#MicroblogMondays: Icy weekend

I spent this past weekend-plus as a couch potato. (Well, I'm often a couch potato, and not just on weekends (!) -- but this was more so than usual...!)   

For one thing, there were dire warnings of an impending ice storm/freezing rain -- which, thankfully, did not (for the most part) materialize where I live. (Other areas to the north & east of us were without power for lengthy periods.)  Staying snug at home seemed like a wise strategy. 

For another, the World Figure Skating Championships were on in Boston last week! 

As many of you will know from past posts, I have followed figure skating since I was a kid, taking lessons at local rinks from the time I was 5 until I was 13.  My first clear memories of following a competition are of Karen Magnussen & Janet Lynn at the 1972 Sapporo Winter Olympics and the subsequent Worlds -- which Magnussen won! -- but before that, I can recall watching CBC Sports host Ted Reynolds with commentators Petra Burka and Don Jackson, on our black-and-white TV.  

TV network coverage (from both Canadian and American television) has been frustratingly scanty in recent years (unless, perhaps you subscribe to a streaming service like NBC Peacock -- which is not available in Canada). The American networks tend to focus on the women's and men's competition, possibly the dance, and ignore the pairs event (where Americans tend not to do as well) -- and seldom show more than the final group of skaters, maybe two.  Canadian networks have traditionally shown all four disciplines, but have scaled way back on what they show on TV in recent years. (Saturday night coverage on CBC is a non-starter -- that's reserved for hockey, and has been since Canadian television began back in the early 1950s!).  

BUT the CBC website does carry the ISU (International Skating Union)'s live feed, which includes ALL events. So from Thursday through Saturday (and part of Sunday), I was glued to one screen or another, binge-watching hour after hour of my favourite sport, and keeping tabs on the standings on the ISU's live results page. (Let's just call it an "ice storm" of a different sort, lol.)  

I did have my limits, though:  there were 36 (!!) ice dance teams entered, and even I could not endure the thought of sitting through all 36 rhythm dance programs -- which lasted SIX HOURS!!  lol A much more manageable/watchable 20 teams qualified for the final.  

Overall, it was a LOT! lol  I am now WAY behind on the other stuff I wanted and needed to do over those days.  

But there was also some pretty spectacular skating on display. (And the Worlds only happens once a year!)  I'm glad I watched as much as I did!  

What sport (if any) do (could/would) you binge watch? 

You can find more of this week's #MicroblogMondays posts here.  

#MicroblogMondays: A shot in the dark?

Measles -- made rare in recent decades, thanks to vaccines -- has recently (sadly) been staging a comeback -- in the U.S., but also here in Canada, (no) thanks to the spread of misinformation by anti-vaxxers, plus the recent covid pandemic, which left some children well behind schedule on their routine vaccines. 

Margaret Renkl -- one of my favourite New York Times columnists -- wrote today about the growing spread of measles -- and "Why I Got the Measles Vaccine at Age 63." (Gift-linked article.)  I'm 64, and I've recently been having similar thoughts as Margaret. Do I need to get a measles shot?  

I got every vaccine that was available at the time as a matter of routine when I was a kid -- at the doctor's office, and sometimes at school (we'd line up for them in the school gymnasium). Apparently when I was a toddler, I had a bad reaction to the oral polio vaccine and was quite sick from it. This did NOT turn my mother against vaccines: she simply made sure that my doctors and schools were aware (and that I was aware too, from a young age) that I was NOT to have the oral polio vaccine -- and when the time came for boosters, I was called aside and got a shot in the arm, while my classmates lined up for their vaccine-doused sugar cube. (Thanks, Mom... I think...)(lol)   

There WAS a measles vaccine newly available in the early 1960s -- although it might have taken a while to reach the small towns in rural northeastern Saskatchewan where we were living then. I vaguely remember getting a shot at the doctor's office in the late 1960s for the "red measles" -- one of the first shots of its kind, I believe -- but the distinctions between "red measles," "German measles," plain old measles and rubella are rather hazy in my mind, and Dr. Google did not clarify the matter to my complete satisfaction. 

But I have no recollection of having had measles in any form. (Tangent:  I do vividly remember having chicken pox and mumps, pre-vaccines for those. I had one in the spring of Grade 1 and the other in the fall of Grade 2 ( = 1968) -- although don't ask me which one I had when. I *think* the chicken pox came first and then mumps in the fall, but don't quote me on that.  But I do remember they both went through my class at school like wildfire. We sat in rows of desks, and I remember an entire row of Grade 1 classmates was absent at one time. My poor sister had the chicken pox worse than I did, including sores in her ears. We were both covered with pink calamine lotion for days on end.)  

I can't rely on my medical records to tell me, either. This was (obviously) pre-computerization -- plus we lived in five different towns in two different provinces before I graduated high school, 45 years ago. Even if those doctors' records still exist and are easily attainable (which I rather doubt...), rounding them all up would be quite a task. 

I have a couple of handwritten cards recording some of the vaccinations I had and when I had them, as a kid -- one stuck in the pages of my baby book, another in a pile of papers my mom left in "my" room for me to look at when we were there at Christmastime. But there are certainly gaps. In summary, the medical records from that time of my life are far from complete.  

