Showing posts with label holidays. Show all posts
Showing posts with label holidays. Show all posts

Friday, July 3, 2026

Bicentennial memories

I was 15 years old during in the summer of 1976. I'm Canadian, but my mother was American, and I spent a lot of time in Minnesota with my grandparents and extended family during the holidays -- especially the summertime -- every summer (until I was 17 and got a part-time summer job that cut into my traditional lazy summers,  anyway). In 1974, we'd moved to a town that was closer to the border and to where my grandparents lived -- an easy drive for a weekend's visit -- so we were able to spend a lot more time there than we had in the past. 

So I was in the U.S. a fair bit during the two years leading up to U.S. Bicentennial celebrations, as well as on/around July 4, 1976, itself.  My memories from 50 (!!) years ago are not as sharp as they once were, but I do have some from that time. 

You couldn't NOT notice what was going on!  There was a huge buildup in the years, months and weeks ahead of July 1976 -- including two-plus years' worth of Bicentennial Minutes -- brief snippets of American Revolutionary history, broadcast nightly on the CBS TV network, narrated by CBS actors.  You can watch some of them on YouTube! (of course!)  Moving closer to the border meant we could pull in some U.S. TV stations with our rotary antenna (cable came to our town a few years later) -- CBS was a little out of our range (although we could sometimes pick up a fuzzy picture on an especially clear night, or after a thunderstorm), but there was plenty of other Bicentennial-related content on the ABC and NBC affiliates we could pick up. I think it's safe to say that Canadian kids of my generation grew up knowing more about American historical events/mythology and figures from watching American TV than we did about our own country's story.   

Norman Rockwell, the artist whose work is synonymous with "Americana," was from New England, but I used to see his paintings and immediately think of my mom's small hometown in Minnesota (population about 1,400, back then).  It was that kind of place and that kind of vibe.  As part of its Bicentennial celebrations, the town organized a huge all-school reunion -- which meant that, even more than usual, my grandmother's little house was full of neighbours, old friends and relatives who had come "home" for the occasion, dropping by to visit. Grandma always had a pot of coffee percolating on the gas stove, home-baked goodies in the pantry, and a warm welcome for everyone who came through the door. The screened-in back porch, covered in Virginia creeper, was always full of people, sitting and chatting and laughing. It wasn't a big porch, but I'm always amazed when I think of how many people we were able to pack in there!  

On the 4th of July itself, we all went downtown to watch a big parade and, later that evening, drove to another nearby town to watch fireworks. In between, we hand-cranked homemade ice cream on the screened-in back porch, in an old-fashioned ice-cream making tub (packed with ice and rock salt), which we ate with fresh local strawberries. I remember my uncle and cousins setting off their own fireworks in the field behind Grandma's house, and lighting sparklers in the back yard, although I'm not sure if those memories are from Bicentennial 4th or other Fourth of Julys, growing up. 

There were lots of cousins and extended family in the area at that time -- the ones who lived there then, and others who were visiting -- and we drove to my great-aunt's house, about about an hour away, for a barbecue/mini-reunion with relatives from my grandmother's side of the family.  Those present included our hostess (Grandma's sister-in-law, divorced from Grandma's brother, but still close to everyone in the family), her son (Mom's cousin, 22 years old at the time), who lived with her, and her daughter, who lived/lives in California, was there with her husband and two kids; my parents, grandparents & sister;  my uncle, his wife and my two cousins; another great-aunt (Grandma's older sister), her daughter (another cousin of Mom's, who was also my godmother) and her two daughters. Years later, the California cousin's husband sent me some digitized photos from that day, including a group photo of all the kids, and another of me, my sister and the next two oldest girl cousins, sitting in one of the cars, windows open, listening to music on the radio (and running down the car battery, no doubt...!) and reading Tiger Beat magazine. :)  

All the kids in those photos are now in their late 50s and early/mid-60s. (I am the oldest cousin of my generation on that side of the family. Interestingly, only three of the eight of us who were there that day have kids.) Of the adults in the photos, my grandparents, my two great-aunts, my mom, her brother (my uncle), their then-22-year-old cousin and the California cousin's husband who sent me the photos, are gone. Just two of my mom's cousins who were there, as well as my uncle's wife and my dad, are still with us today.  

Maybe it's the loss and the absence of these wonderful people. Maybe it's the charged political atmosphere today (although 1976 wasn't too far removed from the turmoil of Watergate and Vietnam, etc.).  Maybe it's because I haven't been to the States in several years, and haven't been able to absorb the atmosphere for myself. Maybe there just doesn't seem to be as much hoopla, that I've noticed from the other side of the border, anyway. Maybe I'm just feeling nostalgic, fuelled by so many reminders of the past while helping my sister clear out our parents' house recently.  Maybe I'm just getting older, and looking back through rose-coloured glasses.  

But I'm not feeling the same sense of anticipation and excitement about tomorrow's milestone holiday, from where I sit across the border, or from my family & friends there...  

I miss them all. 

Tuesday, July 1, 2025

Right now

Right now...* 

*(A (mostly) monthly series/meme.  Explanation of how this started & my inspirations in my first "Right now" post, here. Also my first (similar) "The Current" post, here.)

Today is Canada Day... and let's just say it's hitting a little differently this year. We're generally not a nation of ardent flag-wavers -- our patriotism is a much quieter variety than that of our neighbours to the south. But I think that is starting to change because of (cough!) recent events... and make no mistake, we are very proud of our country, our unique history and culture. And today especially, we celebrate that!  

