Annoying things: The Goodreads edition

• I was recently updating my Goodreads feed... I had several books that I started reading some time ago & haven't yet finished. I decided to create a new shelf (called "I'll get back to it someday," lol) and move those books from "reading" over there. The only problem being I wasn't entirely sure of what I was doing, and somehow one of those books wound up marked "read" and added as a book completed for my reading challenge. ARGH.  I thought I had corrected it, but I looked at Goodreads again on the weekend, and nope, there it was again. Hopefully it's now fixed. (I know, first world problems...!)  
• I enjoy Goodreads for the most part, but it can be frustrating sometimes. When I first joined in 2011, I was thinking of it specifically as a way to track the books I'd read... but when I first signed up, they asked me to rate a whole bunch of books (had I read & if so, how many stars?) as a way of providing me with better recommendations. Fine... but I was supremely annoyed when those showed up in my feed as "read in 2011" ...and I wasn't sure whether or how I could change the dates. (I'm not sure you actually could do that back then.)  I didn't add any books for a couple of years after that until I had time to sit down & figure out better how the site worked, and could ensure the books I added were a true representation of what I'd read during the year!    
• (Not annoying, but Goodreads-related.) I've started going back through the book review posts I've written here on my blog and adding an edited version of them to Goodreads -- something I've been meaning to do for quite a while now. (I've taken part in the Goodreads Reading Challenge since 2016, and I've been logging & giving stars to all my books since then, but not full reviews.)  All of my books for 2016 through 2019 year-to-date now have reviews,and I've started adding in the books I read & reviewed from 2013 through 2015.  
• Annoying thing:  I have to ensure I set the (approximate) dates read & finished, so these older books don't show up in my current year reading total. It IS editable, thankfully!  
• However, the view of my "books read," especially on the phone app vs website on laptop, still shows the most recent books added vs the most recent books actually read, which drives me NUTS.  (Yes, I am that OCD, lol...) 
• Also, I have to remember to unclick the "add to my feed" box when I write a new review for an old book, so that I don't flood my Goodreads friends' feeds with updates from 4-6 years ago...! 
• Not annoying:  Someone "liked" one of my reviews, which was nice. :)

Do you keep track of the books you read (on Goodreads or elsewhere)? Do you ever write reviews (on Goodreads, Amazon, your blog...?)?  

On a related note:  I have a friend who has a "Bookstagram" account -- an Instagram account specifically about the books she's reading. (Here's an article explaining Bookstagram, for the uninitiated.) She's been busy taking photos & writing reviews of the books she's been reading for Goodreads, taking part in challenges & giveaways and requesting -- and receiving -- ARCs (Advance Reader Copies).  It looks like fun -- but also a lot of work, lol. And while I wouldn't mind getting the inside edge on ARCs for a couple of authors I like, for the most part, my to-be-read pile is too big right now as it is...! 

#MicroblogMondays: Annoying things

• The friend of my mother's who asks, every single time I post a photo on Facebook of Older Nephew's dog, when we're getting one of our own. Honestly, I find it almost as annoying as when we were constantly asked when we were going to have a baby. :p  (I wrote about this subject previously, here.)  I managed to bite my cybertongue & responded that we're happy just spoiling this little guy -- and that besides, he's going to need some extra TLC once his new human brother arrives in November. ;) 
• Speaking of which:  Aunt Loribeth's latest purchase, lol (how could I resist??).
• The back I moaned about throwing out two weeks ago is somewhat better, but still not 100%. :p  My left knee is (still) giving me grief (it's become chronic), and my left big toe is sore after an enthusiastic pedicurist attempted to remedy the slightly ingrown nail. :p  I have been slathering it with polysporin to try to ward off infection. :p  Aren't I waaaayyyyy too young to be feeling so decrepit?? 
• We are soooooo tired of the roadwork in front of our condo (which has been going on pretty much since we moved here 3.5 years ago, & will continue until at least the end of this year).  It's a busy major thoroughfare, and traffic is down to one lane in either direction. (Not to mention all the dust, noise, pylons...) 
• The parking lot/traffic loop behind the building is also a mess. The interlock brick was never properly set, and it's now being replaced with asphalt. Everything's been dug up but no asphalt yet... 
• Freezing up at a family party this weekend when several of the women started talking about their fertility treatments. Although dh & I long suspected/understood through family gossip that several of his cousins/cousins' wives had also been infertility patients, this was the first time I'd heard any of them openly talking about it. But by the time I screwed up my courage to say something about my own experiences, the conversation had moved on. 
• Most annoying of all: At least two of them said their children were conceived AFTER they stopped treatments (including one woman whose two children were conceived naturally when she was 43 & 45!!).  I am happy for them that they got their families in the end -- but of course, wondering how *I*  got to be the only one in the family who missed out??