So I did the next-best thing I could think of -- I called Mom (lol) and asked her if I'd ever had measles, or a shot for them.  She said my sister & I did have the measles, but she wasn't sure which variety. "It was the less serious kind," she said helpfully. 

When I was trying to get pregnant in the mid-1990s (and NOT telling my parents about it -- hence, I wouldn't have asked them then...!), I was very conscious about protecting myself against the chances of getting measles/rubella, however slight. I told my family dr I was not sure whether I was immune, and he had me tested. The results showed I was immune to rubella. Again, whether that clears me for all forms of measles, I'm not sure. 

I need to have that conversation with my current family doctor the next time I see him. 

(Dh should probably have that conversation too. Both of his parents are gone, and he has absolutely no memory of having any of the prevalent childhood illnesses of our era.) 

You can find more of this week's #MicroblogMondays posts here. 

"Peter West" by D.E. Stevenson (re-read)

My D.E. Stevenson reading group has just finished its chapter-by-chapter reading & discussion of Stevenson's first published novel, "Peter West" (1923) -- the one DES novel the group has never read covered in its 25+ years of existence. (I read the book on my own in January, before we began as a group, and reviewed it here.) 

Peter West, 35, has watched Beth Kerr, the daughter of the local boatman/ferry operator grow up into a beautiful young woman. He realizes he loves her, but is manipulated by his scheming older sister into a marriage with a more "suitable" partner. Beth, too, is herded into a loveless marriage with a prosperous but hard-drinking local farmer by her father.  (Mild spoiler alert!:)  There's ultimately a happy/hopeful ending, but not without a lot of heartache and drama for both the main characters.  

"Peter West" contains some of the features that show up in many of DES's later novels -- a Scottish setting, some lovely landscape descriptions, loyal servants/retainers, villainous sisters, sympathetic clergymen, etc.  But overall, it's much darker, more melodramatic and less charming than some of her later books. There are also (to modern readers) a few cringeworthy word choices/phrases, particularly in the early chapters. Stevenson here is still very much an author finding her voice.  This was definitely not a favourite of many of our group members, but I am still glad we read it.   

I originally rated this book 2.5 stars on StoryGraph, rounded down to 2 stars on Goodreads. As I said then, it had its good points, it's interesting from the perspective of the author's development as a writer -- and it pains me to give a DES book such a low rating -- but ultimately I can't put it on quite the same level as other DES books I've read and rated at 3 stars. 

Those ratings still stand upon re-reading.   

This was Book #10 read to date in 2025 (and Book #3 finished in March), bringing me to 22% of my 2025 Goodreads Reading Challenge goal of 45 books. I am (for the moment, anyway...!) 1 book ahead of schedule to meet my goal.  :)  You can find reviews of all my books read to date in 2025 tagged as "2025 books." 

"I'm Sorry for My Loss" by Rebecca Little and Colleen Long

Free of pressing new book club obligations (for the time being...!), I FINALLY got around to diving into "I'm Sorry for My Loss: An Urgent Examination of Reproductive Care in America" by Rebecca Little and Colleen Long -- a book I've been chomping at the bit to read ever since I first heard about it last August. (I've previously written about it and/or linked to articles about it, here, here and here.) 

It was worth the wait. 

As the subtitle says, this is a (very thorough!) examination of all aspects of reproductive care in America right now. Little and Long are childhood friends who both became journalists and have both experienced multiple losses at various stages of pregnancy. (Both have other children.) They know whereof they write, and their camaraderie lends a nice touch to the book.  They also interviewed more than 100 other women who have lost pregnancies about their experiences, as well as many others who have expertise in the field. Just about every page of my e-book has a bookmark or passage highlighted (or both).  

There have been other books written about various aspects of pregnancy loss. What makes this one special is the scope, how all-encompassing it is.  It delves into all the many factors -- historical, political, legal, medical, cultural, etc. -- that contribute to making all types of reproductive loss such a painful experience, by marshalling facts, data, academic studies and personal stories. It spotlights best practices, innovative programs in place in some locations, and other ways to  help destigmatize pregnancy loss and help those going through it cope with their grief. (There's even a "what not to say/say this instead" appendix at the end titled "Did You Seriously Just Say That To Me?").  It's all leavened with occasional dashes of wry humour.  

The book also touches briefly on the experience of childlessness in chapter 13 ("The Stories We Tell")(yay!! -- although, curiously, without actually using the word "childless"?). Observes one interviewee, who tried to conceive for more than seven years, had a termination for medical reasons and then a miscarriage, and has decided not to continue trying for a biological child:  

"If you're not willing to go into crippling debt, if you're not willing to put yourself through and explore every single opportunity no matter the physical and emotional cost -- if you stop before you scorch your life to the ground -- you just didn't want it badly enough... I held a dead baby in my arms. I've been through failed transfers. How much more am I going to put myself through? Even if it was all free, I don't know that I could do it."  