June flew by... and here we are, halfway through 2025 already!)  The weather gradually warmed up -- and then got REALLY (dangerously!) hot & humid last week, just after we officially welcomed summer -- albeit it's been cloudy/overcast  more often than not -- there still hasn't been quite enough blue sky & sunshine for my liking (hopefully a few weeks in sunny Manitoba will help remedy that...!).  We also had to contend with several days of smoke haze and poor air quality -- the results of massive forest fires out west, in Manitoba & Saskatchewan.  :(  

This month, we

  • Ran several errands on June 2nd:  deposited a cheque at the bank ABM, picked up dh's prescription at the drugstore, and had a browse (and bought some Father's Day cards) at the local mega-bookstore. 
  • Went to the mall to walk & shop, June 3rd, 10th, 17th & 24th. 
  • Returned to the mall in our old community on Friday, June 6th, for haircuts & shopping, with a brief stop at the cemetery (shrouded in smoke from the wildfires 1000+ miles away in Manitoba & Saskatchewan...!) to visit Katie. (Did not get to visit Little Great-Niece at SIL's, which we would usually do on a Friday.) 
    • Stopped at the supermarket en route home to pick up a few things plus some pizza slices for lunch.  
  • Went to the nearby park and then had tea & snacks with SIL & Little Great-Niece on the mornings of Friday the 13th (!) and Friday the 27th. 
    • Stopped off at the nearby supermarket en route home on the 13th to pick up a few things plus some pizza slices for lunch. 
  • Also spent Friday morning, June 20th, at SIL's. LGNiece was there as usual, and Older Nephew's Wife arrived a while later with both LGNephews -- she dropped off LGNephew #2 with us and then took LGNephew #1 for his regular checkup with the family doctor.  When they returned, we took LGNephew #1 and LGNiece to the nearby park to play, and when we got home, BIL brought them both Happy Meals for lunch from McDonalds (before heading back to work).  A good time was had by all! (But we were both exhausted!  lol)  
  • Went to BIL's for a barbecue with them, the nephews & their families, on Saturday, June 14th (before Father's Day). All was well until the presents came out. (Ouch.)  But it was lovely to spend some time with them all, especially Little Great-Nephew #1 -- we hadn't seen him since Easter ( = 2 months!).  (He's now a kindergarten graduate!)   
  • Headed downtown (through morning rush hour traffic!) for 9 AM dentist appointments on Wednesday, June 18th. (Lesson learned:  Our next appointments will be at 11 AM!  lol) 
    • Returned on Monday, June 30th (for 10:45 AM!  lol) for two fillings (mine). Ugh!  
  • Went to Costco on June 25th for the first time in YEARS to try to renew our long-lapsed membership. (The girl at the entrance blanched when she scanned my card and saw the date it expired!)  I forgot to change the address on our membership when we moved here (in 2016!), and thus I never received the renewal notice. By the time I realized this, it had long expired. We didn't shop there a lot (even when we had more storage space at the house!) -- partly because dh loathes the place, lol -- but a membership does come in handy from time to time! And while they are not Canadian, they are well known for treating their employees well (stepSIL has worked at a Costco for many years), which is good to see!   

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Also right now:  

Reading: I finished 4 books in June (all reviewed on this blog, as well as Goodreads & StoryGraph, & tagged "2025 books"):  
This brings me to 20 books read in 2025 to date, 44% of my 2025 Goodreads Reading Challenge goal of 45 books. I am (for the moment, anyway...!) 2 books behind pace to meet my goal.  :) 

Current reads: 
  • "A Place of Greater Safety" by Hilary Mantel, the current slow read with Footnotes and Tangents, which began May 5th and runs for 20 weeks (until Sept. 15th). Currently 34% completed. 
  • "Miss Buncle Married" by D.E. Stevenson, for my D.E. Stevenson group.  Our group discussion began on April 21st, and I'll count this as another re-read once we're finished (in July). I've read the book twice before on my own (once in 2015 and again prior to the start of our group read & discussion -- see above! Currently 84% completed.  (Original 2015 review here;  most recent review here). 
  • "Living the Life Unexpected" by Jody Day.  I'm once again taking part in a chapter-by-chapter group read of this CNBC classic!  The most recent Zoom meeting covered Chapter 11.  This is the 5th (!) time I've read this book, or the earlier version of it ("Rocking the Life Unexpected").  (Most recent review, with links to earlier reviews, here.)  
  • "L.M. Montgomery and Gender," an essay collection edited by E. Holly Pike & Laura Robinson. Slowly working my way through, in between the other books...! 
Coming up: Most of my book groups have their next reads plotted out for a few months in advance -- and listing them here helps me keep track of what I should be reading next. ;)  
(Simon is a big fan of the late great Hilary Mantel, and the other books he's selected were all ones that she loved, so he figured they would probably be worth reading!) 

