Tuesday, July 11, 2017

Anniversary getaway: Niagara-on-the-Lake

Niagara-on-the-Lake, Ontario:  clock/cenotaph and court house (now a theatre).
We first visited Niagara-on-the-Lake, Ontario (not Niagara Falls -- Niagara-on-the-Lake! -- there's a difference!!),  back in June 1984.  My parents & I drove across northern Minnesota, Wisconsin & the Upper Peninsula of Michigan, through Detroit (quite an experience in itself...!!) and across the Ambassador Bridge to Windsor (where dh -- then just my boyfriend -- was finishing up his MBA) and on to London (Ontario), where -- main purpose of the trip -- I picked up my master's degree diploma at convocation.

Then we cut through the backroads of southwestern Ontario to the tourist trap (cough, cough -- errrr, hotspot?? mecca?? honeymoon capital??) of Niagara Falls (the first time for all three of us). After spending the night there, we drove up the Niagara River Parkway about a half hour to the town of Niagara-on-the-Lake. (And then continued on to Toronto, so that my parents could meet dh's father before we headed home -- but that's another story for another day...)

I'd been living in southwestern Ontario for the past year, attending grad school, so I think I must have heard about NOTL then, and its Shaw Festival -- a professional theatre festival/company, which performs the works of George Bernard Shaw and his contemporaries on three different stages in town from approximately May through October/November every year (as opposed to the Stratford Festival in Stratford, Ontario, which does Shakespeare -- albeit not exclusively these days). (We took a trip to Stratford for our 24th anniversary in 2009, and I blogged about it here.)    

We didn't spend any time in NOTL then -- I think we just drove through to have a look at the place. But what little we got to see enchanted us, and we vowed to return. 

We did, two years later, in August 1986. My parents came back to visit us in our tiny apartment in midtown Toronto, and we decided that we wanted to go back to NOTL & spend more time there. (We did the falls again too.)  We've returned a number of times since then, both with my parents and by ourselves, for a few hours and for a few days. It's about a 2.5 hour drive from our old home and just 1.5 hours from our current location (in good traffic). 

Over these 30+ years, there have been many changes in NOTL.  Some say it has been "Disneyfied," and it is definitely much more "commercial" than it was 20 or 30 years ago.  (It's also gotten a lot more expensive...!)  While chains were once banned in the old town, main street today includes a Starbucks as well as a Sunset Grill restaurant.  And development (both commercial & residential) along the roads leading into town  is running amok.

But the quiet smalltown charm remains, drawing hundreds, perhaps thousands of visitors every day throughout the summer months.  The town dates back to the 1700s, and was the original capital of the province of Upper Canada (what eventually became Ontario).  It survived the War of 1812 -- the Americans burned it to the ground in 1813, but it was rebuilt, and there are many beautiful old homes homes and commercial buildings from the early to mid-1800s. The town offers accommodations in a number of charming old inns, small luxury boutique hotels, and bed-and-breakfast establishments -- although, for those who prefer the tried-and-true and don't mind a bit of driving, there are now a couple of larger chain hotels a few miles outside of town near the highway (including a Hilton Garden Inn). The number of vineyards & wineries in the area has exploded since we first visited the area -- many of them world-class, most of them offering tours and tastings, and some with fine dining in onsite restaurants. There are other excellent restaurants in town, and great shopping too -- as well as a (relatively new) humungous outlet mall just outside town on the Queen Elizabeth Way (QEW, the main highway between Toronto & Niagara) that offers some great shopping.  

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We hadn't been back to NOTL for an overnight stay since our 20th wedding anniversary in 2005 -- or even a day visit since October 2014 -- and I decided it was time for a return trip!  

Several of the hotels I looked at were booked for the dates we wanted (at least the lower-priced rooms -- which can still be pretty expensive...!)(and whose idea was it to get married the same week as both Canada Day & the Fourth of July, not to mention the kickoff period for summer vacation??). I eventually found us accommodation at the Charles Hotel -- where we'd previously stayed back in the late 1980s/early 1990s when it was newly transformed from a private residence to an inn and called the Kiely House. We thoroughly enjoyed our stays then, and I was curious to see what had changed (& what hadn't) in the years since our last visit. 