Reading this book was both maddening -- and tremendously validating, at the same time (the final section in particular, which focuses on the lived experience of loss and how we make meaning out of it:  the stories we tell, talismans/keepsakes, and mourning rituals).  As the subtitle alludes, this is a book based in the specifically American experience of reproductive loss (including the impact of Roe v Wade and the Dobbs decision which overturned it, 50 years later) -- but there is undoubtedly plenty here that will resonate, no matter where you live.  My loss was almost 27 years ago now, and I've read a lot on this subject, so a lot of this was familiar territory.  Even so, I had a shock of recognition over one aspect of one woman's hospital story: it was very similar to my own, but in 27 years, I don't think I'd ever read or heard the same thing from another loss mom before! 

This is an important, timely (long overdue!) book that needs to be read -- WIDELY. By women, by men, by people who have been through pregnancy loss (although it might be difficult, depending where you are in your grief journey) and those who haven't, by medical professionals and others supporting those experiencing loss -- and most certainly by policymakers and politicians who are making decisions that affect the lives of women and their families. 

In other words, everyone should read this book. :)  

Bravo and thank you, Rebecca Little and Colleen Long. An enthusiastic 5 stars 

This was Book #9 read to date in 2025 (and Book #2 finished in March), bringing me to 20% of my 2025 Goodreads Reading Challenge goal of 45 books. I am (for the moment, anyway...!) on track to meet my goal.  :)  You can find reviews of all my books read to date in 2025 tagged as "2025 books." 

Can we get a break, universe?

Have you ever noticed that crappy stuff seems to happen all together, in quick succession? 

1998-99 was like that: I lost my baby, returned to work two months later, and two days later, my beloved grandfather died.  My grandma died almost a year to the day later, and about a week after THAT, my uncle (my dad's sister's husband) died suddenly, a few days after being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. My mom couldn't attend the funeral because she was in the hospital for a hysterectomy. 

This is turning out to be another one of "those" years: 

• A year ago on Friday, my mom's only sibling/my uncle passed away. 
• Since mid-January, Mom has lost three cousins, another cousin's husband, and a close friend/longtime coworker. 
• And then, on Friday morning, her church burned down. 
• AND there was a murder in her quiet little Minnesota hometown. 
• This morning was Bamberlamb's funeral in the UK. (I wrote about her passing -- on Valentine's Day -- here.)  A mutual friend who was there representing the Childless Collective said it was "a marvellous sendoff" and very well attended, standing room only, with lots of people dressed in purple, Bamberlamb's favourite colour. 
• Obviously I wasn't able to attend -- but I was wearing purple that day (as I know a few of you were too!) (See the photo below.)  
• Miss you, dear Bamberlamb. 💜
• This afternoon (as I was writing this post!), I found out I'd lost ANOTHER friend. In fact, she died right around the time of Bamberlamb's funeral -- a fellow loss mom from our old support group.  Her daughter posted the news on Facebook -- along with a pre-written final message from her mom.  
• I've known this woman for 20+ years, since she & her husband started coming to our support group after the loss of their son. Several of us became fast friends: we attended support group meetings and events together (the annual picnic & memorial butterfly release, holiday candlelighting service, autumn Walk to Remember), threw subsequent baby showers for each other, scrapbooked together and, for several years in a row, had an annual pre-Christmas dinner out together. 
• Her story is not mine to tell, but suffice to say -- as if losing a child wasn't crap enough to deal with -- she's faced one health challenge after another in recent years with incredible bravery and tenacity. 
• I hope she rests in peace, because if anyone ever deserved a good rest, it's her. :(  
• And, oh yeah, the U.S. elected a lunatic leader who has been trying to destroy/take over my country since taking office in mid-January. :(  Fun times (not)....

Shamrock earrings for St. Patrick's Day, 
but wearing purple for Bamberlamb. 

#MicroblogMondays: Letting go... bit by bit

I never collected a lot of things for Katie during my pregnancy with her (as I think I've mentioned here before). Things were tentative right from the start:  spotting all through the first trimester, an uncertain blood screening test and a troubling ultrasound, followed by amniocentisis -- and an almost THREE WEEK WAIT for the results. 

When the results came back "normal," in late July (1998), I finally felt like I could start shopping. But by then, shower plans were underway for the September long weekend, and I was instructed not to buy too much yet;  I was going to get a ton of stuff at the party. (Which was never held.)  

As a result, my mementos of that time have been few. They mostly fit in two plastic bins that sit in the spare bedroom/office closet, and a large hatbox on the upper shelf of our bedroom closet. (Plus a smaller, shoebox-sized plastic bin full of artificial flowers, hanging ornaments and other decorations, both seasonal and general, for Katie's niche at the cemetery.)  

At one time, I couldn't have imagined letting go of any of it... but over time, little by little, I have actually sent a few things off to the thrift store. I got rid of most of my pregnancy & infertility books years ago (I kept my copy of "What To Expect While You're Expecting" as a "souvenir"), and I finally let go of most of my maternity clothes when we downsized from a house to our condo, 9 (!) years ago now (18 years after they were last worn). I did keep the outfit I'd been wearing when I went to my ob-gyn's office for my six-month checkup that fateful day in August 1998, as well as two or three pretty dresses that I'd loved.  

