tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post6535068516481819606..comments2024-03-26T08:06:19.661-04:00Comments on The Road Less Travelled: Childlessness, choices and resilience at midlifeloribethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-15924034809727612442010-01-18T20:41:03.341-05:002010-01-18T20:41:03.341-05:00Thank you for sharing such a heartfelt post. I am ...Thank you for sharing such a heartfelt post. I am here - at early menopause - after surviving cancer settling into my knowledge of being unable to have children. Most days I think I am "OK" with me as who I am ~ that I have accepted myself ~ other days it will whammy me out of the blue and I feel like I am starting all over with that acceptance. <br /><br />That said at 38 I completely understand what you were saying about wondering if I would now even have the energy to tackle it all - if my health would let me soar as a parent. And the one thing I keep coming back to? Do I want to be the "older" mom? <br /><br />Most days I don't have answers just the here and now. I am blessed to have a goddaughter who I adore and see almost daily and a 2nd niece on the way. My family is supportive and my brother and sister-in-law ROCK with letting me be involved and I love it.<br /><br />So I guess you could say I have the best of a bad situation. Thank you for sharing so much of your story. It is truly inspiring.michelehttp://smoochdog.squarespace.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-23087203547926323732010-01-15T11:40:21.497-05:002010-01-15T11:40:21.497-05:00This is a great post Loribeth!This is a great post Loribeth!JuliaShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10668995954240697998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-1326423762912002932010-01-12T06:50:15.781-05:002010-01-12T06:50:15.781-05:00Happy Birthday Lori! I hope this is the beginning...Happy Birthday Lori! I hope this is the beginning of a new, adventurous, fun chapter in your life!Soapchickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13899175649394809612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-5099305500415174822010-01-12T00:27:49.847-05:002010-01-12T00:27:49.847-05:00The worst part of infertility was that I lost my j...The worst part of infertility was that I lost my joy in living. I got by, I woke up and I talked and walked and carried on, but on too many days, it was like it was always raining in my heart. Throughout my long wait, I had to really, really try to find my joy again - in a walk with JuJu, cold, sunny days, etc. <br />I will chant this year that you find even more joy, peace and happiness in your life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-7663372541870656732010-01-11T09:46:08.450-05:002010-01-11T09:46:08.450-05:00I think this is exactly right -- there are so many...I think this is exactly right -- there are so many different paths to happiness.niobehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10685766216611639434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-11777212549331276762010-01-10T17:20:30.022-05:002010-01-10T17:20:30.022-05:00Beautiful post.Beautiful post.Quiet Dreamshttp://dreamsofquiet.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-67750565478748005232010-01-10T16:15:31.726-05:002010-01-10T16:15:31.726-05:00What a lovely and moving post, Loribeth.What a lovely and moving post, Loribeth.Ellen K.http://southcitysadie.typepad.com/miss_e_musings/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-45190440944804762612010-01-10T02:07:14.804-05:002010-01-10T02:07:14.804-05:00I wanted to comment on your New Year's post, a...I wanted to comment on your New Year's post, and I didn't get a chance. I loved that post, as I do this one. Your ability to both acknowledge the sadness and grief, but also have happiness and hope of new (though different from imagined) adventures is extremely inspiring to me right now. I did get blessed with A, but I'm trying to adjust and make peace with the fact that she will be my only, and that my reproductive life ended in such a negative way. I love to read your posts, they help me see that maybe one day, I won't be bitter and sad.<br /><br />I caught the second half of the same show on happiness, and I loved it. I was struck by how much we have in common with people dealing with any struggle, even ones totally different from baby loss. One thing that really stuck with me was the bit on "positive pychology" finding your strengths and capitalizing on them in order to build your resilience. It inspired me to try to find my strengths somwhere in this muck.ms. Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263348912679823512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-58559007507489727172010-01-10T00:46:36.013-05:002010-01-10T00:46:36.013-05:00This is one of the best posts I have ever read abo...This is one of the best posts I have ever read about how life happens and we just keep walking on.MLOhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01779450983499873776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-76733211283860317892010-01-09T22:25:15.759-05:002010-01-09T22:25:15.759-05:00Great post! And I couldn't agree more about th...Great post! And I couldn't agree more about the strength and resilience that comes in the wake of being tested in ways we never expected...Pamela T.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11474998003921896431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-87604498958832010652010-01-09T19:13:54.354-05:002010-01-09T19:13:54.354-05:00I often wonder the 'what ifs' of my life i...I often wonder the 'what ifs' of my life if I could of been a mother. I think we will always wonder. For some reason our lives took a different direction in living childfee and the mystery remains. The best thing to do is to live well.Miminoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-39021956179368903652010-01-09T11:48:12.041-05:002010-01-09T11:48:12.041-05:00You've touched me so much with these words. I...You've touched me so much with these words. I'm facing the same truths and go back and forth all of the time. Thank you, I was really moved to tears.<br /><br />Tmaxandzuzuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10586037097943565976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-51735768334439428582010-01-09T07:52:20.877-05:002010-01-09T07:52:20.877-05:00What a truly heartfelt and honest post my friend.
...What a truly heartfelt and honest post my friend.<br /><br />xxxRachhttp://thegalwho.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-52400452742859252062010-01-08T21:33:53.740-05:002010-01-08T21:33:53.740-05:00I think the point about limitless options is great...I think the point about limitless options is great, as humans, it seems as if we crave boundaries, even when sometimes the boundaries make us sad. <br /><br />It sounds like an amazing program, and it sounds even more like you reached some good conclusions. <br /><br />I'm still sorry Loribeth, I wish things had worked out differently, but the resilience bit is so huge, isn't it. Perhaps happiness does come down to what Elinor Roosevelt said, most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.Mrs. Spithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03386820063407910064noreply@blogger.com