tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post7128789933997847590..comments2024-03-26T08:06:19.661-04:00Comments on The Road Less Travelled: International Bereaved Mothers Day loribethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-26762752315802560722019-05-17T15:54:03.480-04:002019-05-17T15:54:03.480-04:00Dear Loribeth, I'm so sorry you felt sad and c...Dear Loribeth, I'm so sorry you felt sad and could share how you feel with your family. It shows how selfless and empathic you are. I hope you can find some comfort here on the blogosphere and that your family "rewards" you with much love <3Léahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12748138682609318291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-53346167166631148192019-05-09T08:01:51.161-04:002019-05-09T08:01:51.161-04:00I'm a member of a gentle parenting facebook gr...I'm a member of a gentle parenting facebook group and there was a thread for bereaved mother's day where people were encouraged to share about their losses. It was heartbreaking looking at the post - there were a lot of stillborn baby photos and sad stories but it was also a lovely way of acknowledging those who were only here for a short time and giving the parents a chance to talk about it which I imagine is rare these days. dublinerinDeutschlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14804856792598440633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-47683731960029173042019-05-08T19:25:36.205-04:002019-05-08T19:25:36.205-04:00You're right, Bamberlamb, we can be our own wo...You're right, Bamberlamb, we can be our own worst enemies sometimes, can't we? People are clueless, in part because we don't give them a clue as to what we're thinking & feeling, because we don't want to hurt or offend them. And then we wind up being the ones hurt & offended. It's a vicious circle sometimes...! loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-89347176405694579992019-05-08T19:21:38.533-04:002019-05-08T19:21:38.533-04:00Yes, plenty of cheerleaders! We're usually amo...Yes, plenty of cheerleaders! We're usually among the biggest ones, of course. ;) But it's true -- we really can't rain on their parade. Even if I did post something, it's not that likely that anyone would really notice or care or make the connection. This pregnancy isn't about us, nor should it be. It would be nice if people did remember and realize this might be hard for us, but I've come to accept that most people just aren't that clued in. It's maybe not the way it should be, but it's just the way it is! loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-68732755479209706312019-05-06T05:24:11.222-04:002019-05-06T05:24:11.222-04:00Dearest Loribeth,
What a beautiful, poignant, hea...Dearest Loribeth,<br /><br />What a beautiful, poignant, heartfelt post, I teared up reading this - especially the part about whats better for everyone else, being reminded of being childless or being reminded you're the mother of a stillborn baby - and yes, why it's seen as socially 'acceptable' to mourn the loss of a mother, but not the other tangible losses we feel so keenly, no, they have to be placed in a compartment out of sight of the good general populace/family/friends, don't they? Even though these losses have ravaged our souls, we mustn't show this side of our grief! It's all twisted and wrong, isn't it? You hit the nail on the head right there.<br /><br />How bittersweet to have joy for your nephew but not be 'allowed' to speak your own quiet truth 'out there' in social media world for fear of causing others angst - this shows your depth of empathy and your love for those you seek to 'protect'.<br /><br />Sometimes, I think this protection (for want of a better word) we show others doesn't help society realise the enourmity of our lives after loss or infertility and it leaves other women like us walking in the wilderness because there aren't too many of us who speak out (although that's slowly changing). We're so good at 'protecting' others, because we know how it feels to be the holders of broken hearts, the 'walking wounded' amongst society. <br /><br />And yes to the posts of school leavers, proms, last day pictures, sports days (they have here at the end of the school year) and you're right it's literally non-stop, it's relentless and it feels like it's next to no time until we have those new school year pictures again - it really is non-stop. <br /><br />All those milestones we've watched pass us by, in silence. <br /><br />Voldemort day is a perfect name for a day that shall not be named. Thinking of you and all of our sisters out there around the world who sit in silence with hearts full on these days.<br /><br />Much love xxxBamberlambhttps://inconceivable.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-16864151719740917202019-05-05T20:13:45.803-04:002019-05-05T20:13:45.803-04:00Oh, Loribeth, your account of the amnio made me te...Oh, Loribeth, your account of the amnio made me tear up. Your thoughtfulness to your nephew and NW and BIL is lovely, but personally I don't think you could rain on their parade, as they are surrounded by cheerleaders already. <br /><br />I am glad though that you have this space, and a few others, where you can express your legitimate sadness for your own situation, and concern for them, without freaking them out. <br /><br />Sending hugs.<br /><br />Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-89499265415296919902019-05-05T20:07:02.922-04:002019-05-05T20:07:02.922-04:00I know you feel joy for your nephew and wife but d...I know you feel joy for your nephew and wife but deep down inside the pain is still there. Hugs to you.doublemehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18411365585322170504noreply@blogger.com