A few recently purchased titles (all in digital format, mostly discounted ($5-10 or less) or purchased with points):  


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Watching
  • The NHL Stanley Cup hockey playoffs -- at least until the Winnipeg Jets & Toronto Maple Leafs were eliminated in the second round (sob). :(    Cheered for the Edmonton Oilers vs the Florida Panthers, the eventual winners for the second year in a row.  :(   (Even so, I do think hockey in June is pretty ridiculous...! -- the season never went this long when I was growing up -- but then, the league was much smaller then...!)  
  • Canadian Football League (CFL)  football (especially if my beloved Winnipeg Blue Bombers are playing).  I really don't pay a lot of attention to football -- dh watches more than I do -- but if football is going to be on the TV, I would much rather it be the Canadian variety! (And I've felt that way for decades!) 
  • Canada Day fireworks from our condo windows/balcony. Today is Canada Day, but we've already been seeing fireworks every night since Friday (!).  Tonight's should be the peak, though!  
Playing:  
  • Heardle Decades: Stats as of June 30th:  
    • Heardle 60s: 75.2% (729/969, 288 on first guess), unchanged from last month. Max. streak: 15.
    • Heardle 70s: 77.6% (548/706, 310 on first guess), down 0.2% from last month. Max. streak: 18. 
    • Heardle 80s: 39.4% (227/576, 81 on first guess), up 0.6% from last month. Max. streak: 5.
    • Heardle 90s: 31.4% (214/678, 50 on first guess), unchanged from last month. Max. streak: 5. 
  • NYT Connections:  
    • By May 31st, I'd played 307 games and won 85% of them, including 156 "perfect puzzles," including 6 where I got the most difficult/purple category first (unchanged from last month)  And I ended the month by matching my maximum winning streak of 34!  
    • By June 30th, I'd completed 337 games and won 85% of them, including 172 "perfect puzzles" with zero errors, including 8 where I got the most difficult/purple category first.  And I increased my maximum winning streak to 45!  :)   (Current streak at 2!)  
Following:  

Eating/Drinking:  
  • As I've mentioned before, we achieved our goal of lowering our cholesterol levels in late January, after less-than-stellar bloodwork last fall earned us both serious chats with our family doctor -- and we've been trying to maintain/improve on those numbers (and lose/keep off some extra pounds) since then, by continuing to eat healthier and move at least a little more.    
    • The numbers on the scale have continued to yo-yo a bit, but I still ended the month another full pound lighter than I was at the end of May. (I'll take it!)  Overall, I've lost 13 pounds since our chat with the doctor last October (dh has lost more than 20), and 25 pounds from my heaviest-ever weight a few years ago. 
  • Notable recent takeout meals: soup, pizza slices, teriyaki rice bowls and rotisserie chicken from the supermarket takeout counter; and Swiss Chalet rotisserie chicken. (Trying to avoid the stuff that's really calorie & fat-laden!) 
Wearing:  Went from capris & T-shirts to shorts and tank tops!  lol  

Buying (besides books, lol): 
  • More Canadian (or, failing that, international) products (vs American -- you can probably guess why...! It's not always easy, though, given how intertwined our two countries' economies & supply chains are...!).(
    • Dh does most of the grocery shopping these days (got into the habit during the pandemic), and isn't quite as careful as I am when it comes to checking labels, etc.!  lol  
  • Plane tickets to see my family out west in July! (Ouch! -- flying within Canada is ridiculously expensive.)  
  • More cute stuff for the great-niblings, from Old Navy, Children's Place and Carters/Oshkosh. 
  • Two pairs of denim capris from Old Navy -- one faded blue, one white (plus a couple of T-shirts). I didn't really NEED new capris, but they were on sale half price ($25 each), so I couldn't resist. The legs are a "skinny" fit -- a bit snugger than I like -- but they're high-waisted, fit me great and felt very comfortable!  
  • Assorted PJs/nightgowns for me & my sister, with a chicken/rooster theme (which is a "thing" in our family), from La Vie en Rose (Canadian lingerie/swimwear chain). Here's a link to one of the pieces (a nightgown)., and you can see some of the others in the collection at the bottom of the page, under "You might also like..." (I did NOT buy them all!  lol -- although it was tempting!).  I've had my eye on these designs for a while, and they finally went on sale!  Half price!  
  • Shoes to go with the new dress(es) I bought for an upcoming family wedding in August. (I wrote about them here.)  
Smelling: It's summer, and (between heat waves) we've had the balcony door open on nice days. Cue the cannabis smells wafting in...  ugh...  :p  

Anticipating:  A busy time ahead, as we count down to our trip west to see my parents, coming up soon!  Also anticipating:  a night at home to myself later this week, when dh, BIL & the nephews attend a stag dinner for their cousin's son (ahead of his wedding in August -- the one I bought the new dress(es) and shoes for!).  

Prioritizing:  The things on my to-do list that need to get done before we leave.  

Hoping: That the ache in my jaw and sensitivity in my teeth & gums (both upper and lower on the right side of my face) disappear soon -- a hangover from my dental appointment yesterday...! (described here). 

Noticing:  My right hip has started bothering me in recent weeks. It started several weeks after my latest tumble (which happened in mid-April), so I don't think it's connected to that. I'm wondering whether I've been overusing it somehow to compensate for my frequently wonky left knee?  Sigh. Getting older sucks sometimes...!  
 
Enjoying:  Having a quiet day at home together... nothing (or very little) open, no calls to go anywhere, less online activity to follow than usual. (Looking forward to another quiet day on Friday = 4th of July in the U.S.!).  

Wondering:  If we'll get to see the great-niblings before we head west? 

Trying:  (and failing!):  To keep on top of my email inbox lately.  I'm not sure it will be any better while we're at my parents' house -- I know from experience that my time is not my own while I'm there...!  (I do check and open anything that looks urgent/important.)  

Wanting:  To treat ourselves to our first gelatos of the summer (haven't been yet!), preferably before we head west.  Today would be perfect for that -- except our favourite gelato shop is closed for Canada Day. Oh well, there's still time...!  

Appreciating:  The amazing country I live in (this year more than ever!).  

Loving:  Seeing lots of photos and videos of the great-niblings on social media & in our family text group, posted by their parents. (I think I wrote something similar for this category last month!  lol -- but it really is a day brightener!)(And I'm glad that it IS a day brightener, and not a source of angst, as it might have been, years ago, when I was deep in grief...!)  
                              
