tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post8801509945319198608..comments2024-03-26T08:06:19.661-04:00Comments on The Road Less Travelled: Great expectations?loribethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-84247979338537517392010-10-20T13:10:56.827-04:002010-10-20T13:10:56.827-04:00Wow, that was an eye opener!Wow, that was an eye opener!abby jenkinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16186069406334168116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-66682713766696096682010-10-18T21:14:03.324-04:002010-10-18T21:14:03.324-04:00I read this article and felt that it really hit th...I read this article and felt that it really hit the nail on the head with a number of the points that it made. Especially, though, for me, was this idiotic idea that women seem to have that if they are healthy (read: thin), then they can just wait forever and ever. The subtext there, of course, is that fatties can't get pregnant because they're fat. The misconception runs so deep that it just pisses me off sometimes. A number of people who know me presume that we pursued IVF because I have PCOS, neverminding the fact that my PCOS has been effectively treated for a number of years, and that (despite being overweight) I, too, fall into that "healthy" category-- they cannot fathom that my (thin) husband could be the one with the problem. Sigh. <br /><br />While I know that many women might put off children for career reasons, I know plenty more (especially in my age group for some reason) who didn't settle in to a good relationship until they were in their 30s (many friends had what one article deemed "starter marriages", who married young and briefly only to eventually settle down for "real" later on). I didn't get married until I was almost 30, so it's not that I felt that I needed to live life first, I just needed to find a partner who was one I wanted to actually be with for the long haul. I suppose if I had really prioritized having children, I could have settled for Mr. Wrong, but instead, I risked age-related infertility to wait for the right person. <br /><br />Very interesting article. I hope it helps women to realize that you really *can't* put things off forever.katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08056463808792013011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-66563074530794622972010-10-16T19:01:55.830-04:002010-10-16T19:01:55.830-04:00I agree with the others here. I also wish I had k...I agree with the others here. I also wish I had known then, what I know now. Growing up in the 70s and 80s, it seemed that women almost had an obligation to use the opportunities we now had in terms of employment, and that having a baby too young was "copping out." Or at least, that's how I felt. And so when things didn't work out, I'd left it too late. And of course, only then did the media rather belatedly started publishing articles like this, about women leaving it too late. I felt as if I was being scolded repeatedly for my ignorance!Malihttp://aseparatelife.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-39323946989205682202010-10-15T21:41:05.778-04:002010-10-15T21:41:05.778-04:00For sure - if I knew then what I know now I certai...For sure - if I knew then what I know now I certainly would have at least stopped paying for birth control sooner.Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11509124764568535676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-60205164893094042992010-10-15T17:24:45.226-04:002010-10-15T17:24:45.226-04:00Yeah, I was one of those people that assumed IVF w...Yeah, I was one of those people that assumed IVF would "fix" everything. Then again, I met DH when I was 33 and it took him 5 years to marry me, so trying to get pregnant probably wouldn't have been in the cards before then. No happy accidents for us, that should have been my first clue...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-73935027889951998332010-10-15T09:22:00.801-04:002010-10-15T09:22:00.801-04:00I think it is a dangerous situation because the me...I think it is a dangerous situation because the media presents unrealistic promises (here's this celebrity, having a baby at 49!) I don't think people understand the cost and success rates with IVF. That it's art just as much science, and it won't work for everyone.Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-62753606220983843992010-10-15T01:00:33.026-04:002010-10-15T01:00:33.026-04:00Very interesting article, but you do always seem t...Very interesting article, but you do always seem to find them :)<br /><br />I know I wasn't the most educated about fertility treatments when we began, and had a lot of misconceptions (Like that they'd work in the end... not true for everyone. That one stings a lot when people assume it...)<br /><br />Very thought provoking as usual.AnotherDreamerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11487881766884178761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-43545280997827313532010-10-14T20:43:24.095-04:002010-10-14T20:43:24.095-04:00This is really interesting. In my case, I had fam...This is really interesting. In my case, I had family aunts,sister who got pregnant late 30's(no issues) and my stepmom at 40. It didn't occur to me and I didn't look into the fact that getting pregnant later was going to be hard. Ignorance is no excuse but I certainly wasn't holding out knowing IVF was in my back pocket....my IVF consult scared the wits out of me...no one does that willingly. ;) Great post.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06570776538075102886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178366214524455884.post-43296863262527144532010-10-14T19:28:10.698-04:002010-10-14T19:28:10.698-04:00you always post such interesting articles!
I real...you always post such interesting articles!<br /><br />I really wish I hadn't waited so long... it just happened without me even thinking about it! And now I am starting to worry about the clock in trying for the next one...<br /><br />It's the burden of women's liberation - now we get to work our tails off AND try to have a family. I know I got caught up in a falsely satisfying career and wish I hadn't...Ya Chunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08816837461370619194noreply@blogger.com