You can find more of this week's #MicroblogMondays posts here. 

"People survive in different ways"

Actually found this on Instagram via Jody Day & Gateway Women (thank you!).  :)
The grass may LOOK greener elsewhere, but looks can be deceiving... 

"I Love Dick" by Chris Kraus

"I Love Dick" by Chris Kraus is the Gateway Women book club pick for August (we'll be discussing it at the end of the month).

Yes, I know -- that title!! (lol)  I thanked the gods/goddesses that I'm no longer commuting on public transit (lol again), with my reading choices visible to all the other passengers -- but even so, I opted for an e-book version. ;) That said, it's not as pornographic as the title sounds ;)  -- although I'm sure the sexual connotations are one reason why the author chose to use the name (& use the name in the title ;)  ) and there is sex in the story.

The story focuses on Chris, a failing filmmaker from New Zealand who is turning 40 and bored with her sexless marriage to Sylvere, an  older (56) college professor. Visiting California in December 1994, the couple have dinner with Sylvere's old friend -- the Dick of the title -- and Chris falls instantly, inexplicably and obsessively in love with him. Sylvere also becomes obsessed with her obsession. Over the next few years, Chris (≈, to  some extent, Sylvere too) pursues/stalks Dick through phone calls, answering machine messages, meetings and rambling letters, which make up the bulk of the book, and which they view as a kind of art project (!). Along the way, she gains a new sense of herself -- which is, I suppose, why some call this a "feminist cult classic." (Also, the whole role-reversal thing, in which the woman pursues the man and the man plays hard to get.)  Perhaps the most famous line of the book, which I think I had heard/read elsewhere before, is "“Who gets to speak and why?...is the only question.”

This is one of those books I would probably not have picked up myself if it weren't for the book club -- and I'll be honest, it was a slog to make it to the end. If it weren't for the book club, I probably would have abandoned it. Chris's observations on men, women, love, art and self were sometimes interesting and thought-provoking (there were long tangents dealing with certain artists, the theory of cultural criticism, schizophrenia & other topics)... but there wasn't enough to maintain my interest the whole way through.

It currently has an average rating of 3.57 stars on Goodreads, and some rave reviews. (See this ecstatic 2015 article from the Guardian, which does make some good points about why the book might appeal to readers, and women in particular.) As for me... meh. I gave it 2 stars, which is about the lowest rating I've given yet on Goodreads. YMMV.  I will be interested to learn what the others thought of it!

Note: There's an afterword in which I was stunned to realize that most (if not all) of this book is true, and actually happened!!  I kind of figured Kraus had made herself the main character (since the main character/narrator's name is "Chris Kraus"), and I recognized some real-life names that she drops along the way -- but Sylvere is real, Dick is real (& apparently threatened legal action over the publication of this book).  Some of the content has been fictionalized, but still...!

I understand this book was recently adapted for television/video viewing by Amazon, with Kevin Bacon as Dick (!), Griffin Dunne as Sylvere and Kathryn Hahn as Chris.  Has anyone seen it?

This is book #29 that I have read in 2019 to date, bringing me to 121% (!) of my 2019 Goodreads Reading Challenge goal of 24 books.  I have completed my challenge for the year -- currently five (5) books beyond my  goal -- and I have surpassed my reading total for 2018 by 2 books.  :)

#MicroblogMondays: Tips for better reading

Have any of you read any books by Gretchen Rubin?  Her first and probably best-known book is "The Happiness Project," which I started reading some years ago but haven't finished. She's also the author of (among other volumes) "The Four Tendencies," which examines how people respond to inner and outer expectations according to their personality type: Upholder, Questioner, Obliger and Rebel.

I haven't read that book either (yet?), but I have done the quiz on her website and determined that I am a classic Obliger ( = people pleaser). Obligers "meet outer expectations, but struggle to meet the inner expectations they impose on themselves."