Feeling: Grateful to be Canadian. Grateful for a long and mostly happy marriage (significant anniversary coming up soon).  Grateful for the good life we've built together, even if it hasn't included the children we wanted.  Grateful for my extended family and friends ("real life" and online!).  Grateful for an air conditioning system that's working again! (lol) 

Sunday, June 1, 2025

Right now

Right now...* 

*(A (mostly) monthly series/meme.. Explanation of how this started & my inspirations in my first "Right now" post, here. Also my first (similar) "The Current" post, here.)

May -- the Victoria Day long weekend, at least -- is traditionally regarded as the kickoff to summer in Canada.  This doesn't necessarily mean the weather will be summer-y!  The rule of thumb, at least in the parts of Canada where I grew up, is you don't plant your garden before Victoria Day, because frost is still a distinct possibility.

By mid-May, I'd abandoned my long sleeves & cardigan. The Friday of the Victoria Day long weekend was sunny, warm and humid enough for dh to turn on the air conditioning. I optimistically wiped down the balcony furniture and hopefully pulled out my capris & sandals... only to have to put my long pants & socks back on again (and consider turning the heat back on!), when the weather turned grey, chilly and rainy on Sunday (and mostly stayed that way for the rest of the month...!). In fact, it hadn't been this consistently cold in late May since 1967!!  Thankfully, slightly warmer temperatures (if not the sun itself) returned just before the end of the month.  

This month, we

  • Drove to a bookstore about a half-hour north & east of us on Sunday, May 4th, to attend a book signing by an old friend. (I wrote about her book here.)  
  • Went to the mall to walk & shop (May 5th, 13th, 20th & 27th). 
  • Spent most Friday mornings this month with SIL & Little Great-Niece at BIL & SIL's house. 
    • Some explanation: SIL has been taking care of her granddaughter (Little Great-Niece) two mornings a week, since her mom returned to work part-time last summer.  The other grandmother takes care of her the other three workdays.  Both parents mostly work from home, and the office space in their small townhouse is simply not big enough for both of them, let alone LGNiece and SIL too -- so Younger Nephew started going to the office at his parents' house to work!  Then LGNiece learned to climb stairs (lol) and kept heading up to see what her mother was doing!  So Younger Nephew started bringing LGNiece to his parents' place instead. So far, she's left her dad alone to work -- at least, more than she did with her mother!   
    • We wanted to spend some time with LGNiece (as we did with LGNephew #1 before he started school), but didn't want to add to an already-crowded situation by going to  Younger Nephew's townhouse, even though it's not very far from us. Visiting at BIL & SIL's house, however, is a different situation!  
    • And so, we joined SIL & LGNiece for a walk to the nearby park on May 9th, then returned to the house for tea & snacks. Younger Nephew also came downstairs for a few minutes to say hello (one of the perqs of working remotely!).    
    • Went for a walk around the neighbourhood on May 16th, with SIL & LGNiece (it rained overnight, so it was too wet to spend much time at the park), then back to the house, where BIL (who had the day off work) grilled hot dogs for us all for lunch (including Younger Nephew).  
    • It was raining AGAIN on May 23rd, so we mostly played in the basement. :) 
    • We missed going to the park with SIL & LGNiece on May 30th (they'd already been by the time we got there), but had fun playing in the back yard with the water table & helping SIL water her tomato plants. 
    • LGNiece is much fonder of the women in her life -- happily, including me! -- than the men (not including her daddy)!  It took her a long time to warm up to her nonno (BIL), and for some unknown reason, she is afraid of poor dh (!) who is generally a kid magnet. "I don't want you here," she will sometimes tell him with 2-year-old frankness. She has shown some signs of thawing, but I think it's going to be a long, slow process...!  (But then, when we first started going over to SIL's to visit him (after being largely absent from his life during the worst of the pandemic), LGN #1 used to hide behind his nonna's legs when he saw us coming! -- and he certainly came around!)  
  • After visiting SIL & LGNiece on May 9th, dh & I went out for an early Mother's Day brunch (his idea!). :)  Then to Reitmans (women's wear shop), Chapters (bookstore) and then home. 
  • Went to the bank on the morning of May 21st to arrange an RESP (registered education saving plan) for Little Great-Nephew #2 (as we've done for the other two great-niblings).  
    • A signature from Older Nephew's Wife/the mom was required within three business days -- so dh called her and we drove up there (about an hour, one way) after lunch (takeout pizza slices from the supermarket). (Dh called SIL too, to see if she'd like to come along, but she was busy.)  
    • We only stayed for half an hour or so, but we got to spend time with the baby and take turns holding him.  Also got to see the dog -- albeit I think he was a little miffed that I was holding the baby and not petting him, as I usually do when I'm there, lol.  (LGN #1, of course, was at school.)  The baby is such a happy, smiley little guy, and we hadn't seen him (or LGN #1) since Easter. (Still haven't seen LGN #1 since then!  :(  )  DAY MADE.  
  • Had my first mani-pedi of the year/season on Friday, May 23rd!  :)  (The salon was PACKED and I immediately put my mask on when I walked in... for the fumes, as well as the germs, lol.)  
  • Went with SIL to a lovely bridal shower on May 25th. The wedding is in August;  the bride is marrying the son of a cousin of dh & BIL's, and all of the female cousins & remaining aunts on that side of the family were there. The groom is the same age as Katie would have been -- his mom's pregnancy and mine briefly overlapped. (Her baby shower happened shortly after we'd announced my pregnancy, and I received almost as many congratulations as she did!)  Not sure how I'm going to feel about this one...!  But I did have a pretty good time at the shower!  