The house that's now the hotel/inn was built in 1832 (!), and comes with tons of atmosphere and interesting architectural & decorative details, including wraparound porches, both open & screened in, that just beg to be sat on with a good book & cold drink (or a cup of tea).  There's a lovely garden, and a view of the neighbouring Niagara-on-the-Lake golf club, the oldest golf club in Canada. It's just a few blocks walk from downtown and the three Shaw Festival theatres. It's not child UNfriendly -- no doubt there are families with children that have stayed there -- (no pets allowed) -- but I would say it's definitely more of a romantic/couples kind of place. In other words, perfect for a childless couple celebrating their wedding anniversary. :)

Front entrance

Front of the house, from an angle. The patio is part of the restaurant/bar. 
Back of the inn, with a view of the golf course next door.
Dh, my parents & I stayed on the second floor 30+ years ago.
Hugely enjoyed the veranda!! 

We arrived on Thursday afternoon shortly after 3 p.m. (check in time) and found ourselves assigned to the Daisy Room, which was on the ground floor, just off of the front veranda where breakfast was served each day. The room was smallish but comfortable & nicely furnished. (Most important, perhaps, on a horribly hot & humid day, it was air conditioned!! -- all the rooms are.)

The Daisy Room.
The bathroom was large with a large, newish glassed-in shower cubicle, complete with rainforest shower head (ahhhh....!!).

Bathroom
And -- bonus!! there was a lovely little private screened-in porch for our exclusive use. It reminded me of the (much smaller) screened in porch on the side of my grandmother's house, where we used to gather in the evening to drink coffee & socialize with visiting relatives and neighbours.  I spent a couple of happy hours out there (heat & humidity be damned... ) reading and watching the people & traffic go by.

A partial view of the private screened-in porch
accessible only from our room.
I'd made us an early dinner reservation at the hotel's well-reviewed restaurant, called the HobNob, which was located in the beautiful double drawing room. We had a table near the window. There were two other tables while we dined (with more arriving as we finished), and while there was music, it wasn't too loud, so we were actually able to carry on a conversation, lol. We decided not to have appetizers, but did have dessert. :)  I had salmon while dh had chicken, and we both thought our meals were amazing -- crisp on the outside and tender on the inside.

Where we had dinner on our anniversary. 
After a most enjoyable dinner, we hiked over to the other side of town. I'd bought us theatre tickets to see "Me and My Girl" at the Shaw Festival Theatre.  I knew nothing about it, except that it was a musical.  It turned out to be a British musical from the late 1930s, the story of a Cockney guy who discovers that he's an earl, and the clash of classes & cultures that unfolds when he meets his new family. I had heard of one of the song & dance numbers, "The Lambeth Walk" -- and realized that I could sing along with another, "Leaning on a Lamppost," which was jazzed up a bit & recorded in the 1960s by my original boy band idols, Herman's Hermits (!!).  :)  Well done and thoroughly enjoyable.

We had breakfast the next morning (and the morning after that, before we left) on the veranda near our room. (Price not included with the room.)  Again, the service was great, and the food...!  We both ordered the maple cinnamon brioche French toast, which came with maple syrup, fresh fruit, potatos, sausage and bacon fried just the way I like it (crisp), and arrived piping hot.  The tea came in a proper china teapot (yay! -- no leaky metal horrors...) & dh's coffee was made fresh in a French press. He said it was great & wants to look for one for himself now. ;) The breakfast (served from 8 to 10 a.m.) was ample enough that we didn't need to eat lunch (although we did wind up having afternoon snacks later...!).