And... in one of those two plastic bins, I kept the one major thing I did buy for our baby in that brief interval between the good news and the absolute worst: a Classic Pooh themed bedding set, including a comforter, fitted sheet, bumper pads (which aren't even used any more), bedskirt and window valance, as well as two rolls of a matching wallpaper border.  (We had to order the border, and it didn't arrive until after the funeral. I couldn't bring myself to open the box for about five years -- and I used to joke that it would be funny if I waited all that time, only to find out it was the wrong paper!)(It WAS the right one!)  

I guess I've been in a bit of a spring cleaning mood, because I recently combed through the my (overstuffed) closet and armoire recently and pulled out enough old or seldom-worn items of clothing to fill a large plastic garbage bag. And then I did something I'd been contemplating for a while. I decided I could (finally) part with the bedding set (almost 27 years after we bought it!). I asked dh what he thought, and he agreed it was time. 

It was still in the original Sears bag (note: Sears closed all its Canadian stores in 2017), inside that plastic bin in the spare bedroom/office closet. I took everything out of the bag, set aside the folder with the sales receipt inside to keep (we got everything on sale! $177 Canadian!!), and took a few photos before I put it all back into the bag and into the pile of stuff for the thrift store. We dropped it all off on Friday morning. 

I felt a little sad. 

But no tears were shed. 

The comforter -- still in its original packaging. 

You can find more of this week's #MicroblogMondays posts here. 

Odds & ends

• Today is FIVE YEARS (!) since the World Health Organization declared the covid-19 pandemic. You can read all my pandemic-related posts -- from the beginning to present day -- under the label "COVID-19 pandemic." (I've been re-reading some of my posts from those early days of March 2020... surreal...)  
• Lisa Sibbett at "The Auntie Bulletin" examines the classic movie musical "Mary Poppins" and the lessons it contains for aunties, in "The Moral of Mary Poppins." 
• My mom took my sister & me to see the movie when it (finally) came to the small town where we were living in Saskatchewan, in 1966. For Christmas that year, we got a record player, along with an LP of the movie soundtrack, as well as an album of Julie Andrews singing Christmas carols. (For my 6th birthday a few weeks later, I got "Herman's Hermits Greatest Hits Volume 2" -- which I still have!)  
• My high school drama club did "Mary Poppins" as our spring musical the year I was in Grade 11 (in the late 1970s). (Our music teacher wrote Disney to ask about the script and sheet music -- she got some music, but no script, and wound up writing her own, based on a Disney novelization of the movie for children. In hindsight, knowing Disney's firm copyright grip on its properties these days, I find this amazing. I guess they weren't quite as strict on these points back then...!) 
• I was cast as Mrs. Banks and, I am proud to report, got to sing "Sister Suffragettes." :)  (My feminist credentials have deep roots, lol.)  
• "Adoption and Fostering Are Not a Cure for Infertility:" Lisa Kissane shares her personal experience with fostering in "Life Without Children." 
• On International Women's Day, Jody Day of Gateway Women reminds us (on her Substack) that "It's International Women's Day... not International Mother's Day!"  
• Also on IWD:  the Toronto Star is featuring this story:  "Revenge of the ‘childless cat lady’: New research shows single women are the happiest people in the world."  (The research comes from the University of Toronto.) I realize that not ALL single women are happy about that status (and the article does nod to that), but it's an upbeat look at a subject that is so often mired in stereotypes. 
• Happily, the Star recently instituted gift articles for paid subscribers (of which I am one!) Enjoy! 
• Jessica Grose, who covers family, religion, education & culture issues for the New York Times, recently wrote in her newsletter about falling birth rates and how to create a more pro-child culture.  One of her key points:  that shaming childfree people is NOT the way to do it.  The article focuses on childfree people (vs childless), but I think it's worth a read.  ​(**CONTENT WARNING:  the article is illustrated with a photo of a baby.** )
• There are a couple of other items, including a bit of commentary about the pronatalist movement.  And, at the end, a part you may or may not want to skip, about a comedian whose new Netflix special is called "The Mother Lode."  
• Labels -- and how unsatisfactory they are -- is a topic that I know many of my CNBC peers grapple with, especially early in their journey. The third post I ever published here (in early November 2007) was on this subject:  "Am I childLESS or childFREE?"  It's also the topic of Y.L. Wolfe's latest Substack post too: "I Used to Call Myself Childless…But I've Realized I Might Be Childfree, Too."  
• Wolfe also muses on how her feelings on certain labels have changed over time -- and how, the older she gets, the more she resists being labelled by others. I can relate to that too.  

#MicroblogMondays: A shower (no umbrella)

A year ago on Valentine's Day, dh's cousin's son proposed to his girlfriend. It was carefully planned & staged at a Niagara-area winery, complete with a professional photographer capturing the moment and taking posed photos afterwards. 

The wedding will be in August this year.  I knew there would be a bridal shower, two or three months ahead of the big day itself, but I was still a little surprised when an invitation landed in my mailbox last week. (The shower isn't until late May, and the RSVP date isn't until late April, and it's only early/mid-March, but anyway...)  

