Monday, July 30, 2012

Sick day

I was feeling a little more down in the dumps than usual last week -- and weepy. Example:  just reading about the Olympics opening ceremonies on Friday morning (several hours before they actually started!!) got me reaching for the kleenex.  I chalked it up to hormones (Aunt Flo visiting).  Spent the weekend cleaning house, doing laundry, not eating or sleeping particularly well. Woke up yesterday morning at 6 (!) & when I couldn't get back to sleep, got up around 7.  Spent WAY too much time on the computer yesterday, pursuing my ancestors on Ancestry.com ; ) (and did so slouched on the couch with my laptop -- not the best posture :p). And around bedtime I was hungry, but ultimately decided to go to bed without eating anything.

Woke up this morning & I felt awful -- headache, stomach didn't feel right, a bit queasy. Not sure if it was something I ate, or didn't eat, sleep deprivation, lingering hormones from AF's visit :p or what.  Took my shower, hoping that would wake me up a bit, but I still felt awful -- so I called in sick (left a message on my manager's voice mail) & went back to bed. Felt better (albeit not quite 100%) after sleeping for a few more hours & having some breakfast. It's only my second sick day of the year, so I am trying not to feel too guilty.
I have to wonder, though, how much of how I've been feeling is psychological. Now, I've been feeling pretty good lately about myself, my childlessness, my prospects for a comfortable early retirement, even about work. 

But the elephant in the corner of the room, of course, is that it's that time of year again, and Aug. 5 & 7 are fast approaching. Usually, dh & I are on vacation the last two weeks of July, visiting my parents, and that tends to distract me from the reality of August looming on the calendar -- but we're going later this year, and I guess I have been consciously & unconsciously seeking other distractions. 

I remind myself that it's been 14 years, that I still wound up with a good life and so much to be thankful for, that it's only a day(s) on the calendar, and Katie is always with us.  For the most part, time has softened the blunt edges of raw hurt. 

But some years, Aug. 5 &/or 7 are better or worse than others, for whatever reason (not always evident).  Some years, Aug. 5 is harder than Aug. 7, & sometimes it's the other way around. And I never really know what it's going to be like & how I'm going to feel until it's here.  

As a precaution (& also because I have a lot of unused vacation time I'm in danger of losing), dh & I are taking an extra-long five-day weekend coming up -- taking off Friday & Tuesday (Monday is a civic holiday).

August already?  Gulp.

11 comments:

  1. Sorry you're not feeling well. I can understand how sometimes it's worse than others (*hugs*) I thinking taking some time off and a trip is a wonderful idea.

    Thinking of you.

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  2. I do think when I am feeling emotionally down, the rest of body goes with it. Once you get through August...September is usually a good month. :)

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  3. I'm glad you're taking a trip this year. And abiding with you Aug 5 & 7.

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  4. Sorry you are feeling so poorly. Thinking of you.

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  5. I understand this. I have always said the days leading up to any anniversaries end up being tougher than the specific days themselves. I"m mostly okay now too, except sometimes, when I feel the key turn the door in my heart where a little ache is still stored. Hope you enjoy your time off and have an easy Aug 5-7.

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  6. I understand this. I have always said the days leading up to any anniversaries end up being tougher than the specific days themselves. I"m mostly okay now too, except sometimes, when I feel the key turn the door in my heart where a little ache is still stored. Hope you enjoy your time off and have an easy Aug 5-7.

    ETA-I seem to be having some trouble publishing a comment, so if you get 3 of these, I apologize

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  7. I hope you are able to be very kind to yourself and get some rest and recuperation under your belt.

    Sending love and thinking of you as August moves closer.

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  8. I'll be thinking of you and Katie on August 5th and 7th. I'm sorry you're feeling down. I think your sick day was well-deserved. Your body is asking you to be gentle with yourself, and that's exactly what you should do.

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  9. Take care of yourself- you're the priority... *HUGS*

    Going on trips are always a treat!

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  10. Aw LoriBeth....so sorry you're in this place. You've shared so much wisdom with me and I feel I don't have much to give you in return. Other than to say, I know that place and I know those feelings. I know that the down days will show up - sometimes out of the blue but more often at significant times/dates. Be gentle with yourself my friend. Do what you need to do. Remember you won't feel this way all the time.

    Sending peaceful energy....walking alongside you.

    peace
    shlomit

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  11. OK, I'm a terrible blogging friend because I'm so late commenting here. I'm hoping you are feeling better physically, that you have a good trip, and that August 5 & 7 pass peacefully, and with memories full of love, rather than pain.

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