The front veranda, where breakfast was served. 
As I mentioned, Niagara is famous for its vineyards & wineries. We thought about doing a winery tour on Friday afternoon -- there are even tour companies that will pick you up, drive you around to several wineries and then take you back to your lodgings. But while dh & I enjoy the occasional glass of wine with dinner, neither of us are big drinkers (out of practice since our student days!! lol) -- we toured one winery several years ago and attended a tasting seminar, & left wondering whether dh should really be driving...!  The tour company our hotel recommended offers several different packages, most of which took you to three different wineries, where you'd sample a minimum of three wines each = approximately 9 (usually generous) samplings within a few hours (on a very hot, humid day). A glass of wine at lunchtime used to leave me relatively useless for the rest of the workday;  I figured a tour would probably do both of us in for the rest of our day in NOTL. So we decided to skip the wine tour this time around.

We also thought about going to Niagara Falls, but we've been there several times before -- it's always jammed with people, parking is horribly expensive, and the weather forecast was predicting thunderstorms.

So instead, we spent a pleasant few hours walking up & down main street and poking into the many wonderful little shops (including the Christmas store, the jam shop, and an obligatory stop at the fudge shop, which has been there since 1967). Then we drove back out toward the QEW and the outlet mall, where I picked up a new nightgown, some tops and jewelry from some of my favourite stores.

Back in town, we decided to wander back up the main street and find a place to eat dinner, without making reservations. The restaurant we chose was well rated online -- but we found it just adequate but nothing really special.  Next time, we'll try somewhere else. We did save room for dessert, and stopped for gelato at one of several gelato/ice cream shops on the main street, then strolled through Simcoe Park while we ate it.

We spent a LOT of time walking while we were in town -- it's a very walkable place.  By the time we left, though, my feet and knees were killing me....!  It was VERY hot & humid when we arrived on Thursday;  not quite as hot (but still pretty warm and still very humid) on Friday.  Although the chances of rain & thunderstorms were given as 60-70% in the forecast, we didn't get a drop. Saturday, of course, was wonderfully pleasant. Figures!!

Saturday morning, we had breakfast, took another walk around the neighbourhood, and then checked out & headed back home.

We will be back, sooner rather than later...! 

If you are in Toronto/southern Ontario, Niagara Falls is certainly a must-see. The falls themselves are spectacular (tip: Americans, get your passport & come on over to the Canadian side -- the view is better.)(And I'm not just saying that because I'm Canadian, lol.)  I'll admit I haven't actually spent much time in the town itself in recent years, but it tends to be on the kitschy/commercial/tourist-trap-ish side. A lot of my friends with children love taking their kids there to Great Wolf Lodge, Marine Land, ziplining, the wax museum, etc. (as well as the traditional Maid of the Mist boat tours & Table Rock, etc.).  There's a casino with shows & gambling, if that's your taste.

But I always urge everyone to take the drive up the Niagara Parkway and spend some time in Niagara-on-the-Lake too. You won't regret it! 

Monday, July 10, 2017

#MicroblogMondays: Great minds, etc.

I will tell you more about our anniversary getaway in another post soon -- but first I wanted to tell you about the day started. :)  Dh & I don't usually buy each other anniversary gifts, but we have a tradition of exchanging cards first thing when we wake up (and I have kept every one of them). I knew that we had both bought our cards at the local megabookstore, where the selection isn't huge, and the thought crossed my mind that, "Wouldn't it be funny if...?"

The night before our anniversary, I came into our bedroom, purple envelope containing my card to dh in hand to prop up on his night table -- and saw a purple envelope propped up on MY night table. Hmmmm....

You can probably guess the rest. We opened our cards the next morning at the same time. Gales of laughter ensued.  I guess this is what happens when you've known each other almost 36 years and been married for 32 (along with finishing each other's sentences, knowing exactly what the other person is going to say before they open their mouth, etc. etc....!) (You know you've been married a long time when....)(Great minds think alike, etc. etc....)

Me & dh & our identical anniversary cards. ;)
The printing is backwards because we were using
the mirror to help us take the selfie.
(Give us a break; we're aging baby boomers navigating newfangled technology
and no kids around to take a photo for us, lol.) 
Does stuff like this ever happen to you & your dh/partner/best friend or other person you are very close to?? 