This week on her blog, Gretchen talked about the Four Tendencies in terms of reading, and helping us to read more. According to Gretchen:

Obligers need outer accountability to meet inner expectations. Crucial! To read more, join a book group. Tell your children you're going to read the books assigned in their classes, so you can discuss the books as a family. Use the library, so you have to finish a book to return it by its due date. Use the Goodreads Reading Challenge to challenge yourself in public to read a certain number of books in a year.

I had to laugh, because -- the "tell your children" suggestion aside, obviously -- I am doing just about all of these things.  And I've already reached my Goodreads Reading Challenge total for the year, so I guess I'm doing something right.  Read Gretchen's blog to find the reading tips for your own personality type!

In a similar vein, the New York Times is also offering a seven-day program of tips on how to be a better reader. Follow the link to sign up for the emails!

Here's a post from last year where I offered my own thoughts on what helps me read more books.

You can find more of this week's #MicroblogMondays posts here. 

#MicroblogMondays: Signs I'm getting older

• I threw my back out a few days ago (& despite warm showers, Robax, heating pads, arnica & essential oil rubs, it's still not back to normal). :p 
• My left knee has been giving me grief for several years now. 
• Dh & I yell "What?" "WHAT?? I CAN'T HEAR YOU!" to each other from separate rooms. ;)  
• It's been a while since I had a decent night's sleep. :p  
• I still carry cash (& use it for most purchases under about $30). 
• We still have (& use) a landline. 
• I gave my vinyl collection to our nephew, but I still buy & listen to music on CDs and radio vs digital/streaming. 
• I wear sensible shoes and won't even look at anything with a heel more than an inch high, even for dressy wear. 
• I'm seeing styles in the stores that I wore when I was in high school, 40+ years ago. 
• Another one of my high school classmates passed away recently. :( 
• My friends are all becoming grandmothers. 
• If we're not talking about children/grandchildren, we're talking about our aging parents and what to do with them (if we're still lucky enough to have them). 

You can find more of this week's #MicroblogMondays posts here. 

"Freedom Day," 5 years later

(I wrote this post on July 22nd, while I was on vacation... and forgot about it, in my drafts folder. I'm posting it now, because it still says something I wanted to say, albeit belated. Also, it's 33 years ago today that I joined the company! -- = I got let go just short of my 28th anniversary there.)

Five years ago today, I lost my job.

It's a blow to the ego (not to mention the pocketbook) to find out you're not wanted anymore, that all your years of loyal service and accumulated institutional knowledge weren't enough. (What STILL irks me is that I rearranged my vacation plans that summer, specifically at my boss's request, and took my holidays earlier in July, instead of later (as usual), because my colleague was heading off on maternity leave in early August "and we're going to need you then." I returned to work on Monday, and lost my job on Tuesday. I am sure the plans for this mass downsizing -- five of us from the same department lost our jobs that day -- were in the works well before I went on vacation.  My pregnant colleague actually gave birth, slightly prematurely, that same day the job cuts came down. She kept her job and is one of the few people from my department who is still there.)

For a long time afterward, any time that I was downtown and walking through the underground PATH concourse linking all the major office towers, I would take great pains & circuitous routes to avoid walking through the concourse of the building where I'd worked for more than 25 years. I just didn't want to run into anyone I had known, or endure the awkward conversation that would follow (not unlike the days, weeks & months after I returned to work, following Katie's stillbirth).

These days, I don't bother avoiding my former workplace (although I don't make a point of going there either). I don't worry running into people I know there anymore -- mostly because I realized that so many of them are gone too -- after further rounds of staffing reductions, reorganizations and just plain attrition & retirements over the past five years.

When she heard my news, my sister -- who had lost HER job some years previously (when the bank she worked for shut down her entire unit and transferred all the jobs to Calgary & Edmonton) -- assured me, "There will come a day when you too will celebrate ______bank Freedom Day."

That day has come. ;)

I miss (some of) the people I worked with. I miss being downtown, sometimes. (And yes, I'm still somewhat pissed off, sometimes.)  But I don't miss the stress of work, or working, or commuting. And while childlessness is not something I actively chose, early retirement would likely not have been possible, had we had children we were still feeding, clothing and educating.

These past five years of early retirement have gone by quickly. There have been a lot of changes in my life since then. I'm fast approaching (BIG GULP) 60.  We haven't travelled as much as I'd hoped we would (yet?!). 

But so far, so good. :)