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Also right now:  

Reading: I finished 3 books in May (all reviewed on this blog, as well as Goodreads & StoryGraph, & tagged "2025 books"):  
This brings me to 16 books read in 2025 to date, 36% of my 2025 Goodreads Reading Challenge goal of 45 books. I am (for the moment, anyway...!) 2 books behind pace to meet my goal.  :) 

Current reads: 
  • "Rules For Visiting" by Jessica Francis Kane (the July pick for my Childless Collective Nomo Book Club -- just started;  currently 6% completed).  
  • "A Place of Greater Safety" by Hilary Mantel, the current slow read with Footnotes and Tangents, which began May 5th and runs for 20 weeks (until Sept. 15th). Currently 17% completed. 
  • "Miss Buncle Married" by D.E. Stevenson, for my D.E. Stevenson group.  Our group discussion began on April 21st, and I'll count this as another re-read once we're finished (in July). I've read the book twice before on my own (once in 2015 and again prior to the start of our group read & discussion -- see above! Currently 52% completed.  (Original 2015 review here;  most recent review here). 
  • "Living the Life Unexpected" by Jody Day.  I'm once again taking part in a chapter-by-chapter group read of this CNBC classic!  The most recent Zoom meeting covered Chapter 10.  This is the 5th (!) time I've read this book, or the earlier version of it ("Rocking the Life Unexpected").  (Most recent review, with links to earlier reviews, here.)  
  • "L.M. Montgomery and Gender," an essay collection edited by E. Holly Pike & Laura Robinson. Slowly working my way through, in between the other books...! 
Coming up: Most of my book groups have their next reads plotted out for a few months in advance -- and listing them here helps me keep track of what I should be reading next. ;)  
(Simon is a big fan of the late great Hilary Mantel, and the other books he's selected were all ones that she loved, so he figured they would probably be worth reading!) 

A few recently purchased titles (all in digital format, mostly discounted ($5-10 or less) or purchased with points):  


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Watching
  • "Miss Austen" on PBS Masterpiece, which began May 4th and ran for 4 episodes, based on the novel by Gill Hornby (see "Reading," above). 
  • "The Handmaid's Tale" (the sixth & final season, which wrapped up earlier this week!). My thoughts here!   
  • NHL Stanley Cup hockey playoffs -- at least until the Winnipeg Jets & Toronto Maple Leafs were eliminated in the second round (sob). :(    Cheering for the Edmonton Oilers as the finals (against the Florida Panthers) get underway -- a rematch from last year!  (Even so, I do think hockey in June is pretty ridiculous...! -- the season never went this long when I was growing up -- but then, the league was much smaller then...!)  
Playing:  
  • Heardle Decades: Stats as of May 31st:  
    • Heardle 60s: 75.2% (708/941, 276 on first guess), down 0.3% from last month. Max. streak: 15.
    • Heardle 70s: 77.8% (527/677, 299 on first guess), down 0.3% from last month. Max. streak: 18. 
    • Heardle 80s: 38.8% (212/547, 77 on first guess), up 0.6% from last month. Max. streak: 5 (up from 4 -- fist increase since May 2023!).
    • Heardle 90s: 31.4% (204/650, 48 on first guess), up 0.5% from last month. Max. streak: 5. 
  • NYT Connections:  
    • By April 30th, I'd completed 276 games and won 83% of them, including 140 "perfect puzzles" with zero errors, including 6 where I got the most difficult/purple category first.  And I maintained my maximum winning streak at 30!  :)   
    • By May 31st, I'd played 307 games and won 85% of them, including 156 "perfect puzzles," including 6 where I got the most difficult/purple category first (unchanged from last month)  And I ended the month by matching my maximum winning streak of 34! (On to 35!  lol)  
Following:  

Eating/Drinking:  
  • As I've mentioned before, we achieved our goal of lowering our cholesterol levels in late January,  after less-than-stellar bloodwork last fall earned us both serious chats with our doctor. We'll be doing more bloodwork later in the year to check again -- so we've continued our efforts to eat healthier -- reduce portion sizes, cut back on fatty & processed foods (fewer casseroles, more chicken and beans/lentils), eat more fruits, vegetables and fibre, snack less (and make better snacking choices), and be at least a little more active. 
    • Since then, I've continued to yo-yo a bit, but I still ended the month almost a pound lighter than at the end of April. (I'll take it!)  Overall, I've lost about 12 pounds since our chat with the doctor last October (dh has lost about 22), and 24 pounds from my heaviest-ever weight a few years ago. 
  • As mentioned above, dh took me out for brunch on the Friday morning before MDay -- the same place where we went on the Friday before Valentine's Day. ;)  (Much less busy! -- and less expensive than dinner out!)  We both had omelettes (ham & cheese for me), which came with home fries and toast. 
  • The bridal shower menu on May 25th included a lovely salad with berries, chicken with roasted potatos and vegetables, and a creme brulee tart with berries. Plus a traditional Italian cookie table.  :) There was a mocktail bar with a large menu when we arrived, which was fun, and wine was served with lunch. Not quite as elaborate as some of the Italian showers I've been to, food-wise, but it no one starved, and the food was good! -- and it was a lovely setting (at a golf clubhouse) and all beautifully presented. The company was great too! 
  • Notable recent takeout meals: soup, pizza slices and teriyaki rice bowls from the supermarket takeout counter;  wood-oven thin crust pizza, and Swiss Chalet rotisserie chicken. (Trying to avoid the stuff that's really calorie & fat-laden!) 
Wearing:  Earlier in the month, with the weather (finally!) starting to warm up, I put away my long-sleeved shirts in favour of shorter sleeves, and by the Victoria Day long weekend, I was wearing yoga capris and a tank top and ready to bring out my denim capris & sandals!  Alas (as I mentioned at the beginning of this post...!), it turned chilly and rainy and I had to bring out my long pants, socks and cardigan again!  :(  (boo, hiss...)  I finally got to bring out (and wear!) the capris earlier this week, when milder (if not sunnier) weather finally returned! 