You can find more of this week's #MicroblogMondays posts here.

Wednesday, July 5, 2017

Hear me, heal me...

A Facebook find... and very true!! 

Right now

Right now... (an occasional meme, alternating from time to time with "The Current"):  

Reading:  Between books right now. (Spending too much time online vs reading books lately..!. :p ) 
Most recent purchases: "Tribe" by Sebastian Junger;  "The Reason You Walk" by Wab Kinew,  "The Alice Network" by Kate Quinn and "The House by the Lake" by Thomas Harding.  

Watching:  On TV:  
Finished watching "Genius" (about Albert Einstein) on the National Geographic channel, and "The Handmaid's Tale" on Bravo Canada. Since getting Netflix recently, we've watched season one of "The Crown" and all seven episodes of "The Keepers."  Trying to decide what to watch next. :) 

A news show that's become one of my favourites in recent months is "Reliable Sources" with Brian Stelter on CNN on Sunday mornings. As a journalist/communicator & a news junkie since childhood, I love the in-depth analysis of news coverage and media issues. (ALI note: Brian & his wife Jamie recently became parents of a baby girl via IVF, after several losses.)  

At the movies, we went to see "Despicable Me 3" this past weekend (yep, dh & me and a theatre full of parents & small children...!).  It was just mildly amusing for the most part -- the Minions play a much smaller role than they have in previous DM movies -- but the scenes they are in are still pretty funny...!   

Eating & Drinking:  Trying to be careful, after some rumblings from my gallbladder again over the past few weeks...! :(   Hoping things won't flare up while we're away later this week. :(  

Following: The adventures of Crusoe the Celebrity Dachshund (and his brother Oakley) on Facebook & Instagram, since Oldest Nephew & his wife got their own miniature doxie last year. Some hilarious videos. :)  


Also, construction work has picked up again on the townhouse site behind us, after a lull over the past 2-3 months. They have yet to pour a foundation or frame a single wall, but there has been progress made on the fence that will border the property and separate the townhouses from the homes behind them. 

Listening: To dh snoring as he naps on the couch. ;)  

Wearing:  Capris, sandals & wonderful summer tops -- no jackets required!! AT LAST!!  


Buying (besides books, lol):  A lot of summer clothes & sandals. More than I need, probably -- but I find it next to impossible to walk out of Old Navy without a bag in my hand...  :p  ;)  

Planning:  A little getaway for our upcoming wedding anniversary later this week :) as well as our trip to see my family later this month.

Monitoring: The weather. The current forecast is calling for rain both days we're away, after sunshine the rest of the week. Figures...! 

Wondering:  Why do I always forget to put on sunscreen the first few times we spend any length of time outdoors during the summer??!  I have fair skin and always get burned. :p  (Happened again at a recent family gathering...! :p ) 

Feeling:  Like the summer is already going by way too fast :(  -- but looking forward to the rest of it! :) 

Monday, July 3, 2017

#MicroblogMondays: 32

It's our 32nd (!!) wedding anniversary later this week.  I'm not sure I have much more to say, or insight to offer, beyond what I've already written in previous wedding/anniversary posts. But I thought it was worth noting, nevertheless. ;)  (Besides which, it's become a bit of a blog tradition...!) ;)

In last year's anniversary post, I reflected on several years of "challenges, upheavals, changes," and how stressful 2016 had been to that point. But -- "things have been looking up again," I noted.

Our wedding cake (July 6, 1985). 
I'd call year #32 a year of adjustment and settling in (and that continues...!) -- but definitely a year that was a lot happier than the one that preceded it. ;)  Dh is so much happier with our new surroundings (crazy local drivers and traffic aside...!), and while I still have my reservations about the community itself, I adore our condo, and I am so happy that dh has been so much happier as a result of the move. If I have to go through big life changes (and we've had more than our share...!) and new experiences, there is no one else I'd rather have with me for the ride. :)

Even though it's not one of those anniversaries that's divisible by 5, we're doing something a little special to celebrate this year, beyond our usual dinner out.  I will tell you more about it in a future post. :)

You can find more of this week's #MicroblogMondays posts here.  

