tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post4648991181851495254..comments2024-03-26T08:06:19.661-04:00Comments on The Road Less Travelled: No thanks to the Academyloribethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-31433454632738935722011-03-12T21:09:38.772-05:002011-03-12T21:09:38.772-05:00If I am a good mother, that will be my greatest ac...If I am a good mother, that will be my greatest achievement. If I fail at that, all the rest won't matter. Does that diminish the achievement of a woman without children? No, but the media does a piss poor job of differentiating the achievement of good parenting vs simply reproducing. As anyone who has struggled with IF knows, there are a lot of women firing out babies who are lousy mothers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-87933459322670703102011-03-09T18:25:09.458-05:002011-03-09T18:25:09.458-05:00Oh Loribeth, I think you've given me the most ...Oh Loribeth, I think you've given me the most perfect paragraph ever to send to my sister. She hasn't been able to understand the devastation I went through in losing my one and only pregnancy and thinks that I should be well over it by now. <br /><br />We've been semi-alienated because of her insistence that I not show my pain around her, but that it was OK for her to talk about both the positive and negative of motherhood and that I should be supportive of her because it really is difficult being a mother of two young children.<br /><br />We finally had it out before Christmas and she's starting to come around to the idea that as much as her children are a part of her life, my loss is a part of mine. She's asked me to help her understand so I've been pointing her to different blogs (yours included).<br /><br />I am going to copy your paragraph about the drip, drip, drip, and send it to her. It's such a perfect summary of why we're never completely over it.<br /><br />Thank you for the gift that you've given all of us who come to visit. It's too bad that we do have to have this safe place, but since we do, I'm glad that you've created it.Sandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14922449945274834671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-23350518120233530972011-03-03T00:23:06.317-05:002011-03-03T00:23:06.317-05:00I've made this a little ritual more recently t...I've made this a little ritual more recently than you. As I'm self-employed, one of the bonuses is that I can (if I wish) watch the Red Carpet and then the Oscars in the afternoon here. Usually I take work or ironing to do, and often I'll record it so I can fast forward through the boring bits. But the aim is to have it all finished before my husband gets home from work!<br /><br />So I have to say - worst Oscars I've ever seen. Hathaway and Franco had no chemistry, Hathaway was manic and Franco was wooden. The talk of children didn't bother me. But I hated the raving (on the red carpet) over Celine Dion and her ridiculously skinny body after she'd had twins. Come on - it's just not realistic. And they were applauding her?! Disgust. (Penelope Cruz? - I loved her "real" figure!)<br /><br />Otherwise, I found it no more annoying than pretty much anything else we see - cos let's face it there is always so much emphasis on mothers and families and children in just about every public context that I get used to feeling ignored.Malihttp://nokiddinginnz.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-88372310516470660122011-03-02T22:15:25.892-05:002011-03-02T22:15:25.892-05:00There is so much more to being a woman. I wish the...There is so much more to being a woman. I wish the rest of the world would wake up and realize that.one-hit_wonderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02392238740961497297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-82430612760384216712011-03-02T21:30:42.027-05:002011-03-02T21:30:42.027-05:00I agree ONE HUNDRED PERCENT with all your thoughts...I agree ONE HUNDRED PERCENT with all your thoughts on this year's Oscars. Ugh.<br /><br />I didn't even watch all of it. And even though I don't feel the pain of that "Mommies everywhere" feeling anymore, I cringe when I know others will. It sucks, and I'm sorry. :(Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16067045642285877560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-83901009235425545372011-03-02T21:27:27.762-05:002011-03-02T21:27:27.762-05:00I agree ONE HUNDRED PERCENT with all your thoughts...I agree ONE HUNDRED PERCENT with all your thoughts on this year's Oscars. Ugh.<br /><br />I didn't even watch all of it. And even though I don't feel the pain of that "Mommies everywhere" feeling anymore, I cringe when I know others will. It sucks, and I'm sorry. :(Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16067045642285877560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-87251416460101773412011-03-02T20:18:47.171-05:002011-03-02T20:18:47.171-05:00I felt a little deflated when I read about NP'...I felt a little deflated when I read about NP's "greatest role" comment, but at the same time I wasn't surprised.<br /><br />I told D. that Penelope Cruz looked amazing on the red carpet, without realizing that she had given birth recently. Very recently. It makes me sad that celebrities are competitively losing pregnancy weight. It further contributes to the glamorization of motherhood. Can we call it the "madonna/attention whore complex"?Ellen K.http://www.southcitysadie.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-18283031046504844452011-03-02T18:07:24.498-05:002011-03-02T18:07:24.498-05:00I thought about watching, and turned on the red ca...I thought about watching, and turned on the red carpet show, just in time for the interview of the mothers of the nominees. I turned it off before any of them actually spoke.Juleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07318827219058451652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-17468891845929191182011-03-02T03:54:14.028-05:002011-03-02T03:54:14.028-05:00It annoys mothers too after a while. Banging on ab...It annoys mothers too after a while. Banging on about babies and children and being pregnant gets old very quickly. Being a mother isn't the only thing in life nor does it make someone more worthwhile nor make them a woman. It's a dreadfully old-fashioned view which isn't actually backed by treating mothers and children that well.<br /><br />Being a mother is one aspect of being a woman for some women, it's not all there is to being a woman.Penblethhttp://penbleth.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-79651508447828712162011-03-01T23:24:16.619-05:002011-03-01T23:24:16.619-05:00I never watch those shows... and now that I've...I never watch those shows... and now that I've canceled my cable there isn't even the chance. Which has definitely been a good thing in my book, because no more mom/baby obsession or corny commercials all the time. But I do miss being in the know, and traditions such as yours. I totally understand turning it off after awhile. I can take some, but eventually it feels like someone's grating my skin with... a cheese grater... or something.AnotherDreamerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11487881766884178761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-70702278933957287712011-03-01T22:49:47.583-05:002011-03-01T22:49:47.583-05:00I have pregnancy envy. So watching Natalie talking...I have pregnancy envy. So watching Natalie talking about "the greatest role" did bring me down a notch or two. It was like my sister in law talking about her children as her greatest project... I can appreciate that having a child brings is an immense responsibility and should be a priority. Sadly, based on what I see in society today, it doesn't seem to have been the priority for a lot of parents, or if it was, in many cases other factors became a greater influence and things did not turn out quite as their parents hoped. One interview I saw with Sandra Bullock on the red carpet brought up the question of whether motherhood had made her a better actress. I was thinking... come on!! What? you give birth and you are a better doctor, nurse, engineer, teacher, etc. Please!!Spare me! To her credit she said, she had no idea. But then she said she thought it had made her a better person. Do women who parent feel pressured to say these things? or do they just mindlessly repeat what others have said? I would say she probably already was a pretty good hearted person when she decided to adopt a child in the first place.IrisDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14120842144868527846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-80218595589423676872011-03-01T21:56:26.865-05:002011-03-01T21:56:26.865-05:00@ Enough Happiness: The thought occurred to me as ...@ Enough Happiness: The thought occurred to me as well. ; )loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-83693947750450446432011-03-01T21:46:50.830-05:002011-03-01T21:46:50.830-05:00There was some speculation on talk radio Monday th...There was some speculation on talk radio Monday that James Franco was high during the awards. It did not occur to me at the time but it does make sense.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-23044696810730501002011-03-01T20:48:22.821-05:002011-03-01T20:48:22.821-05:00I so agree with everything. The drip, drip, drip ...I so agree with everything. The drip, drip, drip gets to me after a while too. I only watched about an hour of the Oscars myself before I got so bored I just went to bed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com