Buying (besides books, lol): 
  • More Canadian products (or, failing that, international) products (vs American -- you can probably guess why...! It's not always easy, though, given how intertwined our two countries' economies & supply chains are...!).  
  • Cute summer outfits for the great-niblings (including matching Canada Day T-shirts from Old Navy, lol). 
  • For myself:  some black denim shorts (Old Navy), and some soft, colourful 100% cotton T-shirts (Gap).  
  • Also for myself, from Reitmans (Canadian women's wear chain):  two shirts & a pair of white linen pants, plus a couple of pairs of yoga pants (all on sale). I wore the linen pants with one of the tops (black linen -- couldn't find a link for it to show you?) to the bridal shower on May 25th, mentioned above.  
  • Not just one but two dresses at Laura (another Canadian women's wear chain).I'll wear one of them to a wedding in August and save the other for another wedding next year. 
    • The first one I tried on (which I sadly couldn't find a link for?) was absolutely gorgeous, and looks great on me (if I do say so myself...!) -- navy blue, short, fitted, sleeveless with a portrait collar, and some ruching and a rhinestone embellishment on one side. Simple and classically elegant. The only drawback is the fabric is a bit heavy, and might be a bit hot for an August wedding. But I could not resist it. :) 
    • As backup, I also decided to get another dress I really liked  ;)  -- it's a much lighter fabric, also navy (background) with a floral print (pink & plum tones), sleeveless, high-low hemline and a fuller skirt. Here's a link. :)  
Anticipating (nervously):  Our next visiting to the dentist (!), in mid-June. I've been anxiously obsessing about my front teeth ever since I took a(nother) fall in mid-April.  I'm 98% sure all is well, but I will feel much better once the dentist has had a look! 

Appreciating: The lack of extreme heat & humidity so far (while still hoping for some more sun than we've had to date!). It's been very hot & humid out west where my parents are, and there have been some terrible forest fires that have affected the air quality where they live.  One fire, in a "cottage country" part of the province, got within six miles of my cousin's place. So far, they're okay! (They don't live there year-round, but they do spend a fair amount of time there, particularly in the summer.)   

Noticing:  It's staying lighter outside a lot later these days! -- sunset isn't until almost 9 p.m. now (and it will keep getting lighter until the solstice, later this month! (It's also getting lighter a lot earlier, too!)  And I'm noticing more (and more colourful) sunsets again, too!  :) 

Speaking of which...! 
 
Enjoying:  Sunsets, again!  :)  Yes, I know, the sun sets every day, year round!  But it seems like they're not as noticeable (or as pretty) during the winter! And we do get some pretty great views of them from the windows & balcony of our condo!   

Wondering: Why my eyes have been so dry lately??  (especially when it's beginning to get more humid outside!) I'm going through eye drops like crazy (and they're expensive!). 

Trying:  Not to worry too much about getting through my emails every day -- prioritizing the urgent/most interesting ones, and letting some of less important ones sit on the back burner (or go altogether!). 

Wanting: To start making plans for the next few months, for a trip west to see my family, for our upcoming wedding anniversary -- and hopefully for a nice trip somewhere later in the fall!  (Now to corral dh and get him to help me make some decisions...!!) 

Loving:  The weekly photos Older Nephew's Wife posts of LGNephew #2 every Friday. (She often posts others during the week, of the baby and his big brother -- but always one on Friday marking how many weeks old the baby is)(now 23!).  And he always has a huge smile on his face too!   
                              
Feeling: Glad that winter is finally behind us!  Looking forward to the summer, to our wedding anniversary, and to going "home" in July to see my parents (and to celebrate a significant anniversary for them!). 

Monday, May 19, 2025

#MicroblogMondays: We are amused :)

It's our Victoria Day long weekend here, and we've been doing... absolutely nothing.  

It's been peaceful.

It's been lovely. :) 

As I noted last year around this time:  
  
...the constant stream of emails flowing into my inbox and notifications popping up on my cellphone have slowed to a trickle. My social media feeds haven't been as busy either. I've caught up on reading my emails as well as the latest chapters of my Cromwell Trilogy slow readalong, finished one book and started another.  I even balanced my chequebook yesterday!  (lol)  

I'm enjoying it while it lasts...!  ;) 

Similarly -- even with messages from U.S. friends and sites  (where their May long weekend is still to come...!) still flowing onto my screens -- my email inbox and social media feeds have been quieter than usual.  I was able to catch up on my online reading, as well as on my latest Footnotes & Tangents slow read, and start a new read too (an upcoming book selection).  I had just two Zoom sessions scheduled all weekend (there are often a lot more), skipped one and enjoyed the other.  We watched a lot of NHL Stanley Cup playoffs hockey -- sadly, both my Winnipeg Jets and dh's Toronto Maple Leafs were eliminated -- as well as the last two episodes of "Miss Austen" on PBS last night. The weather has been a little colder/more rainy than we'd like (but it's better than heat & humidity!), and I was able to wipe down the balcony furniture and railings so they're ready to enjoy.  We saw some traditional neighbourhood fireworks from our windows last night (and will likely see some more tonight). 

