Monday, March 16, 2026
#MicroblogMondays: Busy!
Thursday, March 12, 2026
A few odds & ends
- Tracey Cleantis Dwyer -- formerly at "La Belette Rouge" (a blog which no longer exists) -- has returned to blogging via Substack! Check out "The Next Happy Project."
- I highly recommend Tracey's 2015 book "The Next Happy," which is all about letting go of the life you had planned -- something Tracey, who is childless after infertility, knows a lot about.
- Disclosure: I'm in the book. :) I answered survey questions for Tracey as part of her research. I also reviewed the book on my blog not long after it was published, here.
- This Sunday, March 15th is "Mothering Sunday" in Britain, and The Full Stop community and podcast has published a post on Linked In with suggestions for "Navigating Mother's Day When You're Childless Not by Choice." (Also very applicable for Mother's Day in May, here in North America & elsewhere in the world.)
- It wasn't just our imaginations -- this winter really was as cold and snowy as it seemed, the Toronto Star confirms by looking at the historical weather data.
- The time changed last weekend -- and it struck me that my mother was no longer here to complain about it (as she always, always did!). Wherever she is now, I know it's a place where time is meaningless. Enjoy, Mom. :)
- This coming weekend (Sunday night) is the Oscars.
- I used to follow the Oscar races like a hawk (I even won the office Oscar pool once!), and tried to see as many of the nominated movies as I could (the ones that interested me, anyway). These days, I think I am only aware of "Hamnet" (with its ties to a well-known book and its grief/child loss theme -- not to mention Paul Mescal, lol), but not many of the other nominees.
- Mel recently posted about "The Last Movie I Saw;" I think the last one I saw in-theatre was "1917" (which was very good, and one of those movies that really deserves to be seen in a theatre). The pandemic began not long after that and, well, you know the rest. We used to go to the movies, perhaps not every Sunday, but usually at least one Sunday a month. Many things have returned to some form of normalcy since then, but we still haven't been back to the theatre. I am not sure how we got out of the habit, but we did. I do miss it sometimes.
- Nevertheless, I will be watching on Sunday. :)
- This will be my first Oscar night without my Mom. :( She always watched, and when I was growing up, she would let me stay up late -- on a school night! -- to watch with her. I more recent years, I would always call her before the show started (even though she hadn't been to a movie theatre in years either).
- I'm sure she will be watching from wherever she is now. And I hope there's a bottomless bucket of popcorn, and that it doesn't bother her stomach, as it did in her later years (to the point that she had to stop eating it).
Tuesday, April 1, 2025
Right now
Right now...*
*(an occasional (mostly monthly) meme, alternating from time to time with "The Current"). (Explanation of how this started & my inspirations in my first "Right now" post, here. Also my first "The Current" post, here.)
March started out cold & blustery, with a few more blasts of snow, on and off, ending with a icy blast of freezing rain over the weekend (frankly, I'd prefer a blizzard!). But also (FINALLY! by mid-month) a few days that began to feel like spring! (One glorious day we hit 21C -- about 70F!)
March hereabouts also means school spring break (mid-month) -- which for us meant staying close to home to avoid the mobs of frazzled families everywhere -- but which also meant we got to spend some time with the Little Great-Nephews! :) (See below!)
March also included lots of politics -- more threats coming from south of the border :( and here at home, the federal Liberal party's leadership convention, quickly followed by the dissolution of Parliament and the launch of a federal election campaign. (We only just got through a provincial election in late February!) On the bright side, the campaign is only 37 days long! -- the election will be April 28th. (Americans, take note! lol)
Pandemic diary/update: March marked month #60 -- FIVE years since the SARS-COV-2 (covid) virus entered our lives in March 2020. :( We (still!) remain covid-free (so far as we know... knocking wood, loudly...!). We still mask in stores, malls and (most) other such indoor public spaces hereabouts -- especially if/when there are lots of people around. (Well, I do -- I know dh does not, when I'm not around to hand him a mask...!)
Reading this article (part of the New York Times's 5-year milestone coverage) reinforced my resolve to keep doing what we've been doing and keep taking covid seriously: "A Clearer Picture of Covid’s Lasting Effects on the Body." (Gift link.)
- Attended Little Great-Niece's 2nd (!) birthday party at her maternal grandparents' house on March 1st. :)
- Went to the mall to walk around and shop (March 4th, 18th & 25th).
- Drove out to our former community for haircuts, and did a little shopping and walking at the mall (March 7th). Stopped at the cemetery en route to visit Katie & change her niche decorations from Christmas stuff to something more Easter/spring-y.
- On March 11th (during spring break week), we picked up SIL (at her suggestion) & drove up to stay with the two Little Great-Nephews while their mom got a much-needed haircut... and then stayed with LGN #2 while she took LGN #1 to see a movie. (BIL had to work.)