Saturday, July 1, 2017

Canada 150

The differences between Canada & other countries -- and most especially our neighbour, the United States -- are often remarked upon and pondered, and most especially at this time of year, as both countries mark their national holidays (Canada Day for us on July 1st;  Independence Day for the Americans on July 4th).

Canadians have gotten more comfortable in recent years about expressing their love for our country, but (one difference) we still don't wave the flag and wear our patriotism on our sleeves in quite the same way as our cousins south of the border do. But make no mistake, we are fiercely proud to be Canadian, and think (no, KNOW) we live in the greatest country in the world. ;)  And I for one am incredibly grateful to be Canadian. I often say that I won the lottery of life when I was born in Canada in the latter half of the 20th century, particularly as a woman!

This year, July 1st marks 150 years since Confederation, when four British North American colonies -- Ontario/Upper Canada, Quebec/Lower Canada, Nova Scotia and New Brunswick (eventually joined by others) -- joined forces as the Dominion of Canada, with the capital city located in Ottawa, as chosen by Her Majesty Queen Victoria (whose birthday we celebrate every year in May in recognition of her role in Canada's creation). Some of my ancestors lived in the Ottawa Valley at the time, and I sometimes wonder what they thought about this new arrangement, and how they marked the occasion of Confederation (if at all).

I am old enough (gulp) that I can remember Canada's centennial year, 1967 -- although it definitely gives me pause to realize that it's now FIFTY (50) YEARS AGO!!! I was 6 years old, living in a small town in northern Saskatchewan, just out of kindergarten that June, and entering Grade 1 in the fall. Most "anniversaries" these days tend to be overhyped, and those were definitely simpler times, but it seems to me there was more hoopla surrounding the 100-year milestone back then. Or maybe it's just that I was 6 years old, and everything is pretty darn exciting and awe-inspiring when you're that age.

I don't remember much about the actual day itself (back then, it was called "Dominion Day" -- it was changed to the much blander "Canada Day" when I was in university), except that we drove the 18 miles from my grandparents' house in the northwestern-most corner of Minnesota, where we spent several weeks every summer of my childhood, to the Manitoba border town where I was born and where my other grandparents farmed nearby, and watched the local fireworks display with some of my cousins.  I also remember my mother taking me (& I assume my sister too) to visit the Centennial Caravan (an offshoot of the Confederation Train project), a travelling display of Canadian history highlights.  And I remember that my best friend's parents travelled to far-off Montreal to attend Expo 67, the world's fair.

I don't remember anyone wearing special T-shirts to mark the occasion (not such a big thing back then), but I did carry away three lasting souvenirs from that year. One is in my jewelry box to this day:  a stickpin with the centennial logo, which was handed out to us in school that fall.

My 1967 centennial pin.
It looks kind of aqua/green here, but it's actually blue. 
(Not everyone got a pin. Some got flags, some got bumper stickers... I guess I lucked out. ;)  ) The other two keepsakes are still at my parents' house, somewhere: a blue flag with the centennial logo on it, which my mother bought me as a reward for good behaviour at the dentist's office. And a 45 record of the ubiquitous theme song for the occasion:  "Ca-na-da"* by Bobby Gimby -- English on the red A side and French on the other (blue label). The record got cracked and my father applied a piece of masking tape on the French side by way of repair (oops -- not especially politically correct of you, Dad ;)  ), so we could only play the English version thereafter (with clicks as the record needle passed over the crack).

We don't really have any plans to mark this historic occasion. As with other holidays, I think that when you have children, you tend to make more of an effort to make these occasions memorable for them -- perhaps especially so when they are once-in-a-lifetime historic events (such as Centennial, or the U.S. Bicentennial, which I remember even better than Centennial, being 15 at the time vs 6...!). I don't think we'll be heading to any of the community gatherings. I'm not especially keen on large crowds at the best of times -- let alone these days when there are more sinister things to worry about than getting separated from your party (and of course that's easily remedied since the advent of cellphones...!), finding parking (and getting out of it at the same time as everyone else later on), and trying to avoid using the port-a-potties. ;) Plus, the weather forecast (unfortunately) is not looking that great.

