Until this morning.
The Life section of the Toronto Star included an article headlined "Family Day: 1,000 Families Project showcases diverse shapes a family can take." OK, family diversity, that's encouraging, right?
I started reading:
...in 14 years as a parenting editor, [Brandie] Weikle says she is aware of the default voice in media that assumes your family reflects a Norman Rockwell scenario.
"If your family doesn’t look like that, it can feel a little excluding,” she says.Agreed. OK, so far, so good.
I read on. The examples of diverse families mentioned in the article include:
- a single mom who co-parents her daughter with grandma,
- dad comes out and the marriage ends, but the family unit does not,
- a single mom with two kids who lives next door to her ex-husband,
- a father living with his brother and his wife to save money, with all the cousins living like siblings,
- a polyamorous relationship that includes three adults living and bringing up their children together, and
- a family that includes a friend living with them in an "uncle" role.
Then, near the end, the kicker:
"Weikle says she is looking for more story submissions from families of all kids with different cultural backgrounds and structures." [emphasis mine]I went to the actual website that is the focus of the story. The welcome message promises "thought-provoking posts on the issues parents are talking about most." And invites reader submissions "about what life with kids is like for you. Whether you parent with a partner, extended family member, friends you can’t live without or on your own, we want to hear from you."
Well. Clearly, they don't want to hear from ME. Or any of us out there whose family does not include children. (Even if we WANTED it to include children.) Clearly, in their definition, family = children (living children, at any rate), and involves active parenting.
So discouraging. :(
As I have said/written before -- I am glad we (finally) have a holiday in February -- but oh, how I wish they had come up with a different name for it. :p