Weddings are always sentimental occasions, but this one holds an extra layer of meaning for me.  The groom is 7 months older than Kate would have been;  I was newly pregnant and "out" about it at his mom's baby shower. I don't know how old the bride is, but I imagine she is more or less the same age as he is (and as Katie would have been). It's hard to comprehend that Katie would be 27 (!) this year -- likely done with her education by now, out & about in the working world, perhaps living on her own, perhaps also newly engaged or even married. She'd be older now than I was when I got married (I was 24).  

Generally, I enjoy weddings -- and I'm sure I'll wind up enjoying this one too, in the end (at least parts of it)  -- but needless to say, I'm (already) feeling an extra bit of angst when I think about it... 

You can find more of this week's #MicroblogMondays posts here. 

"The Siege of Krishnapur" by J.G. Farrell

"The Siege of Krishnapur" by J. G. Farrell -- winner of the 1973 Booker Prize -- is the first of four new "slow readalongs" being led by Simon Haisell at Footnotes and Tangents in 2025 -- all of them books beloved by the late great British author Hilary Mantel.  You may remember that I read Mantel's three books about Thomas Cromwell (as well as "War & Peace" by Leo Tolstoy) with F&T last year, and enjoyed the experience hugely! 

(Simon is repeating those readalongs from last year for paid subscribers too.  I regretfully decided I needed to focus my reading attention elsewhere this year, vs doing a re-read(s) with the group -- but I could not pass up the opportunity to explore some new (shorter! lol)  books under his guidance!)  

It's 1857 and, mysteriously, stacks of chapatis (a type of Indian flatbread) have been showing up in British communities all over India -- including on the desk of "The Collector," who oversees the isolated outpost at Krishnapur.  The Collector feels it's a sure sign that trouble is brewing, and rumours of strife begin to filter in from other British settlements -- of sepoys (Indian soldiers) in mutiny against their British overlords.  But the members of the colonial community remain confident of their military, social and moral superiority -- at least, until the siege begins...  

"The Siege of Krishnapur" is based on the true story of what happened in the city of Lucknow in 1857.  I knew some basic stuff about Britain's history in India, but aside from watching "The Jewel in the Crown" and reading the first book in the series it was based on (good grief, I just realized that was 40!! years ago now!!), I don't think I'd read any (certainly not many) books about it. I wasn't sure I was going to like this one -- but it didn't take me long to realize how wrong I'd been. As usual, Simon's weekly summary posts, including interesting "footnotes and tangents" of supplemental material, along with comments from the other readers, helped me to better understand and appreciate what we'd been reading. (The book also turned out to be funnier than the premise would suggest! -- notwithstanding the seriousness of the events it portrays and the themes it explores.)  

"The Siege of Krishnapur" is one of three volumes examining the decline of the British Empire. The other two include "Troubles," about the Easter 1916 rebellion in Ireland, and "The Singapore Grip," which takes place just before World War II.  They have been added to my reading list!  

3.5 stars on StoryGraph, rounded up to 4 on Goodreads.   

Our next F&T slow read will be "A Place of Greater Safety" (about the French Revolution) by Hilary Mantel, beginning May 5th and running for 20 weeks through the summer and early fall.   

This was Book #8 read to date in 2025 (and Book #1 finished in March), bringing me to 18% of my 2025 Goodreads Reading Challenge goal of 45 books. I am (for the moment, anyway...!) on track to meet my goal.  :)  You can find reviews of all my books read to date in 2025 tagged as "2025 books." 

#MicroblogMondays: Odds & ends

I'm afraid I haven't been very good lately about flagging interesting/relevant articles & posts that I've read to share with you all here. A couple recent ones of note:  

• Pronatalism much??  I remember thinking that when I read a few weeks ago about the U.S. Department of Transportation's new order to give funding priority to communities with “marriage and birth rates higher than the national average.” (!!)  I filed it away mentally to include as an item in a future blog post, and was reminded of it again when Lyz Lenz drew attention to it in a recent Substack post:  "Make America Isolated Again."  Have a read (but take your blood pressure medication first!)(joking/not joking). 
• Pronatalism much (part 2)??  As has been my habit since I was, oh, about 10 years old, I watched the Oscars on Sunday night (even though I'd only seen one of the nominated movies, "Conclave").  I mostly enjoyed the show, with one major exception. I hear "A Real Pain" is really great, and that Kieran Culkin deserved the Best Supporting Actor statuette he won -- but did anyone else cringe when he called out his wife in his acceptance speech and reminded her that she now "owes" (!) him not just one but TWO MORE KIDS?? (!!) Ugh...
• I've been enjoying Lisa Sibbett's Substack, "The Auntie Bulletin." A recent post outlined her strategic plan for 2025 & beyond. Worth a read, and lots to look forward to! 
• Friendship issues are huge for those of us living without the children we wanted: navigating the inevitable changes that happen when all our friends are having babies (and then grandchildren...!), how to make new friends when your old friends seem to abandon you for other mothers, etc.  This Substack post by Hailey Caulfield of "The Waiting Room" addresses some of these issues: "The space between us: Friendship, change, and the unspoken grief of growing apart." 
• Life coach & podcast host Lana Manikowski also has a Substack: "Childless. So Now What?" Most of the posts I've read to date are short but very much on the mark. From a recent post, "Never Be the Same":  
  

People love to say, “Everything happens for a reason,” but I found no comfort in those words. The truth is, some things just happen. Some dreams don’t come true. And sometimes, life takes a turn we never saw coming. But does that mean we’re destined to live a mediocre life? To settle for a version of ourselves that feels lesser than?

