an...Wonderful post. I've wondered about the balance and dependence issues of a childless marriage. You seem to be navigating them beautifully. Congrats on your successful marriage!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-47258815764900970202008-02-14T22:12:00.000-05:002008-02-14T22:12:00.000-05:00What a wonderful post. Thanks for writing this.What a wonderful post. Thanks for writing this.Mrs.Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03810703338888705439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-38540650897073657812008-02-14T18:54:00.000-05:002008-02-14T18:54:00.000-05:00Love isn't finding someone to live with but someon...Love isn't finding someone to live with but someone you can't live without.doublemehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18411365585322170504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-12008314244805032912008-02-14T13:04:00.000-05:002008-02-14T13:04:00.000-05:00Very moving post. Love is never the issue, it's th...Very moving post. Love is never the issue, it's the how do we stay happily married that's hard.Deathstarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03925549983959400448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-40043136956665149102008-02-14T10:44:00.000-05:002008-02-14T10:44:00.000-05:00You reminded me of something - waking up one morni...You reminded me of something - waking up one morning several years ago and feeling very disatisfied with my life and marriage. Feeling loads of self-pity I indulged in a bit of fantasizing what it would be like to run away and start over with someone else, or had taken up with one or another of my "old boyfriends". I think this went on for a week or so and one morning I woke up again and it occurred to me that my dh was still there. He had always been there, every morning, through thick and thin and despite all the stuff we had been through together - our several miscarriages, the fertility drugs that turned me into a loony and the postpartum depression that left me near psychotic at times, particularly if it followed a loss. I'd put him through the wringer and he was still sticking it out. He has more than proven I could count on him. I don't know that I could trust someone else that much.<BR/><BR/>You are right - marriage is work, with kids or without. The business of grieving is hard too. Despite both our faults, it's nice to know that I am married to someone who isn't afraid of a little hard work and is determined to see us through. I always determined our angels and children to be the best of both of us - so, I guess I'll keep him around. ;0)<BR/><BR/>Happy Valentine's Day Lori - and thank you for the thoughtful insights, they were a nice way to start today.JuliaShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10668995954240697998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-11754677623254362962008-02-14T09:57:00.000-05:002008-02-14T09:57:00.000-05:00"For those of us who don't have children & have be..."For those of us who don't have children & have been empty nesters all along, the relationship is all we've got to focus on -- so perhaps we expect too much and depend on each other too much and obsess too much about it. Somewhere, there must be a happy balance between the two models."<BR/><BR/>So true, Lori. Sometimes I find myself comparing our marriage to my friends'/family members' that have kids - almost as though I need to prove to myself that we have a stronger marriage - i.e., you all may have gotten the kids, but we got the better marriage. <BR/><BR/>Not healthy, I know - I have to really stop myself from thinking that way. It's not a competition, of course. <BR/><BR/>A healthier thing I do is just to appreciate the fact that we do have more time and energy to spend just with each other. That is one significant gift of this childfree life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-87112692473222667062008-02-14T02:07:00.000-05:002008-02-14T02:07:00.000-05:00this is such a lovely post, thank you. you capture...this is such a lovely post, thank you. you capture so well some of the issues that are just different among couples in childless/child-free homes. <BR/><BR/>for so long we've wanted to share our lives and love with a child, to divert some of that attention and energy away from ourselves and pour it into another being. I often wonder how we'll get through the rest of our lives this way... <BR/><BR/>and I also think it's great that you recognize how differently you deal with anger and other issues that are inevitable in any relationship. no wonder you've survived so long. of course mad love makes all the difference. <BR/><BR/>thanks for sharing, and happy valentine's day. ~lunalunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15455301696832647867noreply@blogger.com