Monday, February 18, 2019
#MicroblogMondays: "Probably Mom"???
Because this is the unspoken flipside of the coin here, isn't it? -- i.e., if you're a woman, and someone IS listening to you, your name probably ISN'T Mom.
To be clear, I don't believe whoever wrote that memo was thinking in terms of moms vs non-mothers. It was just one of those jokey things that parents say to each other, especially when they're having a rough day, right?
But (from my perspective as a childless woman) that's the point, isn't it?? Nobody tends to consider the childless/free, in a world where parents are in the majority. It's not just that nobody's listening to us (and if you think your voice isn't being heard or doesn't count, try walking in our shoes as childless women...!); nobody realizes that our experience might be different. It's generally just not on anybody's radar.
I'm sure it's true that a lot of (most?) moms don't feel listened to sometimes (especially by their kids!). One wise childless friend noted that kids tend not to listen to their moms OR dads -- but "not being heard or listened to is a woman thing, for sure."
Another noted this meme might be true in the context of parents speaking & children listening (or not!) -- she thought her goddaughters were (sometimes) more likely to listen to her than their own uncool parents ;) -- but not so much in terms of women speaking & being listened to in society at large.
A few commenters on the original post noted this could also apply to a teacher. (True.) A couple added, "Or wife!" But nobody seemed to question the inherent pronatalism in the meme.
Realistically, I don't think motherhood (or non-motherhood) has much to do with it. If you're a woman and you don't feel like people are listening to you, it's likely because you're a woman, and women generally aren't listened to or taken seriously as much as men are.
What do you think?
You can find more of this week's #MicroblogMondays posts here.