No. Absolutely not.

• Glynnis MacNicol (who is childfree by choice and wrote the wonderful memoir "No One Tells You This" -- reviewed here) revisits the 1978 Jill Clayburgh movie "An Unmarried Woman" in this Substack post.  (I remember seeing it, years ago, albeit not a lot about it, other than that it was really good.  I'd love to see it again although, as MacNicol points out, that's sadly easier said than done.) Says MacNicol: 

One of the reasons I keep returning to it, is that it’s one of the rare films, or television series, that allows a woman a happy ending that doesn’t involve marriage or a child. Another is that it’s a near perfect film. Jill Clayburgh’s performance is one of the best.

(FYI, Clayburgh's character does have a daughter in the movie. Also of note: she was nominated for an Oscar for the role, but lost to Jane Fonda in "Coming Home.")   

On another note, you'll be seeing fewer gift-linked articles from the Washington Post from me in the future.  I recently cancelled my longtime digital subscription to the paper. I've been meaning to do so ever since the publisher killed an editorial endorsing Kamala Harris before the election. Several other things have happened since then to reinforce that decision, including the departure of several writers I respected, and the publisher's decision to kill an editorial cartoon. 

I thought I'd wait until closer to when my current subscription rolled over in May to unsub (any cancellation on my part would not kick in until then) -- but the straw that broke the camel's back was the resignation of the editorial page editor, after the publisher announced a new direction for that section, one that would advocate “personal liberties and free markets” -- but not publish opposing viewpoints on those topics. 

It made me sad (for one thing, it was a very cheap subscription -- if/when I ever wanted to subscribe again, I could wind up paying up to 10 times more!). There are still some writers there I enjoy reading, and I love their Friday books newsletter.  I grew up worshipping Bob Woodward & Carl Bernstein from the Watergate era;  I read Katharine Graham's memoir, "Personal History," years ago (a great read!), which only increased my admiration for her.  I'm sure she would be rolling over in her grave if she knew what's happened. :(  

You can find more of this week's #MicroblogMondays posts here.

Right now

Right now...* 

*(an occasional (mostly monthly) meme, alternating from time to time with "The Current"). (Explanation of how this started & my inspirations in my first "Right now" post, here. Also my first "The Current" post, here.)

February was (like January) grey, chilly -- and snowy. The first week of February hadn't even ended, and dh & I were admitting to each other that we'd already had enough of winter!  Mother Nature, of course, always gets the last laugh.  We had about 60 cm of snow -- about 2 feet! -- in the space of one week, mid-month -- more than we had all of last winter, and the most we've had in several years!  It's taken forever to get everyone dug out -- and we've had more snow since then too!    

It was also a pretty dark month, in terms of current North American & world events.  :(  

Pandemic diary/update: February was month #59 (marking almost FIVE full years, going on SIX!) since the covid pandemic began in March 2020. :(   We (still!) remain covid-free (so far as we know... knocking wood, loudly...).  We still mask in stores, malls and (most) other such indoor public spaces hereabouts, especially if/when there are lots of people around. (Well, I do -- I know dh does not, when I'm not around to hand him a mask...!)  

Among other things we did this month, we: 

• (I) Appeared on the Full Stop podcast (along with the lovely Sandra McNicol) to talk about pregnancy loss & childlessness!  (The episode was actually recorded in late January, but I didn't want to post about it here until it was "live" -- which was on Feb. 2nd.)  
• Went to the nearby mall to do some walking and shopping (then returned home for lunch) on Feb. 4th, 11th, 18th & 25th. 
• Made a trip to the bookstore (mostly to shop for Valentine stuff for the great-niblings, as well as some cards), with a stop at the drugstore en route home (Feb. 6th). 
• Picked up SIL & drove up to see Older Nephew & family for the afternoon, including the baby (Feb. 9th). (BIL was in NYC with friends to watch the Super Bowl!)  
• Stopped at Canadian Tire for a few things (it's more than just tires!) en route home from the mall, and then at the drugstore to pick up dh's prescriptions (Feb. 11th). 
• Went out for brunch on Valentine's Day (Feb. 14th -- first meal in a restaurant with just the two of us in quite a while! -- see "Eating," below), followed by a stop at the bank, a browse at the bookstore, and a stop at the supermarket (which -- Friday, Valentine's Day, long weekend, etc. -- was an absolute NUTHOUSE!).   
• Stopped at the supermarket to pick up a few groceries and some takeout soup for lunch, en route home from the mall (Feb. 18th & 25th). 
• Went to BIL's on Saturday, Feb. 22nd:  Older Nephew & his wife were going out for an early dinner & asked his parents if they'd look after the kids -- and they called us to come over. Enjoyed spending time with both Little Great-Nephews! (I even got to hold LGN #2 for almost an hour!)  
• Went to a nearby community centre to vote in the Ontario provincial election on Feb. 27th, and then to the supermarket to pick up some takeout soup for lunch.  