- Unfortunately, the movie was sold out -- but she bought them tickets for a later showing (when Older Nephew could stay with the baby), and took LGN to an indoor playground for a while instead -- and then for ice cream!
- The dog got a lot of snuggles from me (probably more than he's had in a while! poor neglected doggie!).
- We were EXHAUSTED -- but we had a LOT of fun! :)
- Dropped off several bags of stuff at the local thrift shop, then went to Staples and Canadian Tire for a few things, with a final stop at the supermarket for few grocery items, plus some takeout soup for lunch. (March 14th)
- Had a nice browse at the bookstore, then stopped at the drugstore to pick up a few things. (March 19th)
- "The Siege of Krishnapur" by J. G. Farrell -- the first new Footnotes and Tangents slow readalong for 2025, which started Jan. 13th, for 9 weeks. (3.5-4 stars; my review.)
- "I'm Sorry for My Loss: An Urgent Examination of Reproductive Care in America" by Rebecca Little and Colleen Long. (5 stars; my review.)
- "Peter West" by D.E. Stevenson (Re-read; original review, 2-2.5 stars; latest review, same.)
- "Miss Buncle Married" by D.E. Stevenson ( (re)reading in advance of our DES group chapter-by-chapter discussion (start date still TBA) -- which I will count as another re-read once it's done). (Original 2015 review here).
- "Anne of Windy Poplars" by L.M. Montgomery (called "Anne of Windy Willows" in the U.K., with some text variations). My L.M. Montgomery Readathon Facebook group started reading & discussing this book together today (Jan. 6th). (Previous review here.) Currently 60% completed.
- "Living the Life Unexpected" by Jody Day. I'm once again taking part in a chapter-by-chapter group read of this CNBC classic! The most recent Zoom meeting covered Chapter 8. This is the 5th (!) time I've read this book, or the earlier version of it ("Rocking the Life Unexpected"). (Most recent review, with links to earlier reviews, here.)
- "L.M. Montgomery and Gender," an essay collection edited by E. Holly Pike & Laura Robinson. Slowly working my way through, in between the other books...!
- For my Childless Collective Nomo Book Club:
- "Can’t We Be Friends" by Denny S. Bryce & Eliza Knight. (May)
- "A Burning" by Megha Majumdar. (June)
- "Rules For Visiting" by Jessica Francis Kane (July)
- "Drive Your Plow (Over the Bones of the Dead)" by Olga Tokarczuk. (August)
- "The Wonderful Adventures of Mrs. Seacole in Many Lands" by Mary Seacole. (September)
- "The Secrets of Blythswood Square" by Sara Sheridan. (October)
- For my D.E. Stevenson group: This list of upcoming books should keep us busy through 2025 or even into early 2026! (A couple of the books are ones we covered shortly after I first joined the group back in 2014 -- you know you've been around for a while when....!)
- The Two Mrs. Abbotts (original 2015 review here).
- Crooked Adam
- The Four Graces (original 2015 review here).
- Footnotes and Tangents slow readalongs planned for 2025 include:
- "A Place of Greater Safety" by Hilary Mantel -- starts May 5th, for 20 weeks.
- "Things Fall Apart" by Chinua Achebe -- starts Sept. 29th, for 5 weeks.
- "The Blue Flower" by Penelope Fitzgerald -- starts Nov. 3rd, for 7 weeks.
(Simon is a big fan of the late great Hilary Mantel, and the other books he's selected were all ones that she loved, so he figured they would probably be worth reading!)
- Culture Study (Europe): next book TBA.
A few recently purchased titles (all in digital format, mostly discounted ($5-10 or less) or purchased with points):
- "A Very Private School" by Charles Spencer
- "The Sky Was Falling" by Dr. Cornelia Griggs
- "The Fortnight in September" by R.C. Sherriff
- "They Thought They Were Free" by Milton Mayer
- "From Here to the Great Unknown" by Lisa Marie Presley & Riley Keough
- "Big in Sweden" by Sally Franson
- "Holding it Together: How Women Became America's Safety Net" by Jessica Calarco
- "The Lightning Bottles" by Marissa Stapley
- The Oscars! (March 2nd) I only saw one of the nominated movies ("Conclave"), and I don't follow the awards season as religiously as I once did, but it's still fun to watch. (And it's tradition! ;) )
- Several more episodes of "Only Murders in the Building" (season 2) on Disney Plus (Older Nephew is a subscriber) while staying with Little Great-Nephew #2 while his mom took LGN #1 to a movie (see above). I thought I could watch the few remaining episodes in the season on the CTV website when we got home -- they were there when I checked after watching a few on TV over Christmas/early January -- but maddeningly, they're not available there any more. And I don't want to subscribe to another streaming service! (We don't use our Netflix subscription as it is; I've been contemplating dropping it.)