It's a little busier today. Government offices are closed, but a lot of stores are open, so dh went out to do his usual Monday morning supermarket run. 

Of course, we would have liked to see the nephews & niblings (so would their parents/grandparents!) -- we haven't seen the two LGNephews since Easter -- but apparently they were all busy. So the weekend was entirely ours. We did get to see LGNiece at her grandparents' house on Friday for a few hours -- we went for a walk with her & SIL, and then played in the back yard while BIL grilled hot dogs for us for lunch.  

I'm looking forward to a repeat of (at least some of) the same peace & quiet this coming weekend, when the U.S. has its Memorial Day long weekend.  :)  

You can find all my previous Victoria Day-related posts here

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Friday, September 13, 2024

Odds & ends for the weekend

  • We had a great time last weekend at dh's cousin's cottage with the cousin, his wife, BIL & SIL.  The weather did not exactly co-operate -- it was chilly and rainy for much of the time we were there -- but we three women were able to get out for walks both days we were there (up & down a lot of hills and inclines, which had me huffing & puffing -- but we went at a nice pace, and I survived...!).  We also spent time out on the deck for a few hotly contested games of cornhole!  
    • Unfortunately, within days of our return, the joint where my left big toe meets the foot was sore and slightly red. Gout -- almost exactly three years since my first encounter with it (same spot).  I suspect alcohol was the trigger. I didn't drink THAT much while we were at the cottage -- 2 drinks on Friday, 3 on Saturday and none on Sunday (mostly white wine) -- but I guess that might have been enough...!  (Sigh...)  If it's not better in another day or so, I will call the dr. I still have some naproxen left over from the first/last time I had it, but I suspect it might not be effective after 3 years, so I'm just taking ibuprofen for now. 
  • Dh & I got out on the balcony this week and WASHED THE WINDOWS!!  It really didn't take us very long -- about an hour -- and it makes SUCH a difference!!  I like to do it around the same time the professionals wash the outside windows on the rest of the building (they won't come onto our balconies; those windows are up to us), but they didn't come this year until just before we left to visit my parents in mid-July, and since we got back, either the weather has not been cooperative or we've been busy.  
  • I got a follow-up email today from the organizers of Monday night's Zoom call, sponsored by the new Alliance for Child-Free Voters (which I wrote about here and here). It included a link to the video recording of the call, and a list of resources (most of them childfree-focused).  
    • If you're interested in watching the Zoom call, it's about 90 minutes long. Here's the link
    • I responded to the email, thanking the organizers -- and then asking, nicely (I hope?), that they please, please, please consider including some speakers from the childLESS (not by choice) community on any future calls. I suggested a few names & provided a few links.  
    • And I actually got a very nice email back, thanking me!  We'll see what happens! 
  • Tomorrow, I'm having lunch with some local CNBC ladies -- all of us members of the private online Childless Collective community -- as well as one who's visiting the city from Washington State. I've only met one of these women before, and I'm looking forward to it! 
  • Two GREAT pieces from Helen Lewis in the Atlantic re: J.D. Vance, childless cat ladies, and the most famous childless cat lady of all. ;)  (Gift links;  good for 14 days from today's date.) 
  • From the Washington Post:  "Forget Trump’s IVF promises. The GOP’s record shows contempt for fertility care." (Subhead:  "As always, pay more attention to what politicians do than to what they say.") (Gift link.)
  • Egg showers, anyone?? (New York Times article -- gift link.)(Now I've heard of everything...!)
  • Glynnis MacNicol in the New York Times (gift link):  "I Love the Kids in My Life. And I’m Raising None of Them."  Excerpt: 
In America, there is a persistent, pernicious belief that the only way to be invested in a child’s life is to be a parent — and, for women, to give birth to that child. (Ella and Cole Emhoff, among others, would like a word.) In a country that offers so little support to parents, this often feels like a not-so-covert argument for taking women back to a time when they lacked control over their bodies and their finances.

Recently, the Pew Research Center reported that 64 percent of women under 50 who don’t have children say they “just don’t want to.” This has contributed to another round of hand-wringing about birthrates and childless cat ladies. What the seemingly inexhaustible discussion around this topic leaves out is that many people who say they don’t want to birth or parent children do have children in their lives — other people’s. We rarely account for that, nor do we give full weight to the fulfillment these relationships provide...

It’s difficult to understand why we are so parsimonious with our ideas of both a child’s capacity to love and an adult’s capacity to love children she is not parenting. Of course children benefit from being loved — the more, the better. But the reverse is also true. 

Monday, July 29, 2024

#MicroblogMondays: Recuperating!

Long time no see/write!  (Seems like it to me, anyway!)  I've been in Manitoba visiting my aging parents for the past two weeks, and we just got back home last night (and I'm still pretty exhausted today!). As you can imagine, from my absence from this space (and others online), I didn't have a lot of time to write while I was there. I barely glanced at my email, and I am SO far behind on so many things. 

(Despite family time and helping my parents taking precedence, I did bookmark some of the articles & blog posts I did get to read, and hope to share some of them with you soon.) 