Whatever we do, I'm planning on wearing the Canada T-shirt that I bought specially for the occasion, and my sterling silver "Maple Leaf Forever" necklace (made by a friend of Msfitzita's -- check out her stuff, it is gorgeous!). We may watch some of the broadcast of the celebrations from Parliament Hill in Ottawa -- especially because (a) it will be the final broadcast by Peter Mansbridge, who is retiring after 50 (!!) years with the CBC, the last 30 as chief correspondent & anchor of "The National" nightly news broadcast;  and (b)  U2 (or at least, Bono & the Edge) will be performing!

Later on, dh & I will probably watch the neighbourhood fireworks from our condo balcony.  There were some pretty spectacular displays going on all around us over the Victoria Day long weekend in May, so I have high hopes for the same on Canada's 150th birthday weekend!

Happy Canada Day 150!

*  I hadn't listened to the song in years before I went looking for a YouTube clip to share here. It seems incredibly schmaltzy from a 2017 perspective -- but damn, if I didn't get a huge lump in my throat while listening/watching... 

Friday, June 30, 2017

Can you be a Real Housewife if you don't have kids?

The NotMom flagged an article on Facebook this week about "The Real Housewives of New York City" and how Real Housewife Carole Radziwill has been shamed by her castmates because she doesn't have kids.

Now, I have never watched (I have never had the slightest interest in watching!) any of the "Real Housewives" shows on TV, aside from occasional glimpses while dh channel-surfs. (These are "real housewives?? Seriously??) (The closest I've ever gotten to the show was when I spent a girls' weekend in New York City a few years back and the driver of the stretch limo we'd hired told us the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills had been recent passengers.)

But my interest was piqued, not only because of the childless/free angle, but because I read (and loved) Radziwill's beautiful memoir, "What Remains," several years ago (mini-review here, at the end of a fuller review of another book). "What Remains" tells the story of Radziwill's marriage to Anthony Radziwill (son of Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis's younger sister Lee, and thus a nephew to Jackie O. & the late President, and a cousin to Caroline & John Kennedy Jr.), her friendship with JFK Jr. and (especially) his wife, Carolyn Bessette, and how she tragically lost all three of them within a few short weeks in the summer of 1999, when she was 36 years old.  (She's now 53.)

Everyone knows the sad story of JFK Jr and Carolyn and how they died.  Anthony died a few weeks later after a long struggle with cancer. (JFK Jr had been working on a eulogy for his cousin at the time of his own death.) He had already had one bout of cancer before he and Carole met in 1990, when they were both working for ABC News. She knew when she married him (in 1994) that he could not have children. Nevertheless, they built a life together as "two news junkies who liked travel and the chase of a story." As she told Britain's Daily Mail in 2013:
"I knew that he couldn't have kids, and that wasn't in any way a deal-breaker for me. I just wasn't that girl who dreamed about getting married and having children. Those weren't the priorities for me. Now, looking back, I think it would have been nice to have a child... But I'm not going to sit around and mope about it." 
I'll admit I was surprised when I heard Radziwill had agreed to be on the show. I don't know much about her beyond her book & some of the articles about her I read when it first came out, and admittedly I've never watched the show, but beyond her lack of children, she doesn't seem like a typical "Housewife of."

Because I've never watched the show, I don't know what, if anything, Radziwill has said there about not having children -- but it sounds like she is happy with her life today (which apparently includes a much-younger boyfriend).  I'll admit, I have no idea what the article is talking about when it refers to all the drama going on among the Housewives -- and there may (or may not) be reasons for the others to be upset with her.

But not having children should not be one of them.

(Anyone watch the show? Care to enlighten me on anything I'm missing here?)