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Also right now:  

Reading: I finished 4 books in February (all reviewed on this blog, as well as Goodreads & StoryGraph, & tagged "2025 books"):  

• "The Mad Woman's Ball" by Victoria Mas -- the March book for my Childless Collective Nomo Book Club. (3-3.5 stars; my review.) 
• "The Mermaid of Black Conch" by Monique Roffey, the April selection for my Childless Collective Nomo Book Club. (4 -4.5 stars; my review.) 
• "Intermezzo" by Sally Rooney, the current book for the Culture Study (Europe) online book club. (The story of how I came to join yet ANOTHER book club is included in my review, here. 4 stars.)  
• "The Wedding People" by Alison Espach. (4-4.5 stars; my review.) 

This brings me to 7 books read in 2025 to date, 16% of my 2025 Goodreads Reading Challenge goal of 45 books. I am (for the moment, anyway...!) on track to meet my goal.  :) 

Current reads: 

• "The Siege of Krishnapur" by J. G. Farrell -- the first new Footnotes and Tangents slow readalong for 2025, which started Jan. 13th, for 9 weeks, ending in March. Currently 75% completed. 
• "Peter West" by D.E. Stevenson -- the one DES book my group has NOT read together, in its 25+ years of existence! I read this in advance of our group read, which began Jan. 13th and runs through late March. Currently 70% completed. I'll count this one as a re-read when we're done. (2-2.5 stars; my review.)  
• "Anne of Windy Poplars" by L.M. Montgomery (called "Anne of Windy Willows" in the U.K., with some text variations). My L.M. Montgomery Readathon Facebook group started reading & discussing this book together today (Jan. 6th). This will be our last book with our wonderful administrator of the past five (!) years, Andrea, who is moving on to other projects. I just (re)read this one right at this time last year, so I chose not to read it through (again) on my own first (as I normally would), but I will count this one as a re-read when we're done. (My previous review here.) Currently 39% completed. 
• "Living the Life Unexpected" by Jody Day.  I'm once again taking part in a chapter-by-chapter group read of this CNBC classic!  The most recent Zoom meeting covered Chapter 7.  This is the 5th (!) time I've read this book, or the earlier version of it ("Rocking the Life Unexpected").  (Most recent review, with links to earlier reviews, here.)  
• "L.M. Montgomery and Gender," an essay collection edited by E. Holly Pike & Laura Robinson. Slowly working my way through, in between the other books...! 

Coming up: Most of my book groups have their next reads plotted out for a few months in advance -- and listing them here helps me keep track of what I should be reading next. ;)  

• For my Childless Collective Nomo Book Club:  Books for May and onward to be determined. 
• For my D.E. Stevenson group:  This list of upcoming books should keep us busy through 2025 or even into early 2026!  (A couple of the books are ones we covered shortly after I first joined the group back in 2014 -- you know you've been around for a while when....!)  
• Miss Buncle Married (original 2015 review here). Starting in March/April. 
• The Two Mrs. Abbotts (original 2015 review here).
• Crooked Adam
• The Four Graces (original 2015 review here). 

• Footnotes and Tangents slow readalongs planned for 2025 include:
• "A Place of Greater Safety" by Hilary Mantel -- starts May 5th, for 20 weeks. 
• "Things Fall Apart" by Chinua Achebe -- starts Sept. 29th, for 5 weeks. 
• "The Blue Flower" by Penelope Fitzgerald -- starts Nov. 3rd, for 7 weeks. 

(Simon is a big fan of the late great Hilary Mantel, and the other books he's selected were all ones that she loved, so he figured they would probably be worth reading!) 

• Culture Study (Europe): next book TBA. 

A few recently purchased titles (all in digital format, mostly discounted ($5-10 or less) or purchased with points):  

• "The Right Kind of White" by Garrett Bucks 
• "The Frozen River" by Ariel Lawhon 
• "Brothers" by Alex Van Halen 
• "A Nation Worth Ranting About" by Rick Mercer 
• "Saturday Night" by Doug Hill & Jeff Weingrad 
• "Who Could Ever Love You" by Mary L. Trump 

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Watching: 

• Way too much CNN and CBC News Network!!  :p  (Trying to pare back, for the sake of my mental health...!) 
• A new season of "Finding Your Roots" on PBS. 
• Figure skating: Bits of the European and Four Continents championships. (Worlds coming up in March!)  
• A Ken Burns two-part documentary about Thomas Jefferson on PBS, first shown in 1997 but recently digitally restored. 
• The "Saturday Night Live" 50th anniversary special on Feb. 16th (all 3.5 hours of it!!), which I wrote about here.  (Also the SNL music documentary produced by Questlove,  which was shown on TV in late January.) 
• The Oscar-nominated movie "Conclave," starring Ralph Fiennes & Stanley Tucci, on Amazon Prime, while at BIL's on Feb. 22nd (waiting for the kids to arrive!). Excellent performances all round -- and the setting!!  