It was our first summertime visit "home" since 2019.  Many of the "annoying things and small pleasures" described in this post as well as this one still apply. ;)  On the "annoying things" side of the equation, a few new points: 

  • It was horribly hot & humid for most of the time we were there. Fortunately, my parents' house has air conditioning. 
    • UNfortunately, we had a running battle with my mother over the air conditioning. She hates it running constantly and complains she's cold, and will often just get up and nudge the thermostat temperature upwards until the a/c cuts out. (My sister will often do the opposite when Mom is not around...!)  She'll also do the same thing late at night when the rest of us are in bed -- so that we'll wake up in a warm, stuffy room (windows closed, because the a/c WAS running when we went to bed...)  with no air circulating from either the vents or the windows. (Grrrrrrr.....).    
  • My parents continue to bicker -- and complain about each other to us -- which is tiresome, awkward and annoying for those of us who have to witness it.  :(    
  • My American-born mother insisted on watching the Republican National Convention on TV (despite loathing Donald Trump). Even if she was in the basement family room, we could still hear the TV upstairs, because she had it on top volume. Ugh.  
  • It's summertime in Manitoba -- ergo, there were mosquitos, lol.  :p  But because it was hot & humid, I wasn't outside a whole lot, and certainly not out in the grass, where they tend to lurk -- so I didn't get too many bites.
  • Despite my sister's threats that she was not going to help with any gardening this year, my dad still planted half his garden space. (Even more annoying thing:  he dug up the first new potatos for dinner -- last night, AFTER we left...!). 
    • We still got enlisted into helping my mom water her hanging baskets and planters full of flowers every night after dinner -- three baskets and two planters in the front, one hanging basket and two planters in the back, one full 2-litre pop bottle of water on each hanging basket and 1/2 bottle on each planter.  
  • My parents' over-the-range microwave oven/fan died just before we got there.  :(  Granted, it WAS 40 (!!) years old (!!) -- they bought it not long after they moved in.  And it was well used! 

Small pleasures:  

  • My sister proposed we buy our parents a new microwave/fan as a combined birthday/wedding anniversary present. She took measurements, did some online research and found a Frigidaire model for a reasonable price (their oven & refrigerator are also Frigidaires). 
    • Annoying thing:  there were none to be found in the city, and to special order one would have taken two weeks.  
    • Small pleasure:  BUT, there was one in stock at a Home Hardware store in another small town, about a 40-minute drive away. Road trip!  Dad called a woman he used to work with, whose son is an electrician, and he came over two days later to install it. Yay!  
  • We celebrated my dad's 85th birthday while we were there, with cake & ice cream in the backyard with PND & family and some of the neighbours.  
  • PND was too busy to join one of our card games :(  but she did pop by with Little Princess #3 (11 months old and adorable) at least every other day.  The two older Princesses (now almost 13 & 10!!) also came with them a few times. 
  • Visits with a cousin, who drove up for the afternoon from my mom's hometown in NW Minnesota (1.5-2 hour trip, depending on time at the border), and a longtime friend, who drove out from the city to have lunch with me.    
  • My sister & I drove into the city for a few hours one afternoon to shop:  she needed a new dress and makeup for a job interview.  
  • Dad's barbecued steaks & potatos (sliced french-fry style into a foil pie plate with onions, topped with butter, covered with foil and cooked on the grill -- YUM!! -- I have so missed that...!).  
  • Several visits to the local drive-in (a local fixture for 60+ years! -- albeit no longer owned by the original family) for ice cream.
One very BIG pleasure started off as a very annoying thing:  the morning we were leaving to go there,  I woke up (very early) to find a message from the airline (Air Canada, if you're curious):  our flight had been CANCELLED (!) -- and they would be in touch re: rebooking.  

After I peeled myself off the ceiling (!), I found another message that they had, in fact, booked us on another flight -- slightly different flight number, but leaving and arriving at exactly the same times that morning as our original flight. Well, that was a relief.  We had to download new boarding passes, and discovered (annoying thing) that we were now in Zone SIX -- i.e., we would be among the last to board. Dh immediately started fretting about whether there would be room in the overhead bins for our suitcases by the time we were allowed on the plane. We were also now in seats D & F -- we usually book seats together. "Maybe the person in seat E will let us sit together," dh mused. (If not, no biggie.)  

When we got to the gate/waiting area at the airport, I noticed there really didn't seem to be a huge lot of people waiting. I speculated to dh that perhaps this was a smaller plane, that maybe they'd had to rebook people on multiple planes and we just happened to luck into the one that left at exactly the same time as the originally planned flight. 

The first three zones were allowed to board -- and then they announced zones 4, 5 & 6 all together.  Dh took off like a shot with our suitcases (lol), leaving me trailing behind, struggling to put my mask back on after showing my face to the gate personnel.  

I walked onto the airplane, and HOLY COW. This was, by far, the nicest plane we've ever been on.  Instead of six seats in each row (three on one side of the aisle, three on the other), there were two and two. The seats were wide, and made of leather, or a leather-ish material, with wide armrests and drink holders. The tilt-back mechanisms were automated, and there was also a footrest that popped out when you pushed a certain button. There was plenty of room in the overhead bins for our carry-on luggage. There were no screens to watch, but as compensation (?!) we were offered free wi-fi.  We also got free snacks (which used to be standard, but haven't been offered in quite a while). The aisle was wide enough for two people to stand in, side by side.  And behind us were two rows of seats, facing each other in a "quad," with a table in the middle.  

"Enjoy the nice seats," the captain said at the end of his welcome message. Believe me, we did!  

Dh later overheard one of the flight attendants chatting to some people across the aisle and behind us:  apparently this particular plane was not part of the regular fleet -- obviously, it got pulled into use as a substitute for our original plane. It's normally used as a charter by corporations and sports teams (e.g., the Toronto Maple Leafs, Raptors, Blue Jays...). Those spacious seats obviously come in handy when you're dealing with big, tall, professional athletes, right?  

I doubt we'll ever get a ride like that again, but we sure enjoyed it while it lasted...!  

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