- The World Figure Skating Championships from Boston (March 25th-30th), which I wrote about here.
- Heardle Decades: Stats as of March 31st:
- Heardle 60s: 76.0% (671/883, 262 on first guess), down 0.3% from last month. Max. streak: 15.
- Heardle 70s: 78.4% (486/620, 275 on first guess), up 0.6% from last month. Max. streak: 18.
- Heardle 80s: 38.9% (192/493, 71 on first guess), up 0.2% from last month. Max. streak: 4.
- Heardle 90s: 29.8% (177/593, 36 on first guess), up 0.1% from last month. Max. streak: 5.
- NYT Connections:
- By Feb. 28th, I'd completed 215 games and won 81% of them, including 78 "perfect puzzles" with zero errors. I increased my maximum winning streak from 15 to 21 (and counting!). :)
- By March 31st, I'd played 246 games and won 84% of them, including 123 "perfect puzzles." And I increased my maximum winning streak from 21 to 30!
- As I've mentioned before, we achieved our goal of lowering our cholesterol levels in late January, after less-than-stellar bloodwork last fall earned us both serious chats with our doctor. We'll be doing more bloodwork later in the year to check again -- so we're continuing our efforts to eat healthier -- reduce portion sizes, cut back on fatty & processed foods (fewer casseroles, more chicken and beans/lentils), eat more fruits, vegetables and fibre, snack less (and make better snacking choices), and be at least a little more active.
- Since then, I've continued to yo-yo a bit, but I still ended the month about a half pound lighter. (I'll take it!) Overall, I've lost about 10 pounds since our chat with the doctor last October, and 22 pounds from my heaviest-ever weight a few years ago.
- The last few times we've flown west to see my family (on Air Canada), one of the free snacks we've been offered has been a small package of pretzels -- buttery herb & garlic flavoured, from a brand called Twigz. I really liked them.
- And then I got the brilliant idea to Google them. They are marketed as "craft pretzels," and a couple of local stores carry them. They're a little pricey, but I find it doesn't take a lot to fill me up, so a bag will last me a few days/up to a week. Nutritionally speaking, they're not bad (not great, but not bad) -- AND they are Canadian (an important consideration, especially right now).
- Apparently there are four flavours. I've seen two -- the buttery herb & garlic I mentioned, and zesty dill pickle. (You can have the dill pickle flavour. I'm that weird kid who hated pickles when I was growing up, and I still take them off my hamburgers before I eat them.) Sometimes the buttery herb & garlic flavouring is a little intense but I do like the texture.
- Some notable recent takeout meals: soup, pizza slices and teriyaki rice bowls from the supermarket takeout counter, wood oven thin crust pizza, and rotisserie chicken. (Trying to avoid the stuff that's really calorie & fat-laden!)
- More Canadian (or, failing that, international) products (vs American -- as are many of my fellow citizens), in light of the threats a certain U.S. leader (cough!) has been making against my country recently. :( (It's not always easy, though, given how intertwined our two countries' economies are...!)
- Easter goodies for the great-niblings.
Monday, March 3, 2025
#MicroblogMondays: Odds & ends
- Pronatalism much?? I remember thinking that when I read a few weeks ago about the U.S. Department of Transportation's new order to give funding priority to communities with “marriage and birth rates higher than the national average.” (!!) I filed it away mentally to include as an item in a future blog post, and was reminded of it again when Lyz Lenz drew attention to it in a recent Substack post: "Make America Isolated Again." Have a read (but take your blood pressure medication first!)(joking/not joking).
- Pronatalism much (part 2)?? As has been my habit since I was, oh, about 10 years old, I watched the Oscars on Sunday night (even though I'd only seen one of the nominated movies, "Conclave"). I mostly enjoyed the show, with one major exception. I hear "A Real Pain" is really great, and that Kieran Culkin deserved the Best Supporting Actor statuette he won -- but did anyone else cringe when he called out his wife in his acceptance speech and reminded her that she now "owes" (!) him not just one but TWO MORE KIDS?? (!!) Ugh...
- I've been enjoying Lisa Sibbett's Substack, "The Auntie Bulletin." A recent post outlined her strategic plan for 2025 & beyond. Worth a read, and lots to look forward to!
- Friendship issues are huge for those of us living without the children we wanted: navigating the inevitable changes that happen when all our friends are having babies (and then grandchildren...!), how to make new friends when your old friends seem to abandon you for other mothers, etc. This Substack post by Hailey Caulfield of "The Waiting Room" addresses some of these issues: "The space between us: Friendship, change, and the unspoken grief of growing apart."
- Life coach & podcast host Lana Manikowski also has a Substack: "Childless. So Now What?" Most of the posts I've read to date are short but very much on the mark. From a recent post, "Never Be the Same":
People love to say, “Everything happens for a reason,” but I found no comfort in those words. The truth is, some things just happen. Some dreams don’t come true. And sometimes, life takes a turn we never saw coming. But does that mean we’re destined to live a mediocre life? To settle for a version of ourselves that feels lesser than?No. Absolutely not.
- Glynnis MacNicol (who is childfree by choice and wrote the wonderful memoir "No One Tells You This" -- reviewed here) revisits the 1978 Jill Clayburgh movie "An Unmarried Woman" in this Substack post. (I remember seeing it, years ago, albeit not a lot about it, other than that it was really good. I'd love to see it again although, as MacNicol points out, that's sadly easier said than done.) Says MacNicol:
One of the reasons I keep returning to it, is that it’s one of the rare films, or television series, that allows a woman a happy ending that doesn’t involve marriage or a child. Another is that it’s a near perfect film. Jill Clayburgh’s performance is one of the best.
(FYI, Clayburgh's character does have a daughter in the movie. Also of note: she was nominated for an Oscar for the role, but lost to Jane Fonda in "Coming Home.")
Tuesday, March 12, 2024
#MicroblogMondays: It's spring break week...
...and who needs kids to be busy?? (Hence, this post is coming to you on Tuesday instead of Monday...!)
After a long and mostly boring/inactive winter, things started ramping up around here, mid/late last week. Here's what happened then, and how the rest of this week is unfolding:
- (Last) Wednesday (March 6th): I was in the bedroom around 8 a.m. -- dh had been up but was snoozing again on the couch -- when I heard a loud tapping/dripping noise coming from the bathroom. I checked out all the taps and pipes, but I could not see any water. It sounded like it was coming from inside the wall, behind the shower or toilet. It only lasted a few minutes, gradually slowing down/tapering off and stopping. I was going to mention it to dh but forgot about it, until...
- Thursday: 7 a.m., and we were both sound asleep -- when a loud tapping/dripping noise woke us both up. Dh sat bolt upright in bed and said, "Where's that coming from?" We went into the bathroom. Same thing as yesterday. I grabbed my phone, turned it on and started filming. Nothing to see, of course, but my thought was to record the sound and send it to our property manager.
- Of course the file was too big to send and I had no clue how to edit it down to a more manageable size, but I did message her anyway, describing what we'd both heard. She said she'd come check it out -- but the earliest she was available was Monday (!) and we were going to be out -- so we wound up agreeing on Wednesday (!). Meanwhile, she told us to keep an eye out for leaks. She can't call the plumbing contractors unless there's water visible. (Lovely...)
- (Wouldn't you know, we haven't heard the noise since then??)(Knocking wood...!)
- Thursday is our usual laundry day, so we got up and got a load started. Later in the morning, we were folding clothes in the bedroom, when dh pointed out to me that the curtain rod was hanging at a peculiar angle: the left-side bracket that holds the rod up was starting to pull out of the wall.
- Unfortunately, the right-side bracket had done the same thing a few years ago...! We got out a stool and screwdriver and attempted to tighten things up (on both sides), but things had loosened up too much. I didn't want to take it down totally, because there are streetlights below shining into our room; plus I'd feel like I was on display to the townhouses behind us. So there it hangs, like the proverbial Sword of Damocles, less than three feet away from the bed (MY side of the bed, I might add...!).
- We'd actually bought these curtains (relatively cheaply) and put up them up, in the second bedroom/office as well as our bedroom, as a temporary measure when we first moved in... almost (cough!) EIGHT YEARS AGO. And we'd talked about upgrading and other options -- but then the pandemic came along and... well, you know...! Well, no time like the present, right??
- I went online and looked up Blinds To Go, which has a local outlet. They offer a "shop at home" service with a consultant as well as the option of professional installation. And I was able to book an appointment with a consultant for the following afternoon!
- Friday: We set the alarm clock, got up at 7 a.m. and had breakfast and coffee/tea, and got to work doing the usual weekly housecleaning, several hours earlier than normal. Showered, had lunch and were ready for the consultant's visit at 1 p.m.
- She arrived with a suitcase full of samples and swatches for us to look at, and was very nice and helpful. We decided on fabric vertical blinds for all three windows. They HAD to be white or off-white, as per the bylaws of our condo association, so we picked something that was textured and off-white (with flecks of a taupe-y brown running through it). She took measurements, gave us an estimate (which, while expensive enough, was a lot less than we'd expected, even before the 25% sale price was factored in), took a 50% deposit from us, and set up an appointment with a installer to come in and do exact measurements. We have a pretty busy week ahead, but luckily, she was able to book us something for the following day.
- Saturday: Our appointment time frame was 9-12 noon, so once again we set our alarm clock for 7 a.m. The guy finalizing the measurements arrived at 11:15 a.m. and was in and out in about 5 minutes. (We're still waiting for the final estimate, after which we can give the go-ahead to have the blinds made. Normally, it would take about a week, but the fabric we chose for our blinds is on back order, so delivery and then installation will likely be around March 20th -- which is still pretty good!)
- I sat in on a Zoom chat with some other childless women, some of whom were facing Mothering Sunday/Mother's Day in the U.K.
- Sunday: We were pretty tired, and (no) thanks to the time change, we didn't get up until 9:30 a.m. (!)(erk!). I had breakfast, showered, dh made brunch (scrambled eggs and toast), and then I spent a two-hour shift co-hosting a Mothering Sunday/UK Mother's Day text chat in the Childless Collective private community where I'm a member. That ended around 3 p.m. I made my usual weekly Sunday phone call to my parents and also talked to my sister, who was there for the weekend. Helped dh get dinner in the oven, and then started getting ready for...
- The Oscars!! -- which, this year, started an hour earlier than it usually does, at 7 p.m.
- In between dinner and 7, I hunted up and printed off a ballot online to mark up as the show progressed -- something I've done since I was a kid -- albeit back then, I used one clipped from the newspaper!
- I thought it was one of the better shows in recent memory and, amazingly enough, it ENDED ON TIME (a few minutes early, even!). That was a good thing, because the earlier start time meant the show also ended an hour earlier than is usually does -- i.e., 10:30 p.m. instead of 11:30 p.m. or midnight. (Past Oscars-related posts here.)
- When I was working, I used to sometimes take the Monday after the Oscars off, so that I could sleep in (vs getting up before 5 a.m. to get to work for 8 a.m.). I've been retired for almost 10 years, but believe it or not, I had to set the alarm for 5 a.m. the next day (which was, of course, 4 a.m. before the time changed...!) because...
- Yesterday/Monday: ...we had to be at BIL's house by 7 a.m. to spend the day with Little Great-Nephew, who is (of course) on spring break. Older Nephew dropped the little guy off at around 7:15 a.m., and returned to pick him up around 4:15. He is really good and no real trouble at all -- but he's 4, and very active! so we were (and still are! lol) both EXHAUSTED!
- We were looking after him because BIL & SIL were wrapping up a well-deserved week on a sunny beach in the Caribbean with one of dh & BIL's cousins and her husband. (But we went to their house, since LGN is comfortable there and has lots of toys there, etc. -- more space too!) Later that evening, we headed to the airport to pick them up. (We were among the very few people waiting in the arrivals area and returning from trips who were wearing masks.) They'll be looking after LGN tomorrow, Wednesday & Thursday. (His mom has Fridays off.)
- Today/Tuesday: We slept in until 9:30 a.m. (again!!). (If we hadn't gotten up when we did, we would have had a pretty rude awakening about an hour later -- monthly test of the building's fire alarm system! lol) Dh went to get some groceries and some takeout soups for lunch, and then we headed over to BIL's to see LGN (again) and find out more about how their trip went. We were all pretty tired, though, so we didn't stay long (much to LGN's displeasure). We probably won't see him again until Eastertime, because....
- Wednesday/Tomorrow: We're setting the alarm clock again: our property manager will be coming by sometime in the morning (before noon) to check out the noises from the bathroom (a full WEEK after we first heard them!). We told her we could do the morning, but not the afternoon, because...
- ...we will be heading into the city for our annual checkups with our longtime optometrist. We normally ask for a mid-morning appointment to avoid rush-hour traffic, but his assistant was able to schedule us on an earlier date because someone cancelled. Here's hoping traffic will be lighter than usual (because everyone is spending break week in Mexico or Florida, etc., lol...) -- and that my eyes continue to be healthy (after my surgery two summers ago).
- Thursday: Our usual laundry day -- but we'll have to finish up by lunchtime or later in the afternoon/evening, because in the early afternoon we will be heading....
- ...back to our old community: I have an appointment with our family doctor -- a follow up visit re: a red patch (rosacea? eczema?) on my left cheek (mentioned here). It's much better than it was when I saw another doctor at the same clinic on Feb. 22nd -- much less red/rough/inflamed and no longer itchy -- but it's still there, still somewhat noticeable, and taking its sweet time to disappear. :p (Very annoying.)
- On our way there or back, we'll stop off at the cemetery with some Easter decorations for Katie's niche.
- And on our way back, we'll probably stop off at the drugstore: I'm in need of a few items.
- Friday: Dh will be setting the alarm: we need new tires for our car (8 years old, almost 70,000 km on it), and BIL has arranged a good deal for him with a guy he knows. He & dh will be going there around 8 a.m. Meanwhile, it's our regular housecleaning day, so I'll get started on that and do as much as I can myself until he gets back.
How is YOUR week shaping up?
You can find more of this week's #MicroblogMondays posts here.
Tuesday, March 14, 2023
Odds & ends & Oscars
- Sunday was jam-packed:
- First, the time changed, which threw everything off a bit.
- We had lunch at BIL & SIL's along with Older Nephew, his wife & Little Great-Nephew.
- Younger Nephew, his wife and our new Little Great-Niece arrived after lunch for a visit. All of us wore masks (except Little Great-Nephew). We got home in the late afternoon.
- Made my usual Sunday afternoon phone call to my parents.
- Texted some photos from the afternoon to the rest of the family.
- Gobbled down a bite to eat (we'd had a big lunch, so neither of us was very hungry for supper).
- Then settled in with some junk food to watch the Oscars (while monitoring the conversation on an Oscars pool Facebook group I'm in, as well as the New York Times live commentary feed). Didn't get to bed until after midnight (the broadcast ended after 11:30 p.m.).
- Needless to say, I was exhausted Monday morning...! I was pretty groggy this morning too.
- Little Great-Niece was, of course, the centre of attention at our family gathering on Sunday -- which (as I had anticipated) did not sit entirely well with Little Great-Nephew...! He seemed a little fascinated by this new cousin he'd heard so much about, but didn't seem to quite know what to make of her... especially when she started crying. Little Great-Nephew does not like loud noises, and put his hands over his ears when she did. "That baby is LOUD," he flatly observed to dh (lol).
- At one point, he said in a small voice, "Aunt Loribeth, Uncle Dh, will you come downstairs to play with me?" Of course we did. (How could we not?) We missed out on some Little Great-Niece time, but I'm glad we were able to give him some of the attention he clearly needed just then.
- As the unofficial family photographer, I stayed busy taking photos of everyone. ("Hi sweetie, I'm your personal paparazzi! -- you'll thank me someday," I joked to Little Great-Niece as I snapped away. Both the nephews -- who grew up with my camera constantly in their faces -- chuckled at that one, lol.)
- I will admit that I had to swallow hard, seeing BIL & SIL proudly posing for photos with both their beautiful grandchildren. But thankfully, the feeling didn't last too long.
- Little Great-Niece was wearing one of the little sleepers we had bought for her and brought over when we visited her for the first time, earlier in the week -- white, with little pink and brown elephants on it. :)
- Older Nephew's Wife is going back to her old job, starting next week -- the same one she had at this time last year. And so Little Great-Nephew will be back at his Nonna (Grandma)'s house again during the day on a regular basis, until he starts (gulp) school in the fall (junior kindergarten). :) This time around, newly retired Nonno/Grandpa will be around (and maybe his new little cousin once in a while, too!). Looking forward to spending more time with him again, while we still can!
- I enjoyed this year's Oscars. I thought it was pretty good as Oscars telecasts go, with some really heartwarming speeches and moments from the winners.
- Favourite moments: seeing not just one but TWO kick-ass women in their 60s -- Michelle Yeoh & Jamie Lee Curtis -- win statues. Bonus points to Michelle Yeoh, who is childless not by choice and has spoken about it in interviews, and mentioned her godchildren in her acceptance speech. I loved her comment: "Ladies, never let anyone tell you that you are past your prime." Amen!
- Ke Huy Quan had me tearing up -- watching his hugely emotional acceptance speech, and then seeing him hugging Harrison Ford onstage after "Everything Everywhere All at Once" won Best Picture (as announced by Ford). "Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom" is my least-favourite movie of the series, but I loved seeing Short Round and Indy together again! :)
- Canadians did very well at this year's Oscars. I was especially thrilled that Sarah Polley won for her adapted script for "Women Talking"! I grew up around Mennonites & Mennonite communities (and Hutterites and Hutterite colonies) -- some more old-fashioned/traditional and some more modern than others. My parents live near one large, predominantly Mennonite community, and you can still hear Low German dialect and see women in long skirts and head coverings in the supermarket there, usually with several small children in tow.
- I may lose my Canadian/Manitoban citizenship for admitting this, but I have not read any of Miriam Toews's novels yet, although I have several of them in my to-read pile. The Globe & Mail ran a thoughtful story this past weekend about the complicated relationship she has with her hometown of Steinbach. Can I admit it made me a little homesick? -- not for Steinbach in particular (I've only been there a few times), but for my home province. Especially this part, near the beginning:
It was a toe-curling minus 25 on arrival, late last month. Fields of snow created a world so hushed and horizontal and desolate that a ruby-red billboard welcoming drivers to Steinbach rose from the snow as jarringly as an exclamation point.“Every single day I miss the skies – those blue, blue, blue skies,” said Ms. Toews. “I miss crunching along on the snow. I miss the quiet, and the bite of the cold – like needles in your face.”
(Okay, I don't miss the needles-in-the-face cold, lol. But the SKIES. And the crunch of the snow underfoot -- snow in southern Ontario seldom crunches. Yes...)
- Speaking of "home," dh has been glued to the TV set these past few weeks, watching... curling (!). (I've watched a bit too, but he's become a real fan!) First the women's championship and then the men's (the Briar) -- and the world championships are coming up shortly The sports networks here carry wall-to-wall coverage.
- Both of my parents (and many relatives, on both sides of my family) curled when I was growing up (and my dad continued to curl into his 60s, before his knees started bothering him too much), but somehow my sister & I never learned. (I was never athletic, but I think I could have given curling a fair shot!) In one small town where we lived, the skating and curling rinks were across the street from each other, just down the back alley from where we lived, and we spent a good chunk of our winters going back & forth between the two, for figure skating lessons and public skating sessions, to watch hockey games, and to watch our parents curl.
- Dh got interested in the game when it became an Olympic sport, some years back now (1998?). I've never really been a student of the game, but I was amazed at how much I had absorbed over the years and was able to pull out of my memory to explain to him! It's something he & my dad can talk about too. :)
- I just started reading the second Louise Penny/Inspector Gamache/Three Pines novel, "A Fatal Grace" -- and what do you know? There's a curling game that figures prominently in the plot! ;)
- I'm not exactly sure who Nikki Glaser is? (I gather she's a comedian?) But the headline on a Salon interview with her caught my eye -- " "I'm actually not freezing my eggs": Nikki Glaser opens up about comedy, fertility and oversharing" -- and I wound up reading most of it (and skimming through the parts that didn't interest me so much). I don't agree with everything she says (she envisions picking out an egg donor with a future husband as something "fun" they can do together??! hmm...), but it's still worth a read (that part of the interview, at least). Here's a sample:
I'm different than most women. I think most women do have a desire to have a baby and be a mother. There's a part of me that feels like there are a lot of people like me that don't. But the majority I would say, and a lot of my friends, do want it, so I just feel like I should too. I think I'm just embracing that part of myself that might actually know what I want, which I'm always questioning.
...It was just buying insurance, and that's what everyone said it's like. "It'll give you peace of mind." All I can say is it was not giving me peace of mind. There was no part of me that was like, "I'm in control of my body and getting ready to stab myself every day." It felt like I'm just doing this for a future man that I'm going to resent because he won't adopt with me.
Tuesday, March 7, 2023
"Oscar Wars" by Michael Schulman
Then -- as I described in this post from 2011 -- around 1972-73, when I was 11 or 12 years old, I found a paperback book at my grandmother's local drugstore (in smalltown Minnesota) that had pictures and profiles of ALL the major Oscar winners (plus lists of all the nominees & other winners), dating back to the very beginning of the awards. I read and re-read and referenced it so much that my copy eventually fell apart and had to be held together with rubber bands (it may still be lurking somewhere in my parents' basement). For a long time, if you asked me "Who won Best Supporting Actress in1943?" I probably could have told you, and even today, 50+ (gulp) years later, I could probably hazard a good guess (although, curiously, I'm a lot hazier on who won the more recent awards).
I've bought and read many books about the Oscars and their history in the years since then, and while some got sent to the thrift shop when we downsized to our condo, I still have a few. (My favourite: "Inside Oscar: The Unofficial History of the Academy Awards" by Mason Wiley & Damien Bona. Unfortunately, the last edition was published in 1996, and one of the authors is now dead, so I'm not sure if/when there will ever be a newer edition.) When I heard about "Oscar Wars: A History of Hollywood in Gold, Sweat, and Tears" by Michael Schulman, I knew I had to add it to my collection, and I downloaded an e-copy the day it became available, with the goal of getting through it before this year's Oscars show next Sunday (March 12th).
It's a long book (the hardcover edition is 608 pages), and it took longer to get through than I thought it would -- but it's also well written and highly entertaining. "Oscar Wars" is not an exhaustive year-by-year history of the awards (try Wiley & Bona's book for that). It does, however, cover the 95+ years of their existence in 11 chapters, each one focused on a particularly theme or contest or year/period through a few, well-chosen, representative stories -- some I'd never heard before, or had, at least, forgotten -- that tell a larger story about the Oscars, about Hollywood and the movie industry, and about America. We learn about (among many other things) how the awards were created and the early struggle between the studio moguls and the unions and guilds to control them; the McCarthy era and the blacklist; how Hollywood -- and the Oscars -- were forced to adapt to the social changes of the 1960s and 70s; how the 1989 "Snow White" fiasco unfolded (and how that particular show nevertheless led to some lasting changes); the painfully slow progress toward diversity, as personified by the stories of Hattie McDaniel, Sidney Poitier and Halle Berry, as well as the #oscarssowhite years; and the rise and fall of Harvey Weinstein.
If you enjoy movies and the Oscars as much as I do, you will enjoy this book. And if you don't know a lot about the history of the Oscars, this might be a good volume to whet your appetite for more.
4.5 stars, rounded down to 4 on Goodreads.
This was Book #11 read to date in 2023 (and Book #1 finished in March), bringing me to 24% of my 2023 Goodreads Reading Challenge goal of 45 books. I am (for the moment, anyway...!) 3 books ahead of schedule. :) You can find reviews of all my books read to date in 2023 tagged as "2023 books."
Friday, April 1, 2022
Right now
*(an occasional (mostly monthly) meme, alternating from time to time with "The Current"). (Explanation of how this started & my inspirations in my first "Right now" post, here. Also my first "The Current" post, here.)
- There were 1,176 new cases reported in Ontario on March 1st, and 3,139 on March 31st, an increase of 24.9% over the previous week. PCR testing has been dramatically restricted since January, and so these numbers cannot be considered an accurate assessment of how widespread COVID-19 is right now. Many doctors have advised the actual numbers are likely 10 to 20 times higher than what's being officially reported.
- Test positivity rates have increased, from 10% on March 1st to 16% on March 31st.
- Hospitalizations are on the rise again: there were 915 on March 1st, as few as 597 on March 20th, but 807 on March 31st, up 20.8% from the previous week.
- There were 278 ICU beds filled on March 1st, and 166 on March 31st -- an overall decline from the beginning of the month, but up just slightly from the previous week.
- There were 17 deaths reported on March 1st and a blip/peak of 78 on March 11th. There were 6 on March 31st, with a seven-day average of 9.6, up 13.6% from the previous week.
- We spent a nice chunk of time with Little Great-Nephew at BIL & SIL's this month (5 weekday morning visits, and 2 Saturday night visits, both of which included time spent with some combination of one or both nephews & their wives). (The last time we saw him, he said "Bye, Lori!" to me as we were leaving. "How about 'Bye, Sam'??" said poor dh, who actually plays with him far more than I do. Nope! lol MADE MY DAY.)
- We visited the local bookstore twice (once since mask mandates were dropped -- I'd estimate approximately 2/3 to 3/4 of the people there still had them on), the supermarket (together) once and the drugstore/pharmacy twice.
- We went for haircuts on March 6th in our old community, with stops at the cemetery to visit Katie, a local food store we used to frequent, and a bank ABM for cash.
- I had a colonoscopy on March 24th (my second) at a clinic near our condo building...
- ...followed by a mammogram on March 29th, at another local clinic. (Not as fancy as the one I used to go to downtown, but perfectly adequate, and the equipment looked almost brand new. I was in & out in under 45 minutes.)
- "Recipe for a Perfect Wife" by Karma Brown (an upcoming pick for my "Clever Name" book club, which I might have picked up even without that prompt). (My review)
- "All the Queen's Men" by S.J. Bennett. (My review.)
- "The Goldfinch" by Donna Tartt (Gateway Women book club March/April selection). (My review.)
- "Run Towards the Danger" by Sarah Polley. (My review.)
- "Charlotte Fairlie" (also known as "The Fair Isle" and "Blow the Wind Southerly") by D.E. Stevenson (group read with my DES online fan group, after my initial read in December). (My review.)
- "The House of the Deer" by D.E. Stevenson (next read for my DES online fan group)
- "The Story Girl" by L.M. Montgomery (group read with my LMM Readathon group on Facebook, scheduled to run through mid-April).
- "The Menopause Manifesto" by Dr. Jen Gunter.
- My "Clever Name" book club went on hiatus until after Christmas, and still hasn't started up again. The organizer has had a tough/busy winter and I am not about to ask her if/when we'll be resuming. So in the meantime, I've removed the upcoming books I haven't read yet from this list. (Should we start up again, I'll bring them back.)
- For my D.E. Stevenson fan group (no set timeframes, but these are the next ones we've agreed to read after we finish the current book, in order):
- For the Gateway Women book club:
- "The Man Who Died Twice" by Richard Osman (May -- already read & reviewed here).
- "The Woman in the Photograph" by Stephanie Butland (June -- unfortunately, not available in Canada yet, it seems... :( )
- "These Precious Days" by Ann Patchett (July)
- "Putin's World" by Angela Stent
- "Winter is Coming" by Garry Kasparov
- "Raising Our Hands" by Jenna Arnold
- "Moneyland" by Oliver Bullough
- "The Trouble With White Women" by Kyla Schuller
- "Baggage" by Alan Cumming
- "Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies" by Tara Schuster
- "The Little Friend" by Donna Tartt
- "The Betrayal of Anne Frank" by Rosemary Sullivan
- "The Windsor Diaries 1940-45" by Alathea Fitzalan Howard