Not watching: The Canada/US matchups at the Four Nations Cup (a new international all-stars tournament) -- and especially the final game on Feb. 20th, which went into overtime (!). Given the current political environment, this game had huge emotional significance for my country (even more so than a hockey championship game usually does -- which is always a lot! lol), with national pride on the line. 

I couldn't watch -- just too much tension and anxiety -- but when my phone started dinging with notifications, I knew the game was over. Canada won! and dh & I rushed over to the TV set to see who had scored the winning goal -- or, as I said to him, "Who was Paul Henderson this time??"  (Answer:  Connor McDavid!)  (And if you don't get the Paul Henderson reference, Google "Canada Russia Summit Series 1972" -- he's responsible for one of the greatest moments in Canadian sports history.)  

Listening: 

Playing:  

• Heardle Decades: Stats as of Feb. 28th: 
• Heardle 60s: 76.3% (650/852, 253 on first guess), down 0.4% from last month. Max. streak: 15.
• Heardle 70s: 77.8% (459/590, 258 on first guess), up 0.2% from last month. Max. streak: 18. 
• Heardle 80s: 38.7% (170/463, 67 on first guess), down 0.9% from last month. Max. streak: 4. 
• Heardle 90s: 29.7% (168/566, 34 on first guess), up 0.4% from last month. Max. streak: 5. 
• NYT Connections:  
• By Jan. 31st, I'd completed 187 games and won 80% of them, including 107 "perfect puzzles" with zero errors. I increased my maximum winning streak from 15 to 21 (and counting!).  :)   
• By Feb. 28th, I'd completed 215 games and won 81% of them, including 78 "perfect puzzles" with zero errors. I maintained my maximum winning streak of 15.  :) 

Following:  

Eating/Drinking:  

• Late in January, we achieved our goal of lowering our cholesterol levels after less-than-stellar bloodwork last fall earned us both serious chats with our doctor. (We'll be doing more bloodwork later in the year to check again.)  Since then, we've continued our efforts to eat healthier -- reduce our portion sizes, cut back on fatty & processed foods (fewer casseroles, more chicken and beans/lentils), eat more fruits, vegetables and fibre, snack less (and make better snacking choices), and be at least a little more active. 
• Since then, I've yo-yo'd a bit, but ended the month another 1.2 pounds lighter.  I'm down more than 9 pounds since our chat with the doctor last October, and 21.6 pounds from my heaviest-ever weight a few years ago. 
• We went out for brunch on Valentine's Day -- less crowded and a whole lot cheaper than going out for dinner! We don't eat out too often these days, so this was a treat! (We both had omelettes -- a western for him, ham & cheese for me -- and the waitress brought us a complimentary mini-pancake shaped like a heart, warm off the griddle, dusted with icing sugar and a couple of cinnamon hearts).  
• Some notable recent takeout meals: a rotisserie chicken from the supermarket (with baked potatos & veggies, made at home) -- lots of leftovers for another dinner plus sandwiches!; soup and pizza slices from the supermarket takeout counter.

Wearing:  Same as last month:  Long-sleeved tops (and sometimes a cardigan over that), yoga pants, socks AND slippers, inside the house.  

Buying (besides books, lol):  

• More Canadian products (as are many of my fellow citizens), in light of the threats a certain U.S. politician (cough!) has been making against my country recently.  :(  
• Valentine and Easter goodies (already collecting those!) for the great-niblings, as well as birthday presents for Little Great-Niece.  :)  
• A couple of sweaters at AE, on sale.  
• Some more masks from a supplier than Turia recommended to me during the pandemic, during a recent sale. (I particularly like these ones.) 

Enjoying:  Reading more books again this month (and some really good ones too)! 

Appreciating:  My country, now more than ever.  :)  

Trying: To reconcile myself to another 4-5 years of our provincial government, which won (another) majority in our recent election. (Sigh.)  

Noticing:  Although there was a provincial election campaign going on, there were barely any signs on people's lawns or street corners (maybe because there was so much snow??). I saw a few posts on social media from people who noticed the same. Some people were complaining they hadn't received their voting cards in the mail before election day (although you don't actually need them to vote;  you just bring ID to the polls), and others said they hadn't had anyone knock on their doors.  I'm not sure if it was the weather or the snap election/tight timeframe or...?? 

Turnout was, sadly, abysmal. :(   

Prioritizing: Buying Canadian, wherever & whenever possible. (See "Buying," above.) (Although the tariffs Trump seems determined to slap on us aren't slated to kick in until March 4th now.)  

Wondering:  If & when my to-do list is ever going to get shorter...! 

Wanting:  Someone to tell me it's all going to be okay. (Unfortunately, I know nobody can truthfully tell me that.)  

Loving:  Seeing the weekly photos that Older Nephew's wife has been posting of Little Great-Nephew #2 every Friday. (He just turned 10 weeks old yesterday!)  Always a day brightener!  :)  

Feeling: Like winter is never going to end...!  Apprehensive about the state of the world right now. :(  (Very!) Happy that we're going to see the nephews and their families this weekend for Little Great-Niece